I am attending a destination wedding very soon and I am going alone b/c FH couldnt get off of work. Its so sad to say and Im sure many can relate I am so broke right now. After hotel...airfare and $450 BM gown (in the bridal party) Im not sure what is appropriate to give for a gift. I was going to give $300 but now that I am going alone and its destination what do you think???
Jaysgirl119
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I am having a destination wedding and we are not expecting any gifts for our wedding. Our guests begin there is our gift. We are getting married in Mexico I am not sure where your wedding is. HTH
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Fh's cousin is getting married this summer in Jamaica. Were not going cause it's 3 weeks after our wedding and will be just getting home and everything. But were still probably gonna send them something probably $200 or so. If you were gonna give $300 with your FH I would give $150 then. I know they will know not to expect alot cause of all the expenses and all of a destination wedding.
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I would have loved to have a destination wedding..I would have felt the same way about gifts. But this particular person does not have that outlook on things and I know it. I dont want her to be insulted.
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You spending all that money is a gift in itself. And they would have to understand that you also have to pay for your own wedding.
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Posted by Bride908
I would have loved to have a destination wedding..I would have felt the same way about gifts. But this particular person does not have that outlook on things and I know it. I dont want her to be insulted.
So they are expecting gifts from people even tho they are going to the wedding?
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imo $150 is a nice gift considering all the other things that you had to pay for.
Bride908
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Without a doubt...and whatever I give Im sure I can expect back at my own
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Without a doubt...and whatever I give Im sure I can expect back at my own
That is unreasonable.
I read somewhere that if the bride and groom are footing a big chunk of the personal expenses for a destination wedding, then you would give a normal gift. If they expect everyone to pay for everything, I would probably give an actual gift and have it sent to their house, or give a smaller monetary gift.
FH's brother is having a destination wedding too, and we tried telling his fiance this, but she is under the impression that she will receive the same gifts as us at our wedding. . . we'll see.
But you def aren't expected to give the same kind of gift you would in NY. I think $150 is a nice gift.
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i agree $150 is a great gift. you've already spent a fortune. Either way, she should be thankful for what she gets.
Bride908
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Honestly I think most people will feel like I do...I said yes and I should deal with the expense of it. I dont think its fair that Im spending a ton to go to hers but I guess it bothers me that she will give the same in return
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went to a destination wedding with FH and even though the trip cost us over $2500 we still gave the bride and groom a gift of $300. we're not rich, but thats what we gave them since they hosted everyone for the fours days.
Bride908
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But would you have given less if you were going alone and not with FH?
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I have read to that if the bride and groom are not hosting any part of your trip then a gift is should not be expected . My friend is thinking about planning a destination wedding..She is under full assumption that there will be no gifts. Since they cannot afford to help with the hotel they will throw a dinner before the wedding and then the gift to them is coming to the wedding...
If you want to give 100 or 150 i think that is more than generous...
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our wedding might be considered a 'destination wedding' for some because a lot of our friends are scattered across the country, and FH's entire family is OOT. I hope people still give us gifts
however, i'll understand if they don't give as much..
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our wedding might be considered a 'destination wedding' for some because a lot of our friends are scattered across the country, and FH's entire family is OOT. I hope people still give us gifts
however, i'll understand if they don't give as much..
Its different. You're not asking people to go away so you can get married on a beach, people are coming to where you live to see you get married.
I'm glad I'm not the only one that heard that about not giving a gift if you already paid all the expenses to travel and attend the wedding. . .
Is this couple paying for your hotel or dinners while you are there?
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i still can't get over the $450 for a BM dress!!!!! never mind a gift! you should give them a bill!!!
give what you can and don't give above your means. you're contributing enough already.
Bride908
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Not paying for anything except the RD...
Bride908
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dont get me started....lol
MrsHtobe
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Not paying for anything except the RD...
Then $150 is more than generous. I'm stopping before I get someone mad lol.
