DH just hung up on me.

Dh has been having ALOT of health issues lately. Now on top of everything his blood pressure has been VERY high...we are talking 170/120 for more than a day at a time. Last night, he was awake with chest pains & flat out REFUSED to go to the hospital saying he 'thought' it was heartburn. I called the doctor this morning and made him an appointment. I called him to tell him and he flat out refused to go. I got nasty...yes I admit it. I want him to be seen. I think it's putting himself in jeopardy not to. I am so besides myself that he is still going through all this. He hung up on me. I know I shouldn't have gotten nasty or upset with him over the phone but I am so afraid of losing him. And yes, I have explained it to him a thousand times over. He is just being so stubborn.
Thanks for listening...it's all just so upsetting.

i'm so sorry ...

i hope he realizes what he's doing and goes to the dr ...

I would have called and made an appointment for my dh too. Maybe he is just scared to go to the doctor. Hope everything works out

I am so sorry!

I hope he comes to his senses and goes to the Dr.

why are men so damn stubborn!!

DH's been having the same problems- right down to the chest pains. I feel your pain. I hope he realizes that you're trying to help him.

Okay coming from someone who went through dating my DH while he had MAJOR health issues as well I can tell you I know EXACTLY where you are coming from.

I always did the same thing. When DH was in his car accident everytime he twitched I swore he was having a seizure and everytime I fell asleep I feared he wouldn't be alive when I work up. Seriously I know what you are going through and it's a HORRIBLE HORRIBLE FEELING!! I did the same thing I would make appointment after appointment for him, and 99% of the time I could convince him to go.

Once in a while though he would HAVE ENOUGH! He would flip out and tell me he is fine and refuse to go. I would cry and freak that something terrible was going to happen, and it could have but it didn't. I realize now that it was just DH's way of taking control of his own life. He was so dependant on me (and my mom) that at times he had to just stand up for himself. Even if it wasn't the smartest move. He knew how he was feeling inside both physically and mentally and no matter how hard I try I will never completely understand that.

Please don't take this the wrong way I know you are doing this out of love and concern as I was, but when DH got like this I took it as a clue to back-off a little and let him say when he felt it was necessary to go to the DR. and he always did speak up when he felt it was necessary. It took me a long time to kinda break that 'motherly' (for lack of a better term) bond of wanting him to be perfect and healthy. Eventually I did and thank God he is alright. He still gives me a hard time about going to Dr.'s but again when he knows it's time to go... he always does and I trust he will tell me when this time comes.

Again it took a long time to understand this... if you wanna chat I'm here for ya. Like I said I know exactly how you are feeling... hang in there (sorry so long)

Thank you everyone...AND Thank you, Shauna...you did help put things in better perspective.

People are so stubbon when it comes to the doctors. Don't worry about the nastyness though. My mom was really REALLY sick on a trip we took to Mexico several years ago and I was yelling at her like the gastapo (sp?) to drink gatorade and at least eat fruit. Good thing I did b/c when we got back to the states (4 days later) I brought her straight to the ER against her will. She was going into kidney failure. Now we joke about it lol.

When it comes to people's health you can only be nice for so long.

so sorry Meliss!!!!!

I'm so sorry...its such a tough situation you're in. We just found out DH has high blood pressure to (even higher than your DHs) and I REALLY got worried. Sometimes when we're upset we end up showing it as angry. Just keep supporting him. It's a scary place to be in, but as long as he knows you're there for him that always helps.

i'm sorry you are going through this!

he needs to see a doctor before something goes terribly wrong!!!

I hope he goes to the doctor!

You did the absolute right thing for him. He needs to see the doctor. He is probably just very scared and trying to play things down to ease his own anxiety. Hang in there.