Did you invite guests to your RD? Where are my etiquette gurus?

We have a few people in our BP who are dating people off/on and then we have a few others who are in brand new relationships. Should I invite those people with their SO?

I feel like it has to be all or nothing but we have a huge guest list for the RD ( I swear it never ends!) and my other friends have been dating guys for years so how could I not invite them? I know some of their SO longer than I've known FH!

Also, did you invite grandparents to your RD?

And one more: My junior BM is my goddaughter/cousin. She's 13. Do I have to invite my aunt, uncle and her 2 brothers or can I just send her the invite and she can come with other family members?

i am dealing with similar questions!


well i just think of it this way - i have always been invited with FH to the RD and I would really prefer to have him there if i have to go

I am inviting all spouses/ significant others to the RD

we invited the grandparents- i think this is a must. . . we are also getting them small gifts so we need them there anyway!

my Jr BM is 12 and I THINK I will not be inviting her parents, she can come with her sister who is a BM

I actually had an issue with this b/c my FSIL wasplanning the RD for her father and didnt want to invite the groomsmen's dates b/c none of them were in any serious relationships.

but...yes. we invited all guests of our BP ... only because they were all staying at the hotel with us ( they came in from NJ.) It would be rude otherwise. Turned out only one of the 4 friends in my husbands BP brought a date.

If the RD is local I guess you could get away with not inviting guests, but I always assumed you did. The way I see it-- the bridal party usually has to spend a lot of time and money on your wedding, so I wanted to give BACK to them in some way...

We invited my uncle & aunt and their 2 kids to come with my cousin (my JR Bridesmaid) again-- only b/c they had to travel over 1/2 hour to the dinner the night before the wedding.. also, im very close to that family and we didnt want her brother & sister to get jealous. But I dont think it would be rude to just invite one parent.

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Posted by carolinep24

The way I see it-- the bridal party usually has to spend a lot of time and money on your wedding, so I wanted to give BACK to them in some way...

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See, in the craziness of all of this, I'm forgetting the point of the dinner, so thank you for reminding me of that. You are totally right.