I am getting mixed reviews on this. My FH and I did all the reception hall looking, and my mom was pretty hurt that she wasn't involved more. I took her back to a few places after we went to a bunch initially. I am hearing that many people go with their mom's initially and then bring back the FH and Dad's. My FH was adamant about being involved in the whole process. What was the right thing to have done? I am feeling guilty now that I didn't include my mom more, especially since she was upset by it. I thought she being ridiculous since it's 'our' wedding, but i'm not sure what to think. Help!!!
NPbride
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I went with my mom and FI. I took Mom 'cause she always thinks of a question that I didn't or notices little things that I wouldn't.
Kosta's Kitty
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DH and I went alone. We are paying for the wedding and our parents really weren't interested in tagging along. Besides, they have no say in what we choose anyway.
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We did a mix. We went to the first few just FI & I but then I went to a few with either my mom or dad. After 3 places my FI wanted to stay home so my mom & I could go & he could see the final picks
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I went to every hall, about 15, with my mom and then took DH to 2 halls. My parents paid for the reception, but that had nothing to do with why I took my mom. First of all, my DH wasn't into wedding planning and pretty much left it to me. At times it was annoying, but at least I got pretty much everything I wanted. Second of all, my mom is my best friend and I wanted to do this with her. If DH had been interested in going to all of the halls, I probably would have gone with my mom and DH. My dad saw the hall when he went in to give the deposit. My ILs didn't see the hall until the wedding day. I asked them if they wanted to see it, but they said they wanted to wait until the wedding day.
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i went with fh, but looking back on it, i wish i had brought my mom and dad before we 'officially' decided to book...
they were so upset with me (well at least my mom was) for making this decision without her even though i knew she'd been to my hall before and loved it!
but either way, don't worry about it...i've tried to include her in everything else, and i think she just kinda got used to me being able to do things without her!
it'll all workout for the best...no worries
Summer Bride
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I went with my FH.
littlebookworm4
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I went looking with my MOH and one of my BM and then when I narrowed it down to 2 my FI came
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FH-I looked through websites, got the ones that were in the area and in budget. Then my FH and i went to the ones I chose. The second we walked in to the SMCC, we both said 'this is it'.
ditto. we didn't even go to any other halls. we took our parents with us when we left the deposit.
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we went together (FH and I) after we booked, I brought my Dad (mom passed away) to see the place. I'm bringing my sister when I make the next payment. But ultimately I thought FH and I should pick it out together.
If your mother is paying I think she should have been included. But if not, you did still bring her afterward anyway.
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I never went without JT, but most of the time, my mom was there too.
LaurenluvsTJ
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I am having the same issue. I didn't realize my mom would want to come but she said something to me this week. FH thinks she is trying to control things, but my parents are paying for the reception. I think that FH and will go first and when we narrow it down we will bring my parents before booking. My mom will be involved in lots of the other things for sure, like dress shopping, flowers, etc
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my mom would have driven me insane that's why my girls came with me
