Did you, or do you plan to, give a speech at your own wedding and if so...

kpny622 Posted: Jun 08, 2004 12:54 PM

Did you, or do you plan to, give a speech at your own wedding and if so...

what did you say? I'd like to thank my parents for all that they did, thank the guest for coming, etc., but some people are saying that it's not appropriate. Thoughts?

nferrandi Posted: Jun 08, 2004 01:03 PM

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It's appropriate if that's what you want to do. I know that I'm too emotional to make a speech on my wedding day, but I will be making one at the RD, which I'm sure I will cry through the whole thing. LOL!

tourist Posted: Jun 08, 2004 01:03 PM

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Edited, b/c -oops- i was thinking you meant at the shower.
I have heard that it is appropriate , but not neccessary to speak at your own wedding, usually beofre the cake- I have seen several couples do that. Just keep it brief.

And don't toast to yourself- that may be what people are thinking of when they say it is inappropriate.

AnnBrunoXO Posted: Jun 08, 2004 01:04 PM

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Thats what we did! Why wouldn't it be appropriate?

We kept it short and sweet ! We thanked our parents for all their help and support and thanked everyone for coming (we had lots of people that traveled overseas to be at our wedding - and that meant alot to us)!

We even said a few words in italian - because many didn't speak English, it was perfect

KathleenG Posted: Jun 08, 2004 01:38 PM

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I have thought about it but more than likely, I will be making one at the RD instead!!!

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Jun 08, 2004 01:43 PM

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we didnt make a speech i was too busy having a great time. we spoke personally to all of the guests and thanked them for coming

Janine24 Posted: Jun 08, 2004 08:06 PM

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I think we will say something at the RD...

otherwise a speech at the wedding will turn on the waterworks for me...

lvdolphins Posted: Jun 08, 2004 08:23 PM

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We went around and personally thanked everyone for coming. On our video we said our 'speech' thank you's to our parents!

RedHead Posted: Jun 08, 2004 08:32 PM

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Posted by Janine24

I think we will say something at the RD...

otherwise a speech at the wedding will turn on the waterworks for me...

me too!

G&D Posted: Jun 09, 2004 08:40 AM

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I was also thinking about making a short speech...thanking everyone for coming but I will also cry through the whole thing! I like the idea of walking around to everyone and thanking each one personally.

jill13bean Posted: Jun 09, 2004 08:42 AM

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i doubt we will but if we do it will be in additikon to peronally thanking everyone individually

i think it is a bit rude whne the bride and groom don't come around
this happened at one wedding i went to and everyone was talking about it

jannshari Posted: Jun 09, 2004 08:58 AM

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I can't possibly imagine that it's ever inappropriate to thank your guests and those who helped to make your wedding all that you dreamt it would be, unless you simply skip going around and saying hi to all of your guests.

I am having a very small wedding, so I think we (most likely me, because FH is not very good at stuff like that) will make a toast to our guests for being there for us separately and together as the most important people in our lives.

Stavia Posted: Jun 09, 2004 10:58 AM

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I made a speech at our wedding. It was not in place of going around thanking people personally, because trust me I did that w/ everyone, but more as a way to recognize specific individuals & thank people by groups so to speak. It was important for me to do this & I know not one of my guests were offended.