Went dress shopping on vacation this week and saw the BM dress that I LOVE (http://www.dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/D416/) in a store and lucky me i was with my MOH and her sister (another BM). The colors were the opposite of what i want (I want a Midnight dress with Ivory accents not the other way around which is how the dress was in the store and in all the ads). So my girls tried it on and I could tell my MOH didn't love it. she then said she liked another dress in the same line better, tried it on and it looked good but it didn't have the same look that i wanted with semi-sash that tied in a bow in the back. (http://www.dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/D420/). and i hate the tie in the front and would tie it in the back.
Now, my MOH got married like 2 and a half months ago, I was her MOH and hers was almost entirely DIY (dress included). Her and I will have very very different weddings which is fine and understandable. But at the same time i feel like its a little strange for me to say i LOVE this dress, and how excited i am to see it (by chance!) with them both and have her tell me she likes something else better. And shes been disappointing (like saying how much she wants to go dress shopping but never actually taking the time off to go to the stores with us no matter how many different appointments I make and making comments when she thinks i'm spending too much telling me its all a matter of 'style') when it comes to all my wedding stuff. But she is my best friend, has been since we were 14 and I know how she is but i expected more.
So my question is - do I have her wear the dress she likes even though i love the other dress (and so does her sister, FH's sister and mom)? are any of you girls having your MOH wear a completely different dress than the rest of the girls (as in not just the full length version of the dress the rest of the BMs are wearing? I'm just not sure how I feel about it. on the one hand I want her to be happy and I'm not sure really what difference it makes but on the other, I'm really disappointed she doesn't like it and made that clear.
sorry i needed to vent...anything you girls could offer I'd really appreciate....i posted pics in my album of the girls in the dresses.
GR2010
Posted:
Member since
Re: Different dress for MOH?
I'm having my MOH wear the same dress as everyone else.. The color under the lace bodice will be different but everything else is the same...
I think it looks perfectly fine if the MOH has a different dress but have it be one you like... I agree with you on not loving the dress your MOH picked out... it's a very different look from the one the rest of your girls will be wearing. Maybe the two of you can compromise on a different one. It's very nice of you to want her to like the dress she's wearing but you have to like it too... It is your wedding and you have to be happy with the details.
