dilemma... need suggestions, please.

recently i've been a little in a funk because something about my wedding was bothering me that i couldn't pinpoint... i finally figured out what it is. i originally was gonna have a destination wedding because i loved the idea of having everyone together for an extended period of time. but that plan fell through for a myriad of reasons... though i love what my wedding is going to be now, i am really still looking for it to have sort of a 'weekend wedding' feel. my problem is that i can't find ANY nice, quaint place for my guests to stay. there is danford's, but i'm just not crazy about port jeff.

does anyone know of any inns or nice bed and breakfasts where at least family and close friends can spend the weekend together? i wouldn't even mind having to drive a while to get to the vanderbilt - i would just splurge for a big coach bus to take my guests to and from.

anyone?

Re: dilemma... need suggestions, please.

Can I respectfully disagree. Locale, I think is much less important than where you actually are. Planning activities and just having everyone around to spend more time with than just at the wedding is the special part. We are also doing the wedding weekend and have people stay all over -- it is more that we are planning activites and events and giving them welcome gifts. Alternately, do any of the mansions, like Oheka, or Harrison House provide the answer -- lots of rooms with an intimate environment??

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Maybe 3 village inn in stonybrook?

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Posted by DebMaher

Can I respectfully disagree. Locale, I think is much less important than where you actually are. Planning activities and just having everyone around to spend more time with than just at the wedding is the special part. We are also doing the wedding weekend and have people stay all over -- it is more that we are planning activites and events and giving them welcome gifts. Alternately, do any of the mansions, like Oheka, or Harrison House provide the answer -- lots of rooms with an intimate environment??

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I completely agree. Plan a bunch of activities for your guests, and get all of your stuff done beforehand so you can join them. We did stuff the day before the wedding, the night of the wedding (since it was an afternoon reception) and the day after the reception. We spent SOOO much time with our guests. I wouldn't have had it any other way!

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Posted by DebMaher

Can I respectfully disagree. Locale, I think is much less important than where you actually are. Planning activities and just having everyone around to spend more time with than just at the wedding is the special part. We are also doing the wedding weekend and have people stay all over -- it is more that we are planning activites and events and giving them welcome gifts. Alternately, do any of the mansions, like Oheka, or Harrison House provide the answer -- lots of rooms with an intimate environment??

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hi deb,
i'm confused - what do you disagree about? i definitely want to plan activities and events - that's why i want a place that everyone can stay at. i'm just having trouble finding that place...
am i not making sense?

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Posted by Summer05

Maybe 3 village inn in stonybrook?

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i actually checked it out, and it's very cute, except that it completely closes down relatively early in the night. so it wouldn't be a good place for people to hang out after the wedding... thanks for the suggestion, though!

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Oh, no Alex -- I thought you meant that you wanted everyone at a single location and my point was that you will have the wedding weekend feel with or without everyone at one place.

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Look into B&Bs in the area. Here is a link to one of the websites out there:

B&B Website

What helped us with having a 'wedding weekend' was that we had our rehearsal dinner early on the Friday before our wedding, from 3pm to 6pm. What sound strange at the time, ended up being great. Everyone went out after the dinner to a bar, actually Old Town Bar on East 18th in NYC, and people were able to relax and enjoy themselves.

I think Ireneinchicago had her rehearsal dinner at Danforths and a brunch there the next day. I don't think she's gotten back from her honeymoon yet, but send her a FM and see what her experience was like.

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Posted by DebMaher

Oh, no Alex -- I thought you meant that you wanted everyone at a single location and my point was that you will have the wedding weekend feel with or without everyone at one place.

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oh, i get it now forgive me, i'm a little slow. i definitely agree - it's the activities that make for the feel of a weekend wedding, not necessarily having everyone stay at one place. but i am still seeking a 'home base' of sorts, since people will be coming from all over...

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Posted by bellepoque

Look into B&Bs in the area. Here is a link to one of the websites out there:

B&B Website

What helped us with having a 'wedding weekend' was that we had our rehearsal dinner early on the Friday before our wedding, from 3pm to 6pm. What sound strange at the time, ended up being great. Everyone went out after the dinner to a bar, actually Old Town Bar on East 18th in NYC, and people were able to relax and enjoy themselves.

I think Ireneinchicago had her rehearsal dinner at Danforths and a brunch there the next day. I don't think she's gotten back from her honeymoon yet, but send her a FM and see what her experience was like.

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thanks - that website is great!!!!

sounds like you had such a nice evening before your wedding! so did you stay in nyc until saturday? i suppose we could do that, though much of fh's family already bought plane tickets into islip for friday, so they may be annoyed of course, that's never stopped me before

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Posted by TwoBugs

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Posted by DebMaher

Can I respectfully disagree. Locale, I think is much less important than where you actually are. Planning activities and just having everyone around to spend more time with than just at the wedding is the special part. We are also doing the wedding weekend and have people stay all over -- it is more that we are planning activites and events and giving them welcome gifts. Alternately, do any of the mansions, like Oheka, or Harrison House provide the answer -- lots of rooms with an intimate environment??

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I completely agree. Plan a bunch of activities for your guests, and get all of your stuff done beforehand so you can join them. We did stuff the day before the wedding, the night of the wedding (since it was an afternoon reception) and the day after the reception. We spent SOOO much time with our guests. I wouldn't have had it any other way!

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I agree too. This is what we are planning to do. We want to have activities planned all weekend, and also suggest places to go incase they don't want to participate in the group activity. You can plan a brunch or an outing to the wineries.

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What about the Inn at East wind?

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Posted by soon2bmrs2004

What about the Inn at East wind?

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hmmm... haven't thought of that. i will look into it, thank you!!

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The inn at east wind is nice, and they have a pub there which is fun for the night

You might even consider doing a hotel type place like the windham windwatch - the guys could play golf, girls get massages and they aslo have pubs on site...
Oheka has a similiar set up also and I think Fox Hollow too.

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Posted by Summer05

Maybe 3 village inn in stonybrook?

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This was going to be my recommendation