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I feel like getting married shows a whole different side of people...and I have learned so much myself. I wouldnt change anything for the things Ive learned down the road

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I have come to believe that wedding planning is one big lesson in disappointment. Its unfortunate, but like you said it goes the other way too...a lot of people exceed your expectations. Its hard not to be disappointed though....

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I know what you mean.. other than FH and 2 BMs I feel like no one else really cares all that much. My mom thinks I spend too much time worrying about things and says I'll be disappointed when the wedding is over. But for the most part I feel like I am doing things pretty much myself. While Im pretty much fine with that, because I'll freak if something isnt done the way I want , but Its totally stressing me out.

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I guess now is the time when you know who truly means a lot to you.

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i know how you feel - sometimes my mother make me really upset when it comes to the wedding bc she acts like coming to NY is such an inconveinence for her and its like she is constantly giving me a guilt trip about it and telling me how the trip is making her nervous and she is so nervous she cant even think about it - its really aggravating and annoying and i really have a big fear that my mother and sister are going to go at it on my wedding day while we are all getting ready - and i feel like they will not only embarrass me but upset me - FH is really worried that its going to happen - my sister is very immature (she is also only 16) and her and my mom are constantly butting heads - my mom can be very mean and impatient and my sister is overly sensitive and they are both self absorbed sometimes and both just full of drama....besides that nobody else really has upset me - i just know that on the day of the wedding i will be so excited and happy to see FH - i thank god that we are seeing eachother before the ceremony

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Posted by bluegreen08

this whole wedding thing is really taking a toll on me...

i'm really disappointed in a lot of people.

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OMG me tooo. I was hysterical crying last night for almost 2 hours. I went home from work sick and I was throwing up all night. I just feel so alone, like everythings on my shoulders. I keep hearing from everyone 'I'm here for anything you need' but then when I ask for help they are no where to be found. On top of that my grandfather is very ill and we dont even know if he's going to make it to the wedding. I feel like I want to cry 24/7. Well I'm here for you

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I know exactly how you feel! throughout the planning process, I really have found out who my 'true friends' are.

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what happened? what can we do? seriously...

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Posted by bluegreen08


a few people (like my parents and one friend) have exceeded my expectations though, so it helps balance things out a little....

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That's all that matters then...try and focus on those who aren't disappointing you. I don't blame you though. I've kind of been feeling the same way, and I have a feeling it's just going to get worse once I start dealing with the invitations.

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aww i am so sorry hunny!!! I know the feeling... people you think would be right by ur side suddenly dissappear!

If you need anything FM me

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I'm so sorry you are feeling this way.

You are such a thoughtful person from what I know of you via this website, and I just don't know how anyone could be hurtful to you. People surprise me every day, sometimes in good ways but mostly in bad, and that's a shame.

Like Jess said, please tell us what we can do. And remember that those people in your life that exceed your expectations are the ones that matter. I know it hurts to realize that someone you thought was really on your side isn't - I do. But having people who will always be on your side - like your parents, the friend you mentioned, your FH and US - soften the blow.

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Uggh... I know how you feel, I don't even know if these people honestly realize what they are doing. I sometimes literally feel sick from all the stress people cause.

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its hard when other people let you down. i think the hardest part is the shock that someone close to you isnt happy for you and sharing in your joy.

i know how you feel. you just have to take pride in the people who ARE happy for you and who show it. dont let others bring down your happiness

feel better

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sorry you feel so disappointed, we are all here for you!!!!!

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I think through out the whole wedding experience we will be disappointed by alot of things and people. You have to do whatever you can for yourself to make you happy don't look fr it from others or you will always be disappointed

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Posted by bluegreen08

this whole wedding thing is really taking a toll on me...

i'm really disappointed in a lot of people.

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OMG me tooo. I was hysterical crying last night for almost 2 hours. I went home from work sick and I was throwing up all night. I just feel so alone, like everythings on my shoulders. I keep hearing from everyone 'I'm here for anything you need' but then when I ask for help they are no where to be found. On top of that my grandfather is very ill and we dont even know if he's going to make it to the wedding. I feel like I want to cry 24/7. Well I'm here for you

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i'm so sorry youre going through this. maybe you should talk to your FH or your parents about how much this is all affecting you. i think you sound a little too overwhelmed, to the point where youre getting sick. please FM me if you would like to talk to someone

feel better

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I think it happens to everyone i've been disappointed in ALOT of people as well =[