Discouraged...

FH and I knew we wanted fun, relaxation, good food, warmth, etc. for our HM. We talked to Tom and he was very helpful but I was literally sick worrying about where to go and we took a break. FH priced 3 resorts Tom recommended with his company's TA and here I am, sick again....

I don't LOVE anywhere...I don't want to go broke...I need a vacation...and a good one....I deserve it after this year...

I'm so discouraged/stressed/sad...I don't think we'll ever find a place we love and can afford....

I 100% understand how you feel right now....I'm in the same boat with you I just don't know where to go. There are so many GORGEOUS places but I don't want to have to spend a gazillion dollars on our HM Sooo confusing!!!!

I am soo sorry Colleen. I was in between Hawaii and St. Lucia for our HM. And I was driving myself crazy thinking of which one would be better.

But I figured to go to Hawaii we can stay in regular hotels and go there on our 1 year anniversary trip or something for cheaper than a HM to St. Lucia. Since St. Lucia we can get those great rooms with butler service pools. etc.

But I think you should make a list as to what yuo want in a honeymoon and where you would want to go like actual country place wise...not Sandals, Couples Swept Away etc.

I mean like pros and cons of going on a cruise, going to Italy, going to Jamacia thats what I did it helped a little

But what places did stand out to you ???

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Posted by dancinmyazoff

I 100% understand how you feel right now....I'm in the same boat with you I just don't know where to go. There are so many GORGEOUS places but I don't want to have to spend a gazillion dollars on our HM Sooo confusing!!!!

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It *****...

I loved Royal Hideaway...it's out of our range since winter is a pricey travel time...I was like 'eh' with Excellence...we can afford that but I don't love it...no where close to loving it...I loved El Dorado Royale but heard you get treated like crap if you're not in a casita, which we can't afford....

at this point it's been so stressful I now hate all three places and want to quit...I'm so sad/frustrated!!!!!

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Posted by cbcf

I am soo sorry Colleen. I was in between Hawaii and St. Lucia for our HM. And I was driving myself crazy thinking of which one would be better.

But I figured to go to Hawaii we can stay in regular hotels and go there on our 1 year anniversary trip or something for cheaper than a HM to St. Lucia. Since St. Lucia we can get those great rooms with butler service pools. etc.

But I think you should make a list as to what yuo want in a honeymoon and where you would want to go like actual country place wise...not Sandals, Couples Swept Away etc.

I mean like pros and cons of going on a cruise, going to Italy, going to Jamacia thats what I did it helped a little

But what places did stand out to you ???

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I want to go to Mexico or Hawaii...but we would want an all inclusive so it's most likely Mexico...I just don't love anywhere. I am ready to just give in so it's done...I'm that frustrated.

Colleen I have to admit and not just because I am going there but seeing from past brides going...

St Lucia Sandals resorts look like a lot of fun. They have all the water sports included but extra excursions. Like the rainforest with Ziplining and Horse Back riding or Other wonderful excursions. And it is all inclusive and I heard some great resturants and St. Lucia is definitely a gorgeous beach

Or Sandals in Antigua. FBIL and his wife went their on their HM....great Scuba place and htey said it was wondderful...and they even added more rooms which I heard are gorgeous...

We chose to go all out b/c its a one time thing....
I say (IMO) Splurge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! on your dream place if you can.

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Posted by cbcf

Colleen I have to admit and not just because I am going there but seeing from past brides going...

St Lucia Sandals resorts look like a lot of fun. They have all the water sports included but extra excursions. Like the rainforest with Ziplining and Horse Back riding or Other wonderful excursions. And it is all inclusive and I heard some great resturants and St. Lucia is definitely a gorgeous beach

Or Sandals in Antigua. FBIL and his wife went their on their HM....great Scuba place and htey said it was wondderful...and they even added more rooms which I heard are gorgeous...

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FH is really against Sandals...he's a food freak and heard it's not AS GREAT as some other resorts...soooooooooo, the search continues....they looked good to me though!

I know what you mean - everyone always asks us 'Where are you going on your HM?' and we have no idea! I want to go someplace beautiful and not spend a million dollars either. It's definitely a tough decision, but you and your FH will find something! Good luck

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Posted by dancinmyazoff

I 100% understand how you feel right now....I'm in the same boat with you I just don't know where to go. There are so many GORGEOUS places but I don't want to have to spend a gazillion dollars on our HM Sooo confusing!!!!

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It *****...

I loved Royal Hideaway...it's out of our range since winter is a pricey travel time...I was like 'eh' with Excellence...we can afford that but I don't love it...no where close to loving it...I loved El Dorado Royale but heard you get treated like crap if you're not in a casita, which we can't afford....

at this point it's been so stressful I now hate all three places and want to quit...I'm so sad/frustrated!!!!!

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OOO I wanted to go to Royal Hideaway I was dead set on it. But Sept is hurricane season and I didnt want to risk my honeymoon...so we went with FH's suggestion- St. Lucia.

I know how yuo feel some places I was just not happy with and I wasnt happy with Sandals at first but definitely after researchingit and stuff i did love it

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Posted by Mizzdimple

We chose to go all out b/c its a one time thing....
I say (IMO) Splurge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! on your dream place if you can.

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We're paying for this all ourselves...I am not comfortable taking money from my mom now that she's on her own with a huge house, etc. so I really can't go too wild..

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Posted by cbcf

Colleen I have to admit and not just because I am going there but seeing from past brides going...

St Lucia Sandals resorts look like a lot of fun. They have all the water sports included but extra excursions. Like the rainforest with Ziplining and Horse Back riding or Other wonderful excursions. And it is all inclusive and I heard some great resturants and St. Lucia is definitely a gorgeous beach

Or Sandals in Antigua. FBIL and his wife went their on their HM....great Scuba place and htey said it was wondderful...and they even added more rooms which I heard are gorgeous...

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FH is really against Sandals...he's a food freak and heard it's not AS GREAT as some other resorts...soooooooooo, the search continues....they looked good to me though!

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haha its a good thing my FH will eat ANYTHING then

I understand it is soo hard choosing where to go. I kinda in the end left it up to FH.

i definitly understand all taht you are goign through now...

i too woudl suggest a list of your places.. and what you like and dont like for EACH place...

add the price. so u can judge what you can add for more what you cant.. etc.

im sorry this is makign u so sad.. but it will all fall into place... take a break for a week or a few days if possible also.. make a list and sleep on it.

hope this helps.

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Posted by cbcf

Colleen I have to admit and not just because I am going there but seeing from past brides going...

St Lucia Sandals resorts look like a lot of fun. They have all the water sports included but extra excursions. Like the rainforest with Ziplining and Horse Back riding or Other wonderful excursions. And it is all inclusive and I heard some great resturants and St. Lucia is definitely a gorgeous beach

Or Sandals in Antigua. FBIL and his wife went their on their HM....great Scuba place and htey said it was wondderful...and they even added more rooms which I heard are gorgeous...

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FH is really against Sandals...he's a food freak and heard it's not AS GREAT as some other resorts...soooooooooo, the search continues....they looked good to me though!

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haha its a good thing my FH will eat ANYTHING then

I understand it is soo hard choosing where to go. I kinda in the end left it up to FH.

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I tried that...it lasted 5 min...

I'm cheap, picky and a control freak...

I guess I'm lucky he loves me...I'm terrible!

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Posted by futuremrsmultari

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Posted by Mizzdimple

We chose to go all out b/c its a one time thing....
I say (IMO) Splurge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! on your dream place if you can.

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We're paying for this all ourselves...I am not comfortable taking money from my mom now that she's on her own with a huge house, etc. so I really can't go too wild..

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I totally understand!

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Posted by futuremrsmultari

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by futuremrsmultari

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Posted by cbcf

Colleen I have to admit and not just because I am going there but seeing from past brides going...

St Lucia Sandals resorts look like a lot of fun. They have all the water sports included but extra excursions. Like the rainforest with Ziplining and Horse Back riding or Other wonderful excursions. And it is all inclusive and I heard some great resturants and St. Lucia is definitely a gorgeous beach

Or Sandals in Antigua. FBIL and his wife went their on their HM....great Scuba place and htey said it was wondderful...and they even added more rooms which I heard are gorgeous...

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FH is really against Sandals...he's a food freak and heard it's not AS GREAT as some other resorts...soooooooooo, the search continues....they looked good to me though!

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haha its a good thing my FH will eat ANYTHING then

I understand it is soo hard choosing where to go. I kinda in the end left it up to FH.

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I tried that...it lasted 5 min...

I'm cheap, picky and a control freak...

I guess I'm lucky he loves me...I'm terrible!

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yeah that is the only planning i left up to FH. I showed him my centerpiece idea...the one you helped me out with and he was like ehh and I said well we are propably doing it anyway lolol i was mean

What about taking a short trip after the wedding and doing a bigger trip at another time???

That's what we're doing. We're going to Vegas for a few nights and in May doing our HM since its a better and less expensive time.

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Posted by cbcf

Colleen I have to admit and not just because I am going there but seeing from past brides going...

St Lucia Sandals resorts look like a lot of fun. They have all the water sports included but extra excursions. Like the rainforest with Ziplining and Horse Back riding or Other wonderful excursions. And it is all inclusive and I heard some great resturants and St. Lucia is definitely a gorgeous beach

Or Sandals in Antigua. FBIL and his wife went their on their HM....great Scuba place and htey said it was wondderful...and they even added more rooms which I heard are gorgeous...

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FH is really against Sandals...he's a food freak and heard it's not AS GREAT as some other resorts...soooooooooo, the search continues....they looked good to me though!

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haha its a good thing my FH will eat ANYTHING then

I understand it is soo hard choosing where to go. I kinda in the end left it up to FH.

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I tried that...it lasted 5 min...

I'm cheap, picky and a control freak...

I guess I'm lucky he loves me...I'm terrible!

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yeah that is the only planning i left up to FH. I showed him my centerpiece idea...the one you helped me out with and he was like ehh and I said well we are propably doing it anyway lolol i was mean

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you tell him!!!

I think one of the problems is we put so much energy in wanting this whole experienc eto be 'perect', but in reality....

Anyhoo i was doing the same thing, finally took on the mentallity of what id do just going a nice vaca w/o the honeymoon title strapped to it, and i think we found a great place for the price.... i kind of want this whole wedding thing to just be over, lol its causing me atleast, alot of anxiety and unnecessary stress, sometimes i think we should have just eloped....

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Posted by Teamhurldon

I think one of the problems is we put so much energy in wanting this whole experienc eto be 'perect', but in reality....

Anyhoo i was doing the same thing, finally took on the mentallity of what id do just going a nice vaca w/o the honeymoon title strapped to it, and i think we found a great place for the price.... i kind of want this whole wedding thing to just be over, lol its causing me atleast, alot of anxiety and unnecessary stress, sometimes i think we should have just eloped....

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Aww, ...I'm sorry to hear that.

I haven't been stressed with anything BUT the HM...and the turn of events this year both emotionally and financially have wrecked me...I need a break and I want the HM to be GREAT...I need it to be...I need to relax and feel somewhat sane again...I guess that's why this is soooooo hard....