Divorced parents/Step-parent issues (long)

Thank you everyone who gave great advice and information about marrying during Lent. My next dilemma involves my parents. They divorced when I was nine - a very ugly, messy divorce - and the impetus for the divorce was that my dad was having an affair with the woman who is now my step-mother. My dad and I have had a rocky relationship, mostly because I feel he treated my mom so horribly. My mom and I have also had our troubles but my step-mother I have to say has always been pretty good to me, and we have a warm relationship, despite how it all began. My concern is that I want to honor all three of them, but I want my mom to be especially honored. I thought about having both my mom and dad walk me down the aisle, and have my step mother do a reading, or walk down the aisle by myself and have just my mom do a reading, but I feel like in any situation I can think of someone will be hurt.

Divorced parents/Step-parent issues (long)

I think your idea is great. You stepmother will understand having your parents walk u down and I think she would be honored if u had her do a reading. I would make sure she got a corsage too but I wouldnt make it as fancy as the one for your mom. Best of luck! Jen

I agree with Jennyb

Since you have a good relationship with your stepmother, she will understand if you want your parents to walk you down the aisle. Having her do a reading will be a special way to honor your stepmother. Good luck!!

I agree with Jennyb

Here is another way to honor your Mom in addition to your original idea. Ask the church if your Mom and your fiance's Mom can light the candles then hand them to you to light the unity candle.

I agree with Jennyb

thank you all! I alike the unity candle idea too - we were thinking of not having one but it's a good idea just to get my mom and my fiancees mom more involved.