Do I ask her to be a BM

july06bride Posted: May 26, 2005 10:13 AM

Do I ask her to be a BM

I have been engaged since Dec. My MOH and 2 BMs have been asked along with a JR BM and FG.

I have been thinking about having another friend be a BM. She is getting married this year and I am not in her BP but she has lots of sisters and sister in laws...friends from home... etc

She is a friend from college, and she knows that the other two friends from college were asked to be in BP.

Should I ask her, even though she knows the others were asked already or just leave it as is and maybe have her do something else like a reading?

WOuld you feel slighted because you werent asked at the same time as the others?

JCMsGirl05 Posted: May 26, 2005 10:16 AM

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I think you she is a good friend and you want her involved, it wouldn't mater when you ask her as long as the other girls didn't order their dresses already.

ChrissynRicky Posted: May 26, 2005 10:19 AM

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Most impt question: Do you want her to be a BM b/c it's impt to you, or do you want her to be a BM b/c it's convenient that she's friends w/the other BM's and you feel bad excluding her?

pinkstar025 Posted: May 26, 2005 10:39 AM

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i think you feel guilty...don't... i would jsut leave it as is MPO

july06bride Posted: May 26, 2005 12:54 PM

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no i dont feel guilty or pressured to do... i am not in hers and its not that she knows the others- i feel more guilty that i didnt ask her when i should have with the other girls... no we didnt order dresses yet

cindyandkevin Posted: May 26, 2005 01:35 PM

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I would ask her then, it doesn't matter when. And if she asks about it tell her you weren't sure if she would want to so you hesitated. It's a reasonable enough answer, then take it from there.

july06bride Posted: May 26, 2005 03:31 PM

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Thanks- I want to, just didnt want to make her feel bad- I actually could say something about not wanting to stress her out with more decisions,since her wedding is coming...which is basically true