do u agree with this? that ur man should love u more then u love him??

being i m single...every1 gives me advice 24/7...and i have heard that statement from soo many pple... make sure ur man loves u more then u love him,. then he wont leave you, cheat on you, he'll take care of u...blah blah...

i cant imagine thinking that way--like i thought u were supposed to love each other equally...

can any1 shed some light with opinions on this

If it isn't equal...then it isn't really love, right? There will always be an unequal relationship which is headed for disaster.

In a true loving relationship, your love will be unmeasurable. No need to try and think who loves who more...it won't be possible.

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Posted by DMAG

If it isn't equal...then it isn't really love, right? There will always be an unequal relationship which is headed for disaster.

In a true loving relationship, your love will be unmeasurable. No need to try and think who loves who more...it won't be possible.

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actually I dont beleive that statement 100%. I have seen relationships where one person clearly loves the other more but has up walls due to circumstances tha they have encountered inthier life so they dont give 1005% of their capability but as much as they can be comfortable with and these marraiges have lasted for ove 50 years and they dont fight or argue as much as some 'in love' couples I know. But on the other hand you have people who marry out of convenience like my friend did..she married the first man who treated her better than all the others but he did not make her toes curl. And sometiems I think she will leave if she finds theat someone that makes her heart skip a beat and treats her just as good as her DH.

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Posted by DMAG

If it isn't equal...then it isn't really love, right? There will always be an unequal relationship which is headed for disaster.

In a true loving relationship, your love will be unmeasurable. No need to try and think who loves who more...it won't be possible.

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I agree. Well said.

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Posted by DMAG

If it isn't equal...then it isn't really love, right? There will always be an unequal relationship which is headed for disaster.

In a true loving relationship, your love will be unmeasurable. No need to try and think who loves who more...it won't be possible.

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to that!

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Posted by jenny2penny

I have had people say that to me too. and if you are just dating than it's nice

But I don't agree with it...I feel like if you love someone more, than that person is not the one for you. you should BOTH be completely head over heels,,and I think you'll know it with no doubts.

Alo, if it's unbalanced the person who cares more might get frustrated, hurt, feel unappreciated, etc.

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i dont agree with that one, why should i love donna then she loves me........sorry i dont like this one........just my opion here

jonn

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Posted by DMAG

If it isn't equal...then it isn't really love, right? There will always be an unequal relationship which is headed for disaster.

In a true loving relationship, your love will be unmeasurable. No need to try and think who loves who more...it won't be possible.

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I agree with this.

IMO...scared over protective people say that statement..

It is said to protect you from getting hurt..
IMO it is just not the way to live.

You have open your heart to love...regardless of getting hurt. If you don't...then there is no reason to bother...

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Posted by oct.2004bride

IMO...scared over protective people say that statement..

It is said to protect you from getting hurt..

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I agree with this statement. She was very very badly hurt before her husband.

I always felt that way and liked it when iw as younger, but in a long term realtionship it doens't fly. Not only is it not fair to the guy, it's not fair to you, It isn't fair to go through life ebing with someone you don't love as mucha s you could posisbly love someone..why deny yourself that experience?

but also i think there's no way of REALLY measurng things and it's NEVER really EQUAL. The best marriage advice I've ever gotten (I think..I'm not even married yet) is that nothing is ever 50/50. The longer I'm with FH and I see all of the compromises that have to be amde the more I realize that it's impossible for anything to really be 50/50. Some things are going to be 70/30 or 40/60, or 100/0. You never know. i think love is the same way. Our love progressed differently for the bth of us. I was his first gf, but for me, i had already had a lot of experience, and too much in the heartbreak department. Also, he was much more nervous about it than I was, while I knew how to start a relationship (if that makes sense). So at first i think I may have loved him more, or felt like I did. At times I've felt like he loves me more..but I think it's just that some people are able to express it more or express it in different ways and everyone falls in love at a different rate.

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Posted by KerrC

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Posted by DMAG

If it isn't equal...then it isn't really love, right? There will always be an unequal relationship which is headed for disaster.

In a true loving relationship, your love will be unmeasurable. No need to try and think who loves who more...it won't be possible.

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I agree. Well said.

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That really is so well said!!!

I don't agree with that at all. Every person has a different capacity for love and showing that love and you can't compare any two people. As a bystander of our relationship, people would probably say that I love DH more than he loves me, but that couldn't be further from the truth. We both love each other 100% of our capability

I couldn't agree more, people love based on their capability.