Do we have to get his Mom a gift if she is not paying for the wedding?

Just curious on what to do here. She is only paying for her people, and we are paying for the rest. I have no mom or dad left, but in reality my mom and dad are paying for most of it , recently found an envelope of money my dad had put aside for my wedding . Gosh, I feel so gulity using the money. But I am very thankful for it, and thankful he met my FH, gosh I am near tears here.I have dragged FMIL to stores and she said that she is there for it all and will do what ever she wants me for her to do. Opinions girls?

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We bought my FMIL her dress, shoes, accessories, pantyhose and bra for the wedding. We are also paying for her cut, haircolor, hairstyle and makeup. We paid for my FFIL's tux. I don't know if that counts as a gift but she isn't getting anything else.

I didn't get anything for my dad.

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It sounds like you like your FMIL a lot. I would get her a little something. Maybe you can get her a hankie with a nice saying on it. I'm sure she would be very happy.
Your parents will be with you. I'm a firm believer in that.

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If it were me, I would. We didn't get our parents gifts because they contributed to the wedding (which they did), -we got them gifts as a thank you for their love and support.

Especially since she's helping you out so much - she deserves something. (and she is paying for a portion of the wedding).

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SonicStef.. what part of Brooklyn are you from as well as hubby? Your hubby and his friends look so familiar my 2 FBIL have friends that look like hubbys friends on your webpage like they might share some of the same friends. FBIL is from Mill Basin and went to Brooklyn college and Kingsborough.

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Im from Park Slope, my FH is from Sunset Park. His groomsmen are all from Bay Ridge. There is another girl on this board that knows the groomsmen too - they certainly get around ;D

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I would get a gift...for the mear fact that she gave birth to your wonderful man...

MY MIL is a widow and while she is well taken care of...DH worries about her...she also has no clue what a NY wedding costs...I'll keep it that way...she did not contribute financially

did you order an album for her? that can be your gift...

we got MIL a 'folio' and a silver frame...so she can display the wedding pictures..

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I would get her something. She will be in your life and I think you should give her a gift.

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i think what yabbobay said in her first sentence was beautiful & i fully agree

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My FMIL has not given us one dime, mainly because she doesn't have any to give us. She is a very nice and a really lovely person. I got her a handkerchief just like I got my Mom and stepmom. It is a nice gesture and it was not very expensive.

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FILs haven't helped much at all, but we will give them embroidered hankies. We still wanted to give them something as a reminder of the day.

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I agree w/the majority. Especially since you get along, and it seems she's supportive, I would get her something. It doesn't have to be big and expensive, just thoughtful.

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I agree with lisat, don't get her a gift for her contribution to the wedding, get her a gift because she is his mother. That should be enough. My FH's parents are not paying a dime for the wedding, but we will still be getting them presents just because they are his parents and love and support us.