the son of a close family friend of both mine and FH's is getting married the week after us. I just received her bridal shower invitation and it is at my reception hall. I was angry/upset that they chose the same place where I will be getting married almost a month after the shower! What worries me is that his family is 'well off' and if her shower is like a reception I feel like my wedding will seem like a joke
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that was really not nice on their part, did they know you were getting married there? no one will think your wedding is a joke ! You will have a beautiful wedding day, and noone will even remember the shower
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Well, I do not think that you need to feel like they chose it because you are getting married there. THere are so many rooms there, and I cannot imagine that her bridal shower, no matter how extravagant, could even begin to compare to your wedding reception
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Thats horrible I'm sos orry but don't let it bother you everything will work out fine
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I would be kinda mad - but the place doesn't make the wedding - its all of the people having a good time!!
I have been to weddings at very $$$ places that have been BOOORRIINNGG - and saturday day weddings at other places, not as expensive as others, that have been the best weddings because everyone was having a great time,!
I wouldn't worry too much about the shower - and if it is like a reception, so what? your wedding will be wonderful because its about you and FH, not how much $$ you spend
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why is that insulting? Its not YOUR reception hall. I think you might be going a little overboard being so upset about this. Your wedding is going to be fantastic, so dont worry so much about what other people are doing.
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why is that insulting? Its not YOUR reception hall. I think you might be going a little overboard being so upset about this. Your wedding is going to be fantastic, so dont worry so much about what other people are doing.
I'm going to second it. I don't see anything insulting in using the same hall as you... and your wedding will be YOUR wedding, it will be beautiful because of that. The two are not comparable.
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I wouldn't be upset. I could see if it was a sibling, and all of the same family members would be there, but not for a family friend. I don't think it insulting at all.
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No, it's not insulting... I think it's just all those wedding hormones acting up! I know we all get a little attatched to our wedding facilities, but we can't expect them not to sometime be used by someone we know.
Think of it this way: at least you'll get to see first hand how everything operates there before your big day!
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Posted by Tracy&Brian
why is that insulting? Its not YOUR reception hall. I think you might be going a little overboard being so upset about this. Your wedding is going to be fantastic, so dont worry so much about what other people are doing.
I agree. I dont find it insulting at all.
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Think of it this way: at least you'll get to see first hand how everything operates there before your big day!
I agree with this. This is a great way to approach the shower!
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I think they are two very different functions. A shower will not be the same as a wedding reception, dont worry, I am sure you will have a great reception
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I could see how you would be upset. But I'm sure they didn't even think about your wedding being there when they planned their shower. Try not to take it personally. And dont worry about what others will think. Your friends and family wont give it a second thought when it comes to your wedding cause they'll be so happy for you.
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That is a good way of looking at things, guess it just threw me off guard at first... thanks for all your input!
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I would be upset too but for a different reason. No one has ever heard of the Watermill when I tell them that's where my wedding is..I'd want it to be a surprise.
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No one will think your wedding is a joke. A wedding is a whole different level then a shower, and no one will remember the shower a month later.
Think of it as a chance to get to test the food at your hall! Everyone will see how fabulous it is and be more excited fr your wedding.
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Yeah, that would have made me really upset. I hate it when people all think it's like this competition! And the Watermill for a shower? I don't know. I've never been to a shower at a place that formal. Try not to let it get you down though. Your wedding will be phenomenal & NO-ONE is going to care what happened there a month ago when they're their for you & your FH!!!! But feel free to vent here all ya want!
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I can totally understand how you feel.. and WHY you feel this way. I just dont understand why people throw such extravagant showers. I went to one at Russos and there was brunch... & a sit down dinner with a whole dessert layout. Believe me when I tell you.. alot of people were saying how a shower like that is 'too much' and that there was no need for the shower to be so extravagant. To each his own... Your wedding will be beautiful.. no worries. You cant even compare a wedding to a shower.
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My shower was at a reception hall and you have to remember that they are 2 different affairs................................. A shower does not compare to a wedding. The menu is totally different for a shower than it is for a wedding. Dont for one second feel that your wedding is going to be looked down upon. Enjoy the shower
Same here, mine was as well...... I understand why you may be upset but as others said your wedding will be amazing since you are marrying the love of your life.
