do you give gifts when you don't attend a wedding?

mka06 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 03:34 PM

do you give gifts when you don't attend a wedding?

Do you give a gift if you are invited to, but cannot attend, a wedding? If so, do you do this for everyone or just people you are close with? And, for those of you already married what is your experience with people who couldn't attend ?

TIA!!!

ali120206 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 03:55 PM

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You are supposed to give a gift when you don't attend a wedding, regardless of how close. You may vary the size of the gift based on how close the person is.

Jen2999 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 03:56 PM

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Yes, If they are close I send money , if it is an acquiantence I usually give a registry gift

SOON TO BE MRS. B Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:10 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

Yes, If they are close I send money , if it is an acquiantence I usually give a registry gift

I usually do the same thing but always send a gift if we cannot go.

DrBeLLaRoSe Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:16 PM

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when i was younger i did not give a gift... i was a jerk... now that i know better i would give a gift, even if a small one to show i care :)

julybride06 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:22 PM

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Yes! (Sometimes it's a smaller one)

jilmadison Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:23 PM

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Posted by DrBeLLaRoSe

when i was younger i did not give a gift... i was a jerk... now that i know better i would give a gift, even if a small one to show i care :)

Me too, I used to not do it. Now i ALWAYS do

pupidda122505 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:28 PM

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Posted by ali120206

You are supposed to give a gift when you don't attend a wedding, regardless of how close. You may vary the size of the gift based on how close the person is.

i agree

EMES2006 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:28 PM

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Yes, I've sent a gift if I couldn't attend the wedding. If it's a close friend I'll send them a check. Depending on how close determines how much of a gift. I didn't give as much as I would if I actually attended the wedding though.

MrsFelix Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:41 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

Yes, If they are close I send money , if it is an acquiantence I usually give a registry gift

Ditto!!!!

CLMon7906 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:53 PM

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You know, prior to all of this wedding planning, I would see it as a chance to pass on the gift...what changed my mind was NOT a flaming response from other brides, reading a post like this one or anything of the kind, but simply receiving a gift from a dear friend of FMIL in AZ and then a week later receiving her 'NO' RSVP....then it hit me, you should gift in some way even if not attending, it brightens the couple's day and puts a smile on their faces....which reminds me, i gotta send my cousin something for her college graduation next week....off to shop!!

bride2b24 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 04:56 PM

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yes

Tria1110 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 05:35 PM

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Yup

ewickens Posted: Apr 21, 2006 05:37 PM

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Posted by ali120206

You are supposed to give a gift when you don't attend a wedding, regardless of how close. You may vary the size of the gift based on how close the person is.

I agree!

waterspout4 Posted: Apr 21, 2006 06:07 PM

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Please don't tar and feather me. Etiquette states that you don't have to give a wedding gift, whether you attend or not. A shower gift must be given, but not a wedding gift. That said.......

I HAVE ALWAYS GIVEN A GIFT, whether I can attend or not.

However, my wedding guests have been hit or miss. I'd have to say 2/3 of those that didn't come gave a gift. Two of the BM that dropped out on me with a few weeks to go for 'financial reasons' gave nothing. It doesn't seem to matter how close you are.