do you have a b list?

so fh wants a b list.. in case som folks from his a list cant' make it he wants to be able to invite folks from his b list.. which would make semse if ...

a. i wasn't drinking,,
b. his b list hadn't already told him or his mom or dad that tehy cant make it...


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why r we doing a b list of folks who said they can't make it? isn't tht a waste of invites?

or is it just me..

I don't think i'm going to need one! i have enough people as it is..its crazy!

if people have already told you they cant make it - id save the stamp
im not a believer in 'B' lists but i had to make one myself ONLY because my room has a max of 156 and i have 190 on my list
sooooo, i took about 12 people off, really 6 couples and i will see how it goes with the first RSVP's

these are not close, close people or i would not have taken them off
they are co-workers that i would like to be there and i know would come if invited
also they are friends so i cant invite some and not others so the 6 couples come as a team or table LOL

SAME HERE! see thing is this..

my mom has her people she wants to invite.. most are family some friends.. folks who have seen me grow up.. she knows however thaht she gets 50 people.. (wow that's a lot) and anyone over that that come she has to pay for.. she's cool with that

fh's parents (cheap cheap) dont wanna pay.. so instead they/him wanna send out invites and if folks say no they wanna fill in with a second list..

so he wants to sendo ut invites for our feb wedding in october.. to give folks enough time to say no so he can send out his second roudn.. i'm like dude..if they are that important to invite invite them.. and if u'r folks are over their 50.. (wow that's a lot..especially wen they ain't payin for ish!) then let them pay for it..

his response..

it doesn't work that way over here..

oh..

okay..

then i dunno what to tell u.. cuz invites are going out one time and one time only.. and that would be in beg december..

i dont understand what them paying or not paying has to do with inviting more people
FH's father isnt contributing either and i did put his people on the list, they are all family and FH wants them there, but the second they say no, and may will b/c they are in Florida, im adding in my girls from work

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Posted by Snowflake08

i dont understand what them paying or not paying has to do with inviting more people
FH's father isnt contributing either and i did put his people on the list, they are all family and FH wants them there, but the second they say no, and may will b/c they are in Florida, im adding in my girls from work

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i guess paying or not only has to do with my annoyace at them not paying..


but to me.. it's liek this.. i don't have time for a list and b lists..unlike u'rs where u'r b list are coworkers his are family.. i'm like do u tinnk they wont' know? he's like oh.. i'm like yeah oh.. thy gonna know they are b ist people then they WON'T come.. cause they'll b offened that they are b list.. if u think someone in u'r original list isn't gonna come.. send them an announcement.. i'll make them up.. no biggied.. but why send an invite to them if they have already said .. i am not commin..lol. then we gotta ait for them to put i'm not comming in writing and then try to fill that seat with a lesser important famil memeber?

ugh.. just invite them all. and get it over with.. thing is, his parents don wanna contribut to these extra people..

shucks his mom got 15 brothers and sisters.. adn want them ALL to be invited.. plus their kids.. and in some cases their grandkids.. but yt they ain't offering ish..sigh..

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Posted by jgl

i dont know at this point -0 im leaving it up to my mom - its not worth the fight haha

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i hear ya!!! totally!!

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Posted by jgl

the thing thats good with a b list is that after people say they cant come you can add other people who you d like to come but didnt because youd go over the amount of people you want.

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that is my b list
but i understand what she's saying

my 'b-list' is really just people who i didnt know all that well or wasnt as close to when i made my original guest list.
at this point, we have more people than we'd like, and even with the average decline percentage we're over our minimum... so depending on how things go in the next few months we'll invite these other people.

however, i'm not buying enough invites for a B-List. if we go the route of b-listing, i'll just buy a kit at AC Moore. None of the people know anyone else who's invited, so they won't be able to compare the invites.
I also plan on hand delivering them. They probably 'know' that they are B-listers anyway.

I don't have enough friends to have a B list, lol.

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Posted by ArmyOfBabies

I don't have enough friends to have a B list, lol.

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me niether. i was just trying to look cool.
Put Rosalina on your B-list.

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Posted by bemyyoko

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Posted by ArmyOfBabies

I don't have enough friends to have a B list, lol.

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me niether. i was just trying to look cool.
Put Rosalina on your B-list.

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I'll tell you where I'll put Rosalina.....

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Posted by ArmyOfBabies

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Posted by bemyyoko

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Posted by ArmyOfBabies

I don't have enough friends to have a B list, lol.

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me niether. i was just trying to look cool.
Put Rosalina on your B-list.

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I'll tell you where I'll put Rosalina.....

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i think we all know where you'd like Rosalina to go.

B list is good if you think many people will not show up on your A list and your over your min/budgeted amount. I wouldn't do it just to do it because it seems the b listers know when they are the b list and they typically do not like it.

I was a b lister at two weddings and needless to say I was kinda hurt by it because i was given no response card just a note saying call us if you can make it. That to me made me fee like poop.

If you can make two response cards and send your first round out early and have a date early enough to send out a b list then go for it. The only way I am adding people is if they are co-workers. And if they get insulted because I didn't get to invite them all the first time then OH WELL ... most people wouldn't invite their coworkers anyway.

We have one because FILS made one and Im not sure if I'm inviting my co-workers. They all live in NJ and 1 in GA and my dept is very small and Ive only really worked with 3 people.

In your case, if people already said they werent coming, then I wouldnt send an invite.....unless they are close friends or relatives. Why waste those beautiful invitations that you are making.

i dont think we're doing a b list.. but if i'm coerced into doing one it'll be with an acmoore kit.. fh doesn't understand that if u send an invite to fmils brother number 12 in the first round and to fmil's brother number 15 the second round... they are going to know.. heck just cause u don't talk to them doesn't mean they dont' talk to each other!!

and again.. they flat out said NO i'm not coming!!! why are we even discussing this? we want to invite on a b list people who said they can't make it? huh? *shrugs shoulders* to me it makes no sense.. but hey.. whateva.. i can't reason with him on some things.. just like for some reason his std address list and wedding list are totally different! *can' t figure that out either* why? cause his mom and dad sent them to their friends.. and family they aren't inviting.. i'im like dude.. u can't send std's to people a d then not send them an invite..

*okay well i'm doing it with my neighbor but who the heck cares bout him*

u can't do that with u'r family!! they're not announcements.. they are save the dates.. u told them to save the date for the wedding u'r NOT inviting them to?

shucks no one is going to talk to us at the family reunions..