Do you have any guests just staying for the cocktail hour?

sarahradio5 Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:04 AM

Do you have any guests just staying for the cocktail hour?

My friend just told me that she has to be in D.C. early the next morning after my wedding, so she will be there for my ceremony (she's doing a reading!) and for the cocktail hour, but she'll leave before the reception. She even said 'at least I'll save you on two dinners!'. Now, she'll probably come up for the introductions and first dance, but she's not eating anything at the reception.

Obviously, I don't tell my place that she'll be there, right? They only need to know how many placesettings?

dancinmyazoff Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:06 AM

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I've never heard of that, but I guess you wouldn't count them in for a head count.

moonlitee Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:08 AM

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You wouldn't put them in your head count

sarahradio5 Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:11 AM

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Posted by dancinmyazoff

I've never heard of that, but I guess you wouldn't count them in for a head count.

yes... only me!

libby2595 Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:15 AM

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Posted by sarahradio5

Posted by dancinmyazoff

I've never heard of that, but I guess you wouldn't count them in for a head count.

yes... only me!

HA HA... NOT ONLY YOU... i just got one of those last night

it's a friend of fh. he has a 'gig' that night and will have to leave just as dinner is getting started.

fh says to count him, just in case.... I'M NOT GONNA!!!

btw, i'm ready for a nervous break down, right about now

sarahradio5 Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:18 AM

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Posted by libby2595

Posted by sarahradio5

Posted by dancinmyazoff

I've never heard of that, but I guess you wouldn't count them in for a head count.

yes... only me!

HA HA... NOT ONLY YOU... i just got one of those last night

it's a friend of fh. he has a 'gig' that night and will have to leave just as dinner is getting started.

fh says to count him, just in case.... I'M NOT GONNA!!!

btw, i'm ready for a nervous break down, right about now

No... don't count him!

But is he gonna eat the salad? At least mine is leaving before eating ANYTHING at the reception! Tell yours to do you a favor and leave before you have to pay almost 100 bucks for FIELD GREENS!

lucite Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:34 AM

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I have four people doing that. They have another wedding to go too. I am not given them in to my hall as a head count. I figured they will go unnoticed at the cocktail hour. I hope I get away with it.

R&J0806 Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:37 AM

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I had one person that was CH only. She asked my dad if she could 'crash' the ceremony which caught him completely off guard so then he invited her to the CH. We didn't tell the hall.

NovemberBride06 Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:39 AM

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No, you don't need to tell your RH. Only give a head count for the number that will need a place setting. If it is just one person, there is no way they will know. If it's 10-20, then they might notice!

libby2595 Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:43 AM

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Posted by sarahradio5

No... don't count him!

But is he gonna eat the salad? At least mine is leaving before eating ANYTHING at the reception! Tell yours to do you a favor and leave before you have to pay almost 100 bucks for FIELD GREENS!

i'm not going to!!!! i told fh, that i can not justify that expense. i put my foot down and he said, 'ok, honey'

i felt so empowered!!!

OrangeGrl Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:46 AM

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Never heard of it, but I guess it's an ok idea...I wouldn't pay for her meal. If she says she wont be there for it then she shouldn't

RadioLau Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:56 AM

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I would definately NOT put them in the head count.

evnme Posted: Sep 26, 2006 11:55 PM

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we had some guests that only stayed thru the CH. we didnt count them

ellebelle1 Posted: Sep 28, 2006 01:19 AM

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We had one couple ask if they could come to our ceremony because they were unable to stay for the reception. I told them absolutely and they should stay for the cocktail hour. I didn't put them in the head count or anything. I wil say, though, that I think your friend should have really asked your permission before just inviting herself to your cocktail hour (just for etiquette sake).