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Do you send your officiant an invite?

surfersgirl Posted:

Do you send your officiant an invite?

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NYCGirl2008 Posted:

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I know he/she is technically supposed to be invited but most decline (unless friend of family etc). Whether or not you actually physically send them a paper invitation I am not sure.

missexcited Posted:

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yes, prob the only vendor that you send an actual hard copy of invitation.

tlp123 Posted:

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I did, but I knew him for 17 years.

eelharas4700 Posted:

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we invited ours, with the understanding that most of them decline and appreciate the invite, but surprisingly our came to the reception!

PegaLega Posted:

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Nope, basically from the get go he told us not to waste our money on sending him and invite since he always declines

stephlovesseyi Posted:

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Is that the case for a catholic priest too? Do we send him an invite?

drpepper318 Posted:

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It depends. I think you only send them an invite if you want them to come to your reception.

nycgirl79 Posted:

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Yup, we invited my Rabbi and his wife (I have known them for over 15 years), but they did not attend the reception.

Mici n KC Posted:

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We probably won't because we don't really know the Deacon marrying us that well. FH is his garbage man, but that's about it lol

donegal419 Posted:

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it is proper etiquette to invite the officiant to the reception, particulalry if it's a religious wedding. how do you NOT invite the person that witnessed the msot important part of the day?

Granted, they often decline due to other committments, particualrly if they are active clergy (priest, deacon, rabbi, etc.) but it is still polite and in my opinion, proper etiquette to invite.

Our priest is a personal friend, so he would have been invited regardless and he did attend the reception. We had another priest con-celebrate the Mass with our friend and we invited him as well, but he declined.
meli722 Posted:

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I think proper etiquette (sp) is that you are suppos eto invite them to the reception

Eternalyyourz Posted:

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good thing you posted this question.. I would have never thought of it! It didnt even enter my mind!

Luvbsb4eva Posted:

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We are, but that is because he is going out of his way and returning to our parish to perform the ceremony.

BoxOfRocks Posted:

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Ditto on inviting the officiant being proper etiquette. We used a retired judge. He stayed for the cocktail hour but not for the reception due to another commitment so we didn't include him in our headcount. Our officiant also keeps the invitations in a portfolio, both as personal momentos and to demonstrate to prospective clients how many weddings he's done.

DGoldfarb0776 Posted:

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I did for two reasons:

FH and I know him very well- also he needed the directional card to our RH.. lol
And also so his wife can see (we both know her as well for a long time). However because of where we're having the reception (its not kosher) he's only staying for the ceremony.

Other than that reason idk if you have to....
diva7531 Posted:

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Usually yes, they sometimes decline.

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