Do you think I'm obligated to ask

Stacey04 Posted: Apr 24, 2004 08:46 PM

Do you think I'm obligated to ask

my sisters-in-law to be BM's? I was in both of theirs, but I am going to have my brothers and we didn't want to have a big wedding party. I'm only having an MOH and 2 BMs (one is FSIL). Do you think I'm obilgated to ask? TIA

sophie78 Posted: Apr 24, 2004 08:46 PM

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nope

jill13bean Posted: Apr 24, 2004 08:49 PM

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i don't think so
it is up to you

Pookiesangel Posted: Apr 24, 2004 10:22 PM

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Nope, it's really up to you.

Miro127 Posted: Apr 24, 2004 10:48 PM

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not at all. however, are they your FH's sisters? if so, he should really make the call.

(sorry, had to edit bc i answered like an entirely different question at first!)

Stacey04 Posted: Apr 24, 2004 10:55 PM

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Posted by Miro127

not at all. however, are they your FH's sisters? if so, he should really make the call.

(sorry, had to edit bc i answered like an entirely different question at first!)

No they are my brothers wives. I am having FH's sister, and he is having my brothers...

myasmom Posted: Apr 24, 2004 10:58 PM

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there is no ettiquite concerning who u should have in your wedding.
its you way since its your day

LADYLUV69 Posted: Apr 24, 2004 11:20 PM

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Sunshine128 Posted: Apr 24, 2004 11:32 PM

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NOOOOOPER!

MrsBrad Posted: Apr 24, 2004 11:40 PM

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I agree and would say 'nope.' I am assuming you were in their wedding because of your relation to your brother not them. It really depends on your relationship with them.

btrflygrl Posted: Apr 25, 2004 12:04 PM

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nope...we didn't include each others' siblings in the BP (except my sister who was MOH)....but I asked one of his sisters to read (cuz I LOVE her) and one of my step-brothers to read also.

Monkeybride Posted: Apr 25, 2004 12:06 PM

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Not obligated but I did because she wanted to be in the wedding and I didn't want to make any problems.
She has been better than my friends so I am glad I did.

MRSJLK Posted: Apr 25, 2004 12:13 PM

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it's your wedding you do what ever makes you happy

Marisa&Brian Posted: Apr 25, 2004 03:55 PM

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You're not obligated to do anything -

nferrandi Posted: Apr 25, 2004 07:14 PM

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Definitely not. Some would say that I should have asked FBIL's fiance to be in my bridal party, but I didn't want to. She and I are not friends and my BP was big enough without her. I already have my sister, 4 friends and FH sister.

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Apr 25, 2004 07:26 PM

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i think you should ask them to do readings or a cabdle lighting or something to make them feel a apart of your day. they dont have to be in the bridal party if your keeping it small but i would make sure they were involved somehow especially if you get along with them i just think its a nice thing to do

nov04LIbride Posted: Apr 25, 2004 07:27 PM

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Not obligated, but will they be hurt after they asked you and you aren't reciprocating? If you are close with either, maybe you could approach the subject with her and see how she reacts. You don't want any bad blood, even though it is your day...

Helene718 Posted: Apr 25, 2004 08:14 PM

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No, you are not obligated, but in my opinion it is probably the right thing to do to ask them. Will they be hurt if you don't?

AtticaQT Posted: Apr 25, 2004 08:17 PM

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my personal answer is no -

i was forced to ask - i didnt want to create bad blood early on - it was just easier...

Sassyz75 Posted: Apr 25, 2004 09:14 PM

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i am all for making these decisions if they will allow you to have an easier life later on- I say- ask them if they want to do it- and if they say yes- they say yes- they may say no...