Do your in-laws favor your FH's siblings over him?

Just curious as mine ALWAYS do!!! And it PI$$ES me OFF!!!!!
This is the MAIN reason why I am not too fond of his parents. I am courteous and polite, but I won't ever be close to them b/c of the way they treat FH's retard of a sister over him. He is just too darn nice to say anything or do anything about it.
I cringe everytime I hear about what they do for her. But the minute FH needs some help from a parent he always gets a no.
Unbelievable!!

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I have to say the favor my FH more than his brother.

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YES there are only 2 of them. And is ****es me of too. I could write a book.

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My inlawS Suck
Ron calls them to tell them he got another raise and they say NOTHING..
They resent him I know it bc he is a better person and more sucessful then they are !!!!

They spend more on Christmas gifts on his brothers and even me.
I told Them off on it.
If I never see them again it will be too soon!

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Irishbride-you wanna go in on the book together??

Its so sad b/c I have never been brought up this way. Me and my sister were raised equally. My parents always made sure to give us both everything equally and help us when we need help. And FH sees that. Although my sister is a 25 yr old with a 15 yr old way of thinking and is still bratty, my parents don't choose her over me.
It really disgusts me how his beatch of a sister can get away with the crap that she does, they bail her out, and poor Carl gets the shaft! RRRRR

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Yes and no. His parents have NEVER come to our apartment - or any of FH's apartments ever, but his mom runs up to his sister every chance she gets. But she still says that FH is her favorite...so I don't know. Thank God I'm an only child!

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FH's slackhead, pothead brother is the messiah and my honey is Judas in their family!!

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My FIL does that too. He favored my SIL from when they were all young and still does. It breaks my heart that my husband is completely disregarded by his own father and I hate him for it. Maybe not hate, but pretty **** close!

Here's a stupid example - Easter. We were going to the IL's first then to dinner with my family. DH called his father to find out what time they were eating and he said 1.30. DH says perfect we have to leave at 3.30 to meet Chris' family. The next day his father calls to say they moved their meal to 3.30!!! How mean is that????? He's such an a$$!!!

I do the cordial/polite thing when I am forced to be in his company but I am not even overly cordial. I'll say hi usually and sometimes ask how he's doing and thank them for whatever cold meal they serve.

Wanda - my sister and I were raised the same way too. We both know that our parents loved us both the same and were basically treated the same in terms of priviledges and perks (contingent on how much trouble either one of us was in at the time )

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This is why I told FH a while ago: When we need any help from our folks, we will turn to my parents. They have never turned me down when I needed their help and they won't turn us down either. Shoot, we have needed their help on a couple of occasions and my parents have bent over backwards for us!

Not a good way to start a Friday morning.

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my FIL's call him 'His Highness' and 'His Majesty'.... lol.
Not at all.
He is the 'golden boy'

In MY family on the other hand... I come second. It makes FI mad the way my parents are with me.

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My DH has 2 sisters and one brother. I call my Dh the forgotten child. His brother is the oldest and can do no wrong. A big momma's boy. His older sister was the first to get married and blessed his parents with 2 grandchildren so they world revolves around his sister. And the younger sister gets everything she wants that DH could never have.

I'm an only child so I don't know what its like to have share your parents attention but my parents go out of their way and really spoil my DH

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Wanda,
I'm lol right now, b.c we're the exact opposite! We will always go to FI's parents before mine. My parents are a pain.

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YEAH for no reason and it drives ME CRAZY - He has a brother who is married with 3 kids - well FBIL and FSIL are partiers and his brother never made anything of himself - FH says he has rather screwed up and needs to grow up - he dropped out of school on his way to getting a good job - and now remains in the job he has had since hs (but now a manager with no potential)

My mother said to FSMIL we are so proud of FH - she says to my mother - Well we are also proud of FBIL - have you met him - he is so great....

FSMIL and FFIL were talking to my grandmother at my e-party - (she had never met FBIL as of this point) and said you have a lovely son - we are very proud of him - they said to her - We have 2 sons and walked away!!!!!

My friends all told me that they felt that there waw some defininte jealousy in his family - with the fact that he is doing exceptionally well and is going places.

Then again this is a family that wants to get remarried for their 21st anniversay 3 days after our wedding - with a ceremony, reception and all

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luckily mine is an only child

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CW - When do you want to start the book? My FSIL is not a very nice person. She is very selfish. She is 35 but acts like she is 16.

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My husband is the only son in his family and I think he is the favorite.

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In some aspects yes. I guess since he's a guy, the father felt he had to teach him to earn his way and be a man. Both sisters got their college/masters paid for. he had to get scholarships and take out loans. Each sister got a different type of wedding present. I do think they like me best of all the other in-law kids.

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Christine-I remember you talking about your in-laws.
People that do this are so weird. The thing is they don't realize they are doing wrong. That is what I find even more pathetic.

Irishbride you have a wonderful SIL like me??? I don't hate people but if I was to choose one, she would be it.

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CW - by the sounds of it yes!