I never really have 2nd thoughts, but i think it's completely norma. It shows that you are planning for this to be forever, which is a good thing. too many people don't think that way and feel that they can always end the marriage if it doesn't turn out they way they planned. It's such a great thing that you are feeling this is the rest of your life!
sure, there are things that drive me crazy about FH, but i'm sure there are things that drive him crazy too. I think you should talk to him about everything. He's prob feeling the same way too. This is a major decision for both of you.
it def is forever for me... im tired of talking to some people who r like u can always get divorced... im like wtffff i dont want to be married more then once ya know... and my mom is like make sure ur 100% cuz divorces are double the amount of a wedding lol... and she doesnt want me getting divorced
Yankees2323
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Been there, done that. My first time around...YES & we were together for 12 yrs! Two weeks before the wedding I called it off. HARDEST decision & BEST decision I ever made in my life..... This time around, older & wiser...lol, NO DOUBTS at all - completely different animal all around....I wouldn't have changed a thing.
My only advise is to listen to your gut....it's usually right.
wow 12 yrs... n u called it off 2 weeks before? how did u know it wasnt right/?
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I think you really have to step back and look at what things really annoy you about him...if they are stupid insignificant things.... good luck finding someone who DOESN'T annoy you!
BUT if they are more serious issues...like drinking, drugs, no aspirations for his life....that is something to really sit and think about.
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Nope, no second thoughts about the man I'm going to marry. Second thoughts about the money and we should have waited until he was out of school a little longer.
But about the person? Heck no. Yes, he annoys me some times, but that's OK. Unfortunately, I'm not perfect either.
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With all the craziness in planning a wedding, it may cast some weird doubts, but unless you keep thinking the same thing over and over again and cant get over it then you should be fine. I occasionally have doubts and wonder if I should have dated more (FH is my 2nd boyfriend but first real long term relationship) but I know I made the right choice and we will live happily ever after!
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I think you really have to step back and look at what things really annoy you about him...if they are stupid insignificant things.... good luck finding someone who DOESN'T annoy you!
BUT if they are more serious issues...like drinking, drugs, no aspirations for his life....that is something to really sit and think about.
lol yes its lil stupid things... i know no one is perfect and i thank god hes not a heavy drinker or into drugs or anything and he even quit smoking ciggs for me.... i guess i need to stop over reacting maybe
