Does anyone have a FIL that they just don't like?

I am desperately trying to like my FH's brother, but am having such a hard time. I know that it's very important to my FH. I feel that this brother has bad influences on him...such as drinking!!! My FH likes his beers, but when he's w/this brother, he tends to go way overboard. It's almost like the brother is pushing it on him by refilling his glass when it's only half empty and this brother knows that I'm not happy when FH drinks too much! To me, this is disrespectful and it drives me NUTS. He also does these little things (too much to get into) that just get under my skin

If it wasn't for him, we would all get along so well. Also, when I try to talk about it w/FH, he gets very defensive. I'm stuck!! Is there any nice way to say you 'just don't like someone'?

That really stinks... My FSIL is a bit of a piece of work but she has serious issues so I try not to let it get to me

Sorry that you are having a hard time

ETS..Atleast we can pick our friends....because if we could pick our family there a definetely some people in my extended family who I would like to give the BOOT

i hear ya! i actually am not too fond of either of my FIs parents... but particularly his dad. see.. FI is an only child.. his mom hasnt' worked since he was born and so spends her days cleaning... and his dad is a pilot who only works about 1 week a month. so... both parents have A TON of time on their hands, but never really go out or do anything. they were also both raised in redneck PA, so they really have no concept of the 'real world'. and because they were raised poor, they don't spend ANY money so anytime FI or i talk about anything i feel like they are looking at us like we're snobs just because we go out to dinner every weekend. his dads comment when we told him the reception was gonna be at night (6PM) was ' oh wow! night weddings are more expensive'. which might be true some places, but our caterer charges the same regardless when the wedding is. FIs dad is also refusing to get a hotel room near the wedding even though they live 2 hours away, just becasue he has issues with paying for a hotel room in the same state they live in.... ok... so you're gonna drive 2 hours to come to the rehearsal dinner, 2 hours to go home, 2 hours back for the wedding the next day, then 2 hours home that night after the reception?!? all to save like $100.... uh... yeah, ok!! GRR!! sorry so long... guess i needed to vent about this- LOL

Thanks girls. I've been going through this for 6 years now...on and off. Even FH has fought w/him many times over the years. He's very controlling (FBIL). I am, however, going to my FMIL tonight and was thinking of talking about it w/her, but don't want to say the wrong thing and insult her son. Regardless of how much she likes me, her son is still her son!

FH says that I look too deep into things and that I need to relax. I do question that, but how do you know if you're getting too deep into things? I sometimes feel that FBIL wants to do and talk w/FH only and not include me This hurts my feelings because I want to be included. It seems like there's always secrets. Again, thanks girls for your input, I really appreciate it.