Does FH ever leave the explaining to you?

Julestrd Posted: Sep 14, 2004 05:44 PM

Does FH ever leave the explaining to you?

I was just wondering if I was the only one that their significant other does this too.
For example, I came to NY one weekend without FH and met with the DJ, he decided long before this time that he wasn't going to have a Mother/Son dance because he didn't want to offend either of his mother's if he danced with one longer than the other or chose one to dance with before the other (this is step-mom and real mom) , but told no one but me. So when I met with the DJ in the presence of FStepMIL and the DJ handed her the list of songs for the Mother/Son dance she asked me what is he going to do about this? I just looked at her and said 'I don't think he wants to have one'
He knew he was throwing me in with the hungry lions. And now he is trying to do it to me again. This has happened several times now since the day we met.
I am sure one day I will laugh at his little tricks but right now I am pretty ticked at him.
Anyone else have this problem?

Marisa&Brian Posted: Sep 14, 2004 05:46 PM

Re: Does FH ever leave the explaining to you?

You should call him on that. - If it's something having to do you YOUR family i'd let it go and shrug it off. - But w/ HIS family, it's not fair for him to put you in the middle. - I'd be annoyed. - My FH does the thing where he tells his family NOTHING, and then when they ask me I'm not sure what I am and am not supposed to say . - Very stressful !!

Julestrd Posted: Sep 14, 2004 05:48 PM

Re: Does FH ever leave the explaining to you?

Posted by Marisa&Brian

You should call him on that. - If it's something having to do you YOUR family i'd let it go and shrug it off. - But w/ HIS family, it's not fair for him to put you in the middle. - I'd be annoyed. - My FH does the thing where he tells his family NOTHING, and then when they ask me I'm not sure what I am and am not supposed to say . - Very stressful !!

AHH yes I get that too, the tell the family nothing, what makes it worse is, his mothers and I are close (as in separately close) and I don't have a very good poker face

Marisa&Brian Posted: Sep 14, 2004 05:50 PM

Re: Does FH ever leave the explaining to you?

Posted by Julestrd

Posted by Marisa&Brian

You should call him on that. - If it's something having to do you YOUR family i'd let it go and shrug it off. - But w/ HIS family, it's not fair for him to put you in the middle. - I'd be annoyed. - My FH does the thing where he tells his family NOTHING, and then when they ask me I'm not sure what I am and am not supposed to say . - Very stressful !!

AHH yes I get that too, the tell the family nothing, what makes it worse is, his mothers and I are close (as in separately close) and I don't have a very good poker face

hahahaha- me neither !! his parents are divorced and NOT amicable. - so i'm like 'hmmm, can i SKIP that dinner ??' b/c his dad asks, his mom asks, I tell MY family every single detail but he doesn't want his to know anything b/c he feel like they take the fun out of everything. - So.........what do I do what they flat out ask ???