does it look bad?

If I walk myself up the aisle? I have been on my own for years, my dad will be at my wedding but I dont feel like he is 'giving me away' in any way. I would like to walk alone, but I am wondering if guests will think this looks bad.

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No.. I don't see why it would look bad at all!

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Do what you feel is best. I don't think it's bad at all.

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The only people that matter in this decision are you and your father. While your opinion matters most, I would want you to make sure that you aren't hurting his feelings. Personally, I didn't view it as being given away (I was actually walked by both my dad and my mom) I thought of it as a sharing. They did after all bring me into the world!

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I haven't lived at home since I was 18(I'm 34) and I can't wait to have my Dad walk me down the aisle!

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Christy I am in hte same boat. It will not look bad. You are the bride you can never look bad.

I have decided to have my FH meet me halfway and walk the rest to the altar with me.

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If you are uneasy about walking up alone do you have a brother or really close uncle or male cousin? If not than walking up alone is fine-although will you feel weird walking past your dad sitting in the pew? It's your decision ultimately and having ur FH meet you halfway might be a nice compromise.

I like the idea of mom and dad walking me up. My dad is going to need support that day as will I. LOL

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I'll walk you christy , seriously no it doesn't look bad at all. it's your choice.

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My dad/stepdad was at my wedding and I had my mom walk me down the aisle. It is your day and you must do what makes you happy, you only do it once and you do not want to look back with regrets.

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Do what makes you happy and what feels most comfortable to you! By no means will it look bad!

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Anyway you walk down is fine. I wanted to walk myself or have my sis (MOH) walk with me. my dad is deceased and ive been taking care of myself since I was 18yrs (im 36!) and I felt very strongly about my mother 'giving' me away. I DO NOT want it to look as if she's giving me away. but after thinking about it, I decided to have her walk me down but there will be no lifting of veil, or kiss and this is just to keep the peace. Im still not so sure tho, now as Im saying it!
Also, the minister I spoke with said anyway is good, he has even seen bride/groom walk in together! You do whichever way you feel is best! but keep other's feelings in mind too. Explain it to him, that this is the way you feel more comfortable...

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I wanted to add, I wouldn't worry about what the guests think!! I would worry about hurting your dads feelings. If you and him come to the understanding, than who cares what people think!

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I don't think it'll look bad at all. However, if you do choose to walk it alone, please make sure you dad is aware of this. You don't want any awkward encounters at your church the morning of your wedding. Best to deal with it before-hand.

Good Luck!!!

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Christy,

I am in the same situation. I do not have a great relationship with my Father and, I personally do not like the idea of having someone 'give me away.' I will be walking down the aisle alone and have never given it a second thought. You have to do what you feel comfortable with, it is after all your day!!!

Jessica

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I am in a similar situation. It will definitely look fine if you walk alone. I really like wacky's suggestion...walking part of the way alone, and being met by your husband-to-be to walk together to the altar. That will look beautiful.

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Nan idea was given to me by Sonicstef. Im no that creative, but I liked the idea

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Christy....you problem is solved. I'll do it! But I'm not giving you away...I'm letting Tom have you as a wife...however...Monday-Friday from 9:00-3:30 you are still mine. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH Hope you had a merry christmas!

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Christy , it will not look bad at all.

I was considering doing the same thing. My dad is deceased and I am not particularly close with my stepdad. I do have an uncle that I love to death so he will do the honors. If that wasnot the case I would have walked alone and loved it.

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I was going to walk down by myself and meet DH half-way, b/c I felt like you, my Dad wasn't 'giving me away' since I've been on my own and living with DH. But, after giving it some more thought I decided that it would mean a lot to my father to walk me down, especially after my mom passed away last year. I didn't want him to be hurt or offended. Our relationship is good, but we were never really close until recently. He was very proud to walk me and you can see it in all the pics. It's your decision and your wedding so do what feels right.

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I agree, do whatever makes you happy on your day.