Does the host.....

SCARPIONY Posted: Feb 07, 2006 02:53 PM

Does the host.....

of a bridal shower call the guest if she does not get a RSVP call; to find out her final count????
is this OK to do, not rude?

weddingbunny Posted: Feb 07, 2006 02:54 PM

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that sounds perfectly reasonable to me, if it is say a week or a few days before the party and they have not heard from the people, so put in a polite call and just say 'Hi there, we never heard from you, I just wanted to know if you were coming or not.'

Sometimes it's even a good idea, because invitations can get lost in the mail and such.

FallBride05 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 02:58 PM

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Nope, not rude at all. Perfectly okay to do.

kaklesmay Posted: Feb 07, 2006 03:01 PM

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I dont think it would be rude, but I would think it just means a no response

Because showers are less formal people might not feel like they need to RSVP unless they were going.

jilmadison Posted: Feb 07, 2006 03:03 PM

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Not rude at all!

eroxgirl Posted: Feb 07, 2006 03:08 PM

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I've done it before and I didn't think it was rude. I think not responding to an invitation beyond the RSVP date is rude.

SCARPIONY Posted: Feb 07, 2006 03:12 PM

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Thank you guys! Actually my FH is mad because my MH is calling guest before the RSVP..

eroxgirl Posted: Feb 07, 2006 03:15 PM

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Posted by SCARPIONY

Thank you guys! Actually my FH is mad because my MH is calling guest before the RSVP..

Calling before the RSVP is different IMO. I wouldn't go so far as to say rude but maybe a little pushy...but after the RSVP she has every right to call.

BernandRob Posted: Feb 07, 2006 03:18 PM

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I say she should wait until after the RSVP if she needed the count sooner she should have put an earlier date.

SCARPIONY Posted: Feb 07, 2006 03:59 PM

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Posted by BernandRob

I say she should wait until after the RSVP if she needed the count sooner she should have put an earlier date.

She called some of the guest before the RSVP date; I yelled at her and she stopped. But she also wants to call after RSVP date.

Soon2BeMrsS Posted: Feb 07, 2006 04:04 PM

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I think she should, I think the people that didn't RSVP are RUDE!

kam29 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 04:18 PM

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I wish my MOH had called. I have a few friends that never RSVP'd and they seemed surprised that my shower was this past Saturday.
My MOH is suggesting that they may not want to feel obligated to send a gift so I'm not mentioning it to them.

We'll never know!!! She should def. call after the RSVP date.

soon2bmrsdunn Posted: Feb 07, 2006 04:19 PM

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Definitely not rude for the host to call. WHat is rude is that people do not RSVP. What do they think the date is for???? Sorry but this is such a sore subject with me. Why can't people just respond when they get it? It is so much easier for everyone involved!!!

MJDoc12 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 04:27 PM

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not rude at all--sometimes ya just gotta call people!

nygirl77 Posted: Feb 07, 2006 04:38 PM

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I would wait a few days after the RSVP date and then call...but not before the RSVP date!

SCARPIONY Posted: Feb 08, 2006 10:52 AM

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THANK YOU GUYS!!!!!!

BernandRob Posted: Feb 08, 2006 10:53 AM

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Posted by SCARPIONY

Posted by BernandRob

I say she should wait until after the RSVP if she needed the count sooner she should have put an earlier date.

She called some of the guest before the RSVP date; I yelled at her and she stopped. But she also wants to call after RSVP date.

I don't think there is anything wrong with calling after the date.

jada2destiny Posted: Feb 08, 2006 11:03 AM

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It's alright to make a phone call to make sure that people are going to attend. Alot of people RSVP'd for our engagement party but we didn't get them until afterwards due to delays with the post office; Some people just forget to send them back, including me.