Does your FI think you talk too much about the wedding?

KarAnthony Posted: Jul 13, 2005 10:27 AM

Does your FI think you talk too much about the wedding?

This frustrates me to no end, because he feels that's all we talk about, and I feel that there are certain things I want to discuss, and when I think of them, I say it!

He has been great with the planning, but wants to take a break. If I bring up anything he gets annoyed and says that we are not just about this wedding.

Am I alone?

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cantwait2bewed Posted: Jul 13, 2005 10:28 AM

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I try not to talk to much about the wedding b/c my FI has only one thing on his mind right now, and thats closing on our home. I am doing basically all of the planning, however if he has to go with me on appts. he has been very good about that. If its money issues then i bring it up to him otherwise i keep the planning talk at a min.

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jul 13, 2005 10:30 AM

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Posted by KarAnthony

This frustrates me to no end, because he feels that's all we talk about, and I feel that there are certain things I want to discuss, and when I think of them, I say it!

He has been great with the planning, but wants to take a break. If I bring up anything he gets annoyed and says that we are not jsut about this wedding.

Am I alone?

It's the other way around for me, I feel like I talk too much about it, but FI hasn't said anything to me yet. I figured once we finished booking the 'majors' (the hall, the church, the photographer/videographer and DJ) we can take a break for a few weeks. I'm looking forward to our vacation at the end of the month, hopefully both of us can keep our traps shut about the 'W'. LOL

JanuaryBride06 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 10:31 AM

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We talk about the wedding but not everyday. I really can't handle doing wedding stuff 24/7 and so we talk about it three or four times each week and then in between we'll email each other about honeymoon prices or any issues that come up.

We talked about it constantly in the beginning and it just made me too stressed out. This new way has been better for us and we accomplish more.

kissy27 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 10:32 AM

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Posted by cantwait2bewed

I try not to talk to much about the wedding b/c my FI has only one thing on his mind right now, and thats closing on our home. I am doing basically all of the planning, however if he has to go with me on appts. he has been very good about that. If its money issues then i bring it up to him otherwise i keep the planning talk at a min.

I am in the same boat! I try to keep the wedding talking to a minimum lately with FH bc he is so pre-occuppied with the closing on our house & purchasing furniture! I tell him when I need to send out payments & when I am deducting from our 'wedding account' but otherwise, I talk to my mom or FSIL about the wedding planning

cjb88 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 10:34 AM

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FI got a bit overwhelmed when we first got engaged because I took off and started with all these vendors and wanting to book them and he wanted to kill me!! He said he wasnt ready for it yet and just wanted to enjoy the engagement... I told him the ring he gave me meant he was ready for the planning!! I just think he didnt realize that so much had to be done so soon...now that things have slowed down he is much better about discussing wedding stuff.. but sometimes it is still like pulling teeth!

leese Posted: Jul 13, 2005 10:51 AM

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he used to hate it but i've cooled down a bit. after you book your majors...there is little to do till a few months before.

jilmadison Posted: Jul 13, 2005 01:25 PM

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MY FI is an event planner, so I think he enjoys it more than I do!

shellnroc Posted: Jul 13, 2005 01:27 PM

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Posted by cjb88

FI got a bit overwhelmed when we first got engaged because I took off and started with all these vendors and wanting to book them and he wanted to kill me!! He said he wasnt ready for it yet and just wanted to enjoy the engagement... I told him the ring he gave me meant he was ready for the planning!! I just think he didnt realize that so much had to be done so soon...now that things have slowed down he is much better about discussing wedding stuff.. but sometimes it is still like pulling teeth!

That is the way it has been with me EXACTLY!!!
FH didn't realize so much had to be done.
It's really like pulling teeth with him.

But he has said all I talk about is the wedding. I try not to bring it up as much but there are things are my mind that I need to discuss with him. I don't want the wedding to consume our whole relationship. It is an exciting time and stressful. But it's one day and focusing on our relationship is much more important.

LMFitz Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:08 PM

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My FI's biggest fear when we got engaged was that the wedding would consume our lives. So....I've made it a point not to talk about it a lot. He's not interested in being involved in the planning - plus he's not even living here right now (he's in Albany in the State Trooper Academy) - so the little time I get with him each weekend is NOT spent talking wedding.

I deal with mostly everything - since he'd just defer to my judgement anyway. Once in a while, I'll go through a few issues that are wedding-related, so he doesn't feel like it's coming at him every two minutes.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:32 PM

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Well, we only see each other on weekends, so sometimes its hard not to talk about it. But now that we have gotten most of the planning done, we don't have to think about it as much. I think if you asked him, he would jonkingly say yes, I talk about it to much, but he wouldn't really mean it.

MayBride06 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:37 PM

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Posted by cjb88

FI got a bit overwhelmed when we first got engaged because I took off and started with all these vendors and wanting to book them and he wanted to kill me!! He said he wasnt ready for it yet and just wanted to enjoy the engagement... I told him the ring he gave me meant he was ready for the planning!! I just think he didnt realize that so much had to be done so soon...now that things have slowed down he is much better about discussing wedding stuff.. but sometimes it is still like pulling teeth!

this was exactly us! He said I always talked about it when I didnt! Now he seems like he is getting more into it!! More supportive too!!

SIBride06 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 02:49 PM

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No not at all.. I do most of my wedding talking with my mom, my brother (who is also planning a wedding), my MOH and you girls. We talk about the wedding when it comes up, but mostly about how we cant wait & things like that. Its also fun when we book a vendor because weshare the news with a gazillion people.

Actually now that I think about it, I know sooooo many people that are engaged. Im all wedding-talked out whern I speak with them that by the time I see Anthony, we just talk about anything BUT weddings!

M&S Sept12006 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 03:49 PM

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Since we just started planning, everytime I talk about the wedding my FH just takes a deep breath and Yes Dears me to death!!!!!!! At first I was taking it personal and now I sort of got used it and dont talk about it as much. I guess men are just different-they enjoy it when the day comes, but we're the ones who do the actual work

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iffer042373 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 03:53 PM

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In the begining thats all we talked about but now that all th major stuff is pretty much done we are taking a little break and not really talking about it we do discussthings here and there but for the most part we talk about it equally

cjb88 Posted: Jul 13, 2005 04:20 PM

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It's good to know that other girls are experiencing similar situations... makes me feel less crazy!!!

MrsP2Be Posted: Jul 13, 2005 05:49 PM

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Yes and my mother has said I don't talk about anything else either!

july06bride Posted: Jul 13, 2005 06:26 PM

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i do, but he hasnt complained too much i want to get a lot done before i begin work again in sept

BKtoLI Posted: Jul 13, 2005 07:15 PM

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Posted by M&S Sept292006

Since we just started planning, everytime I talk about the wedding my FH just takes a deep breath and Yes Dears me to death!!!!!!! At first I was taking it personal and now I sort of got used it and dont talk about it as much. I guess men are just different-they enjoy it when the day comes, but we're the ones who do the actual work

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Mine does the same thing!! Yes Dears me to death!! That and when he gets annoyed says 'wedding, wedding, wedding, that's all I hear'. So I;ve calmed down a bit. We just want to get the major vendors out of the way so we can relax for about 6 months!!!