Does your FMIL show absolutely NO interest in you and your FH's

Original post by BellaEyes

Apr 05, 2006 11:22 PM

Wedding? Just wondering..

Mine does not show any interest at all. Hey I'm not letting it bother me.. The less I have to hear from her (them) the better. That's the way I see it.

afrodyt2000 Posted: Apr 06, 2006 11:42 AM

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Posted by kmkelly

Posted by afrodyt2000

no. my family shows less interest than his.

I know. My mother shows very little interest at all. I guess because I'm older and ALL of my siblings have been married (one twice) so she's weddinged out. Plus she's in Florida. I feel like I'm on my own and wish it wasn't that way.

(Feeling sorry for myself???? Maybe.)

My situation is different. I'm the oldest, first to get married, only 24 (25 at the wedding) and there's just no interest really. I'm sort of over it now though, because I'm excited enough for myself.

October Bliss Posted: Apr 06, 2006 11:46 AM

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My FMIL helped plan weddings for 3 daughters. In her opinion it is not her place to offer suggestions and input for her son. For the things that do concern her (like her dress) she showed a LOT of interest but insisted I go shopping with her to make sure I liked what she picked. Yesterday we FINALLY got her to a showcase at the reception hall so she could see it. She was MUCH more enthusiastic than my mother when she first saw it.

roxyspark Posted: Apr 06, 2006 12:01 PM

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FMIL didn't care about any of the planning, but she was very interested in the guest list. She wanted to make sure all of her friends were invited.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Apr 06, 2006 12:06 PM

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Posted by dleeny

for me it was the opposite. my MIL showed A LOT of interest and my mom - nada! not until the very end anyway.

ETA: after the wedding, my mom wouldn't stop talking about the wedding. I couldn't believe it. I was done with it and wanted to move on and that's all she talked about. It really got to me at times. it would have been nice if she was like that BEFORE the wedding!

Yeah, I'm in the same situation. My FMIL went with me for dress and veil shopping and loves all the DIY stuff I do. My mom could care less. My FMIL said she felt bad that my mom lives so far away and could not come and enjoy the planning with me. But I keep telling her my mom is not like that. Even if she lived in NY she would not enjoy the planning. She doens't take enjoyment in life.

Deedlebug126 Posted: Apr 06, 2006 12:18 PM

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Neither my FMIL or FFIL (they are divorced) give a crap about our wedding. I cannot get them to give me guests lists after months of asking, they never ask about the wedding or bring it up. I hate them

JXNOscar Posted: Apr 06, 2006 12:24 PM

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Zero interest

JXNOscar Posted: Apr 06, 2006 12:31 PM

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Zero

EJSD2006 Posted: Apr 06, 2006 12:47 PM

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no, both families have been pretty involved in the wedding planning. but FH's mom seems to be the most opinionated. if i show her something, i'm always scared of what her reaction will be...will she like/will she hate it? at this point though, i'm just like i don't care one way or the other. i'm running out of time so it's my way or the highway!

ccraz Posted: Apr 06, 2006 04:12 PM

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My FMIL is not the one, unfortunately it's the rest of the IL's The funny thing is, it's only with us that they are not intrested...not the other siblings At this point, I really don't know how to feel..except feel happy that FH and I, and EVERYONE else are happy that we are getting married in 4 months What else can I do?

brittny817 Posted: Apr 06, 2006 05:24 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

me too!! but my FMIL is a sweet lady and just isn't into that kind of stuff.

she smiles and says 'That's nice' when we tell her wedding stuff---but i think it's cause she figures it's our thing....and doesn't get super excited about it.

Same exact thing here...I think she is more afriad of giving her opinion and offending us rather than giving her opionion as a sign of interest. She's very sweet so I don't let it get to me. She also has a daughter that will get married some day. She'll probably be more involved with her wedding. The less people out of my way the better

adamsangel Posted: Apr 06, 2006 11:20 PM

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My FMIL hadn't spoken to me and FH in about five months... the day after she decides to speak to us again she complains to FH that she's more involved in the planning of her nephew's wedding than her own son's....HELLO?? you weren't speaking to us and now expect to help with my wedding? I'm trying to think of something for her to help me with but being that she isn't paying for anything and my parents are they are going to look at the vendors with me and FH, not her. I wish she would show no interest...I'm very close to my mom and sister and FMIL hates my mom(who is a very nice person by the way) so I'd rather she be one of the 'oh' FMIL's!!! lol.