DONATION DILEMMA

I am thinking of doing a donation to American Cancer Society instead of a wedding favor. Both my grandparents passed away last summer due to cancer and I was EXTREMELY close to them.

The ACS provides you with wedding scrolls that explain the donation and you can put IN LOVING MEMORY OF. I would want to put my grandparents names...

Here is the dilemma, FH's grandfather passed away a year and half ago ( not to cancer) and his grandmother did a long time ago when he was very young. I feel bad making the donation in loving memory of my grandparents and not them...

what should i do? All opinions needed PLEASE

Oh yea, and we are doing memory candles and vases and all the grandparents on both sides will have one... :

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Is there another charity or organization that you could honor your FH's grandparents with? Then you could make your own scrolls (really easy on Word and very inexpensive!!) and write that you are donating to ________ and ACS in honor of our grandparents etc.
We honored both our dads by donating to 2 different organizations, one for each.

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Posted by sophisticat13

Is there another charity or organization that you could honor your FH's grandparents with? Then you could make your own scrolls (really easy on Word and very inexpensive!!) and write that you are donating to ________ and ACS in honor of our grandparents etc.
We honored both our dads by donating to 2 different organizations, one for each.

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Thats actually a great idea...but FH's grandfather passed away because of old age...well he had back problems and then just really never recovered...so I dont know of an organization for that...

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Posted by blu6385

i would ask FH if he minds and/or if his family may get insulted if they wont just use your grandparents name ... if you think the would i would just say in loving memory of all that passed

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I mean I don't mind putting their names on it also, I would be more then happy to but I wasnt sure if it would be ok since they didn't pass from cancer...

10er crashing!

i was originally going to donate to ACS also beacuse both my grandma's died from cancer but FH didnt like the idea. we had to compromise and now we are doing ronald mcdonald house, because i have a family member who has stayed there and FH works at the school near one, so the kids who stay there are his students.

i dont know how you feel about changing to foundation but is there another one that would work for both of you? how does FH feel about it?

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Posted by blu6385

i would ask FH if he minds and/or if his family may get insulted if they wont just use your grandparents name ... if you think the would i would just say in loving memory of all that passed

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PS. YOUR MY DATE TWIN !

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Posted by cateydee

10er crashing!

i was originally going to donate to ACS also beacuse both my grandma's died from cancer but FH didnt like the idea. we had to compromise and now we are doing ronald mcdonald house, because i have a family member who has stayed there and FH works at the school near one, so the kids who stay there are his students.

i dont know how you feel about changing to foundation but is there another one that would work for both of you? how does FH feel about it?

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I was just thinking of maybe donating to Autism Speaks since I am a teacher in a self contained class with kids with autism and FH used to be a TA in college for Nassau BOCES.

We have the unity candles in honor of my grandparents and his so its not like they wont be honored...also I am having a picture of my grandparents on my BO-K charm...

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Posted by FutureSMwifey

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Posted by blu6385

i would ask FH if he minds and/or if his family may get insulted if they wont just use your grandparents name ... if you think the would i would just say in loving memory of all that passed

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I mean I don't mind putting their names on it also, I would be more then happy to but I wasnt sure if it would be ok since they didn't pass from cancer...

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i guess in the long run it wont really matter but I would def. check with FH family and see how they feel

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Posted by galgirl

we went to idocharities.com and we donated to ACS and the little shelter in Huntington because we are animal lovers.. we put both on one card.

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do they provide you with cards?

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Posted by galgirl

yes, you pay for them but we got the simple ones and it was like $35 for 250

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i cant find the website idocharities.com.. hmm

http://www.idofoundation.org/


sorry! here it is!

we did donations too and just did little jordan almond favors so we just made our own cards . on one side it had the poem for the jordan almonds and the other the two donations we did and what they each represented to us so you could do that. . is there something else that would have meant something to them. . like did they like the outdoors (arbor society ), kids causes, animals, etc.

like

a donation has been made etc. etc. .

cancer society - in memory of
blank blank . . in memory o f

or just cancer society but something more generic. like. . in the hope that no one will lose someone they love before their time. .

I don't know if you'd want to do this, but why don't you make the donation 'in honor of' your marriage, and you can explain that it is in loving memory of your grandparents however you make guests aware of your donation.

Making a donation in memory of someone doesn't mean that they necessarily were directly effected by the subject of the donation, though, so I don't really see a problem in making it in memory of all your grandparents.

we are donating to 2 places since they were both great carities that actually help military familes