Don't think my dad is coming

Sunflower08 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:49 AM

Don't think my dad is coming

I truly believe that my father will not be attending my wedding. Story short - he remarried and has not been the same ever since, his wife hates my sisters and I, and I just think she does not want him to attend. My wedding is 6 months away and at this point I don't think he will be RSVP-ing yes.
I feel like the wedding has a mind of it's own and I am just not enjoying the planning procces anymore.

Espo22 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:50 AM

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has there been signs recently that make you think he won't go? has he said anything?

yelley77 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:50 AM

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I'm so sorry to hear that. Maybe you could call him and tell him how much it means to you for him to be there regardless of how his wife feels about you guys? I mean, you ARE his daughter....

AndRecKy Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:50 AM

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have you tried to talk to him about this?

bella1028 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:50 AM

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i am reallysorry to hear this...do you think talking to him soon rather than waiting on an RSVP might help the situation?

mariaobride Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:52 AM

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i am sorry that you are going through no matter what you will still be surrounded w/ friends & family that truly love you -you never know maybe he will show just not w/ his wife

Sunflower08 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:52 AM

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He continues to argue with me......and it is spiraling out of control. He is so rude to my FH and has not asked me one detail about the wedding. It's just pretty evident that this is the way it will be. But thanks girls for the advice....I really appreciate it

catsgirl Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:54 AM

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maybe you should call and talk to him, and please enjoy your wedding planning you deserve that it is your big day, and if he dont come he will be the one missing out, but i think you should give him a call.

tlp123 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:54 AM

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I am so sorry. It is so sad how families can be.

Future Mulligan Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:55 AM

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its your dad's loss not yours. if he doesnt attend i am sure he will end up regretting it in the future. im sorry that you feel this way and have to deal with this

missexcited Posted: Dec 31, 2007 10:58 AM

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Honestly I wouldn't want him there if he was going to be rude to my FH or if his wife was going to come and knowing she does not like you and your sisters. The last thing you want at your wed is drama.

MikeandJess Posted: Dec 31, 2007 11:18 AM

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You should call him and let him know how important it is to you that he walks you down the aisle

megzzie Posted: Dec 31, 2007 11:20 AM

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I'm so sorry you're going through this

Try talking to him one more time and tell him how important it is to you that he be there. Good luck and feel better

FutureMrsCarrieri Posted: Dec 31, 2007 12:13 PM

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my good friend had the same problem and she had a close male relative take her dad's place. He walked her down the aisle, danced the first dance with her and even toasted the happy couple. It was still beautiful and touching.

If his wife is going to f up your day and he is going to stand by and let it happen, then they both need to stay home.

hugs to you!

mandag Posted: Dec 31, 2007 12:17 PM

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Have you ever thought about writing him a letter? Sometimes I think it helps to be able to get down all of your thoughts without the other side arguing while you are trying to talk. And maybe if it was something that expressed how much he means to you and how sad you are about the way things have turned out - then given time - and the chance to read it and really let it sink in - he might rethink his position?

Good luck.

Soon2beAlberti Posted: Dec 31, 2007 12:17 PM

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well not for nothing but if he would let another woman get in the way of being there for his baby girls special day...well he's not much of a father at all...and he isn't worthy of sharing in ur special day anyway. I'm sorry to speak that way about ur dad...but you deserve more than that.

MJDoc12 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 12:19 PM

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can you talk to the new wife and express to her that whatever differences you might have---you NEED your father there and you hope she put the drama aside for that day?

i'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Espo22 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 12:45 PM

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he might just be stubborn and act this way but i truly hope he will attend your wedding

Butterfly123 Posted: Dec 31, 2007 12:46 PM

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

well not for nothing but if he would let another woman get in the way of being there for his baby girls special day...well he's not much of a father at all...and he isn't worthy of sharing in ur special day anyway. I'm sorry to speak that way about ur dad...but you deserve more than that.

I agree. Have a talk with him and let him know how much it means for you to have him there.

Princess Cut Bride Posted: Dec 31, 2007 01:09 PM

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I'm sooo sorry you are going through this! Try talking to him and let him know how much it would mean to you to have him there on your special day. Make him realize that you ARE his family and you should come first!