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sorry to vent again, but she has done it again---

my FMIL call yesterday and told me that she is going away for 10 days in November on a cruise (a great deal they could not pass up) she will be back 2- YES TWO days before the wedding and she is hosting the RD for 25 at her house the day she gets back!!! i had nothing to say-- my mouth dropped open and hit the floor when she told me this- i know her and she will make a mess of this whole dinner party- what should i say to this new mess- oh yea for those who remember the rainbow nightmare jacket has reared its head again and she is looking to wear it to the wedding again!!- i give up--

sorry for the long vent!!!!

I say just host the Rehearsal Dinner yourself. That's crazy but if she's hosting then it's her choice. I'd just tell her, listen dont worry about it.

Can't you just host a small party at a restaurant or something yourself, this way you can do it YOUR way???? I would def. do that. She sounds like a nightmare.

Lately yes!!!!!!!!!!! Beyond anything I could imagine. now i know why my FH did not take to meet them until we were dating for over 6 months lol- i though he was keeping me away because i was still married to my ex when we started dating but now i know the truth

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Posted by anamaree77

I say just host the Rehearsal Dinner yourself. That's crazy but if she's hosting then it's her choice. I'd just tell her, listen dont worry about it.

Can't you just host a small party at a restaurant or something yourself, this way you can do it YOUR way???? I would def. do that. She sounds like a nightmare.

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I agree. DON'T let her host the party...just take it into your own hands otherwise you will be stressed out the day of the RD and you don't need that. That way you know everything is set for the RD and all she has to do is come if she wants.

I would do the reverse psychology and say something like this....
' Enjoy your cruise, have a wonderful time. I dont want you to have to worry about coming home and having a house full of people,you'll have laundry to do and you need to prepare for the wedding. The last thing you need is to be a host. Me and your son will take care of it, not a problem. Have a great time !'
Try that, so its like you were so grateful, and at the same time basically telling her thanks but no thanks!

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Posted by deb08

sorry to vent again, but she has done it again---

my FMIL call yesterday and told me that she is going away for 10 days in November on a cruise (a great deal they could not pass up) she will be back 2- YES TWO days before the wedding and she is hosting the RD for 25 at her house the day she gets back!!! i had nothing to say-- my mouth dropped open and hit the floor when she told me this- i know her and she will make a mess of this whole dinner party- what should i say to this new mess- oh yea for those who remember the rainbow nightmare jacket has reared its head again and she is looking to wear it to the wedding again!!- i give up--

sorry for the long vent!!!!

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Where do you live? Do you and your FH live together? Do you have enough room to host the RD yourselves? Thats what I would do. Itll just save you stress. Sorry that this is something u have to deal with. Id be annoyed!

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Posted by dgrn897

I would do the reverse psychology and say something like this....
' Enjoy your cruise, have a wonderful time. I dont want you to have to worry about coming home and having a house full of people,you'll have laundry to do and you need to prepare for the wedding. The last thing you need is to be a host. Me and your son will take care of it, not a problem. Have a great time !'
Try that, so its like you were so grateful, and at the same time basically telling her thanks but no thanks!

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I agree...def,. take over but do it diplomatically...at the end of the day you still have to deal with her the rest of your life.

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Posted by Kimbalina

Dont let her host the dinner. That is nice she wants to take a vacation... but you need to know that it will be done in time and decently

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i agree! poor you!

thanks ladies- we cant do it at our house we live up state- but i am def calling my MOH & BM (fsil) and see about going some where and telling her dont worry- i cant deal with the stress the night before the wedding with crap like this--its a bunch of bull!!!! i am not going to worry about it now when it gets closer i will take care of it

thanks all!!!

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Posted by deb08

sorry to vent again, but she has done it again---

my FMIL call yesterday and told me that she is going away for 10 days in November on a cruise (a great deal they could not pass up) she will be back 2- YES TWO days before the wedding and she is hosting the RD for 25 at her house the day she gets back!!! i had nothing to say-- my mouth dropped open and hit the floor when she told me this- i know her and she will make a mess of this whole dinner party- what should i say to this new mess- oh yea for those who remember the rainbow nightmare jacket has reared its head again and she is looking to wear it to the wedding again!!- i give up--

sorry for the long vent!!!!

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convince her to take the rainbow bright outfit on the cruise & maybe FFIL can throw it overboard

If you need some options, I know of some places that can host dinners for a very cost effective price. Definitely host it yourself. Use the reverse pyschology for sure.

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Posted by futuremrsfab

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Posted by deb08

sorry to vent again, but she has done it again---

my FMIL call yesterday and told me that she is going away for 10 days in November on a cruise (a great deal they could not pass up) she will be back 2- YES TWO days before the wedding and she is hosting the RD for 25 at her house the day she gets back!!! i had nothing to say-- my mouth dropped open and hit the floor when she told me this- i know her and she will make a mess of this whole dinner party- what should i say to this new mess- oh yea for those who remember the rainbow nightmare jacket has reared its head again and she is looking to wear it to the wedding again!!- i give up--

sorry for the long vent!!!!

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convince her to take the rainbow bright outfit on the cruise & maybe FFIL can throw it overboard

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that bag can get lost omg that would be soooooo good!!!!