drama, how do i deal ?

sorry this is long, but i need to give details

I come from a very large family and extended family

i have 6 sisters and 1 brother, so my immediate family is 26 people ( spouses and oldest children)

I have about 10 uncles & aunts with NUMEROUS cousins

FH and I decided, since we are paying for this wedding alone, we are only inviting immediate family on my side

FH's entire family with aunts and uncles only numbers 10 people, so they are all coming

Now I've got family coming out of the wood work
asking me for event dates and wedding date

They tell me they can't wait to party

my one cousin (who move to NC about 15 yrs ago)
just ask my wedding date, i think she assumes she is invited (she invited me to hers)

THEY ARE NOT INVITED

do I tell them?
or blow em off and they will get the hint when no invite shows in the mail??

That is tough, hard not to invite someone who had you at hers.

I'm not sure, maybe a party just for your family?

I'll think about it, but tough!

i would probably tell the cousins and whatnot that you're having a small wedding wtih only your immediate family and you're sorry but you'll find another time to celebrate.

give them time to get used to teh idea

but it's gonna be tough regardless .... good luck

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

i would probably tell the cousins and whatnot that you're having a small wedding wtih only your immediate family and you're sorry but you'll find another time to celebrate.

give them time to get used to teh idea

but it's gonna be tough regardless .... good luck

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this seems to be the best way to handle the situation. Its tough and some people will probably be offended, but in the end, its your wedding!

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Posted by kshea23

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

i would probably tell the cousins and whatnot that you're having a small wedding wtih only your immediate family and you're sorry but you'll find another time to celebrate.

give them time to get used to teh idea

but it's gonna be tough regardless .... good luck

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this seems to be the best way to handle the situation. Its tough and some people will probably be offended, but in the end, its your wedding!

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Definately this. You don't want to have to keep dodging the questions from people either

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Posted by Im getting Married

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Posted by kshea23

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

i would probably tell the cousins and whatnot that you're having a small wedding wtih only your immediate family and you're sorry but you'll find another time to celebrate.

give them time to get used to teh idea

but it's gonna be tough regardless .... good luck

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this seems to be the best way to handle the situation. Its tough and some people will probably be offended, but in the end, its your wedding!

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Definately this. You don't want to have to keep dodging the questions from people either

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I agree with all this. But it still sucks to have to tell them, I''m sorry.

blow them off and let them get the hint.

that's what I did lol

thank guys. i wish i could invite them all, but i cant invite one uncle or aunt without inviting the other

or one cousin without inviting the other... so it makes the whole thing easier to invite none, instead of some..

I guess on a person by person basis, ill let a couple family members know...then hope it spreads like wildfire LOL

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Posted by JandA20

Just be honest. Tell them that since you and FH are paying for everything yourselves that you must have a small wedding therefore you can only afford to invite your immediate family. They might be a little hurt in the beginning but they'll realize you had no choice. So everything should turn out ok. Let them know how much it hurts you not to be able to invite them.

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Do this!

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Posted by MNM0805

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Posted by JandA20

Just be honest. Tell them that since you and FH are paying for everything yourselves that you must have a small wedding therefore you can only afford to invite your immediate family. They might be a little hurt in the beginning but they'll realize you had no choice. So everything should turn out ok. Let them know how much it hurts you not to be able to invite them.

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Do this!

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Definitely I really don't see another way out of this sticky situation.

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Posted by JandA20

Just be honest. Tell them that since you and FH are paying for everything yourselves that you must have a small wedding therefore you can only afford to invite your immediate family. They might be a little hurt in the beginning but they'll realize you had no choice. So everything should turn out ok. Let them know how much it hurts you not to be able to invite them.

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I think that is ok. I think it would be different if your rents were paying for their family, but they aren't!

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Posted by JandA20

Just be honest. Tell them that since you and FH are paying for everything yourselves that you must have a small wedding therefore you can only afford to invite your immediate family. They might be a little hurt in the beginning but they'll realize you had no choice. So everything should turn out ok. Let them know how much it hurts you not to be able to invite them.

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This, but since your getting married in April maybe you could do a bbq or family get together where you can invite everyone sometime during the summer. This way they'll still feel like their included in you guys special moment (even if it is a few months later lol)

Be honest..

It's a small wedding and we can't afford to invite everyone that we want to. I'm in the same boat.

Thats a tough situation Love..

I would just let it go for now and if they keep asking explain the truth that you guys are paying for this wedding on your own and its costing a ton of money so you really cant afford to have everyone you wanted to... Tell them its just immediate family and friends and BP...

Good Luck Sweetness! <3 Here if u need me

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

Be honest..

It's a small wedding and we can't afford to invite everyone that we want to. I'm in the same boat.

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This.

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Posted by DCgirl82

Thats a tough situation Love..

I would just let it go for now and if they keep asking explain the truth that you guys are paying for this wedding on your own and its costing a ton of money so you really cant afford to have everyone you wanted to... Tell them its just immediate family and friends and BP...

Good Luck Sweetness! <3 Here if u need me

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XOXO MUUWWWAHHH!!!

Honestly I blow them off. Which is soo not like me!! I am usually cut dry and straight up but some ppl who are asking are honestly soo sweet but I am just not close to them. I think if I am my normal bitchy self I might hurt them