I come from a very large family and extended family
i have 6 sisters and 1 brother, so my immediate family is 26 people ( spouses and oldest children)
I have about 10 uncles & aunts with NUMEROUS cousins
FH and I decided, since we are paying for this wedding alone, we are only inviting immediate family on my side
FH's entire family with aunts and uncles only numbers 10 people, so they are all coming
Now I've got family coming out of the wood work asking me for event dates and wedding date
They tell me they can't wait to party
my one cousin (who move to NC about 15 yrs ago) just ask my wedding date, i think she assumes she is invited (she invited me to hers)
THEY ARE NOT INVITED
do I tell them? or blow em off and they will get the hint when no invite shows in the mail??
lilgem250
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Re: drama, how do i deal ?
Posted by JandA20
Just be honest. Tell them that since you and FH are paying for everything yourselves that you must have a small wedding therefore you can only afford to invite your immediate family. They might be a little hurt in the beginning but they'll realize you had no choice. So everything should turn out ok. Let them know how much it hurts you not to be able to invite them.
I like this idea.
Chelechel1
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Re: drama, how do i deal ?
Posted by MNM0805
Posted by JandA20
Just be honest. Tell them that since you and FH are paying for everything yourselves that you must have a small wedding therefore you can only afford to invite your immediate family. They might be a little hurt in the beginning but they'll realize you had no choice. So everything should turn out ok. Let them know how much it hurts you not to be able to invite them.
Do this!
ITA And I agree with Holber57 also. Maybe you can have a party for your family in the summer when the weather is warmer. This is hard. But they should understand your financial situation, given the current economy.
VCanizalez
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Re: drama, how do i deal ?
Posted by JandA20
Just be honest. Tell them that since you and FH are paying for everything yourselves that you must have a small wedding therefore you can only afford to invite your immediate family. They might be a little hurt in the beginning but they'll realize you had no choice. So everything should turn out ok. Let them know how much it hurts you not to be able to invite them.
