Since some people on both sides of the family tend to go slightly overboard with drinking I have decided to purchase everyone a carnation pin on corsage. Those in white are fine and those in pink will have a 3 drink min. NO ONE but me, FH, and the bartenders will know this. I don't want anyone sick or drving drunk!!!!!!!!!!
I think that the person with a different color will pick up on something when they aren't allowed a fourth drink. Its an interesting idea but I am not sure it will realistically work.
Posted by GabrielleandJohn
As a bartender at weddings I would say ouch. That is a really hard position to put your vendor in. Here is my suggestion:
Tell the bartender that the people with the pink corsages should have 1/2 water drinks. This way they don't need to cut them off but they are still slowing them down.
Yea, I wouldn't do the carnation thing, but definitely tell the bartender to make the drinks weak.
Posted by MJDoc12
i understand where you are coming from---but i don't think that would be a very good idea. ppl will start figuring it out--and of course ppl will also want to know why they have pink and the others have white.
and not to sound snobby---making ppl wear carnations at your wedding seems kind of um....bad.
i think you should point out some ppl to the bartenders and make sure their drinks are watery--that's the best solution i would think of
I'm in a very similar situation. What my BM told me to do is to let my maitre' D know who they are and they'll notify the bartenders. However, I'm going a step further and am actually providing pictures of the people to the hall and am insisting on meeting my bartenders prior to my wedding to discuss this with them. I'm also hiring a bouncer to watch the crowd....yes, it gets a tad wild. Honestly, if I could get out of inviting some of these people, it would ease a lot of stress out of my day but unfortunately, that isn't an option. Definitely express your concerns to your hall.
Posted by lollipop
I'm in a very similar situation. What my BM told me to do is to let my maitre' D know who they are and they'll notify the bartenders. However, I'm going a step further and am actually providing pictures of the people to the hall and am insisting on meeting my bartenders prior to my wedding to discuss this with them. I'm also hiring a bouncer to watch the crowd....yes, it gets a tad wild. Honestly, if I could get out of inviting some of these people, it would ease a lot of stress out of my day but unfortunately, that isn't an option. Definitely express your concerns to your hall.
Posted by GabrielleandJohn
As a bartender at weddings I would say ouch. That is a really hard position to put your vendor in. Here is my suggestion:
Tell the bartender that the people with the pink corsages should have 1/2 water drinks. This way they don't need to cut them off but they are still slowing them down.
we're doing unlimited beer & wine with one signature drink to cut down on the drunken factor-- we will have wine tasting & are having the bar inside open if people want to purchase a particular drink....FH doesn't drink and this was the best solution we came up with...
I agree with everyone-just have them make the drinks weak!
Posted by ellebelle1
Yea, I wouldn't do the carnation thing, but definitely tell the bartender to make the drinks weak.
Posted by STBMrsDaniRella
Posted by lollipop
I'm in a very similar situation. What my BM told me to do is to let my maitre' D know who they are and they'll notify the bartenders. However, I'm going a step further and am actually providing pictures of the people to the hall and am insisting on meeting my bartenders prior to my wedding to discuss this with them. I'm also hiring a bouncer to watch the crowd....yes, it gets a tad wild. Honestly, if I could get out of inviting some of these people, it would ease a lot of stress out of my day but unfortunately, that isn't an option. Definitely express your concerns to your hall.![]()
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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella
Posted by MJDoc12
i understand where you are coming from---but i don't think that would be a very good idea. ppl will start figuring it out--and of course ppl will also want to know why they have pink and the others have white.
and not to sound snobby---making ppl wear carnations at your wedding seems kind of um....bad.
i think you should point out some ppl to the bartenders and make sure their drinks are watery--that's the best solution i would think of
i agree.
i'm sorry, i can understand your concerns, it's a tuff situation![]()
I like the idea... but if the people figure it out they might be embarrassed to realize you don't trust them drinking.. or they might be embarrassed b/c oher people will see the different color carnations and judge them
No offense, but you can't control other adults' actions. And, not that I am a big drinker, but if I ever found out somebody did that to me, I would be pissed. Maybe if you feel so strongly about it, you could just have a conversation with these people before the wedding and ask them to go easy out of respect for you. Honesty is the best policy!
