Edited: The definition of DRAMA (Formerly a major vent)

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Drama: Expressing differing beliefs and opinions with others in a malicious, degrading, and insulting manner.

Debate: Expressing differing beliefs and opinions with others in a respectful manner.

Let's not get the two confused

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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Posted by WinterBride08

Seriously, what is going on with some of you girls recently?? Maybe it's because it's September 11th and a lot of people are stressed? It's like people can't post their opinions on this board anymore without being attacked! What the heck is going on?? Someone doesn't want to feed her vendors. Okay. As silly as it may sound to you, why do you care?? You're going to feed yours right? That's what she wants to do and you disgree with it. Great. Move on!

Someone feels $50 was too little for a wedding gift. Okay. You disagree, you don't mind receiving $50 as a gift. Great. MOVE. ON.

Someone wants to post about e-rings. You think it's tacky. Great. Don't post on that thread and Move ON!

Why do people feel the need to insult others because they have different personalities and opinions?? People are different, people act different, why are you so bothered by OTHER people's actions?

If you hate drama so much, stop perpetuating it, stop posting on their threads, stop insulting them, it's as simple as that! Sheeeessh .....

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thanks about that...(bc mine is in there) and i agree...and with my thread..i wasnt upset even if i sounded mad or angry. it was just to clear it up.

but i agree with ya!

did you read the thread where the girl is asking about feeding vendors? uhmmm we all answered that we will and she is the one who got mad at us and went off and started giving us attitude

and the whole $50 for a wedding, nobody got into an arguement on there...we all said our side and discussed it in a civilized manner, nobody went off on eachother or put someone down for how they feel...THeres nothing wrong with ppl stating their opinions and doing it in a civilized way. There really was no drama on there...I mean honestly seeing threads that are all 'OMG i agree yes' kinda gets annoying i feel like so many ppl are fake then. Were all adults and should be able to have a discussion at times with differences of opinions, its normal as long as it doesnt get out of hand

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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i'm sure it will, but unlike others, i'm not afraid of the drama...it just pisses me off when brides say 'oohhh I hate drama, I hate eels,just ignore them' and then they do exactly what they get mad at other brides for doing!

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Posted by MPAS

YOu changed your name, lol.

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FH's ex drama

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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i agree-- if you dont want drama why even start this post ?
seems very hypocritical to me!

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Posted by Espo22

did you read the thread where the girl is asking about feeding vendors? uhmmm we all answered that we will and she is the one who got mad at us and went off and started giving us attitude

and the whole $50 for a wedding, nobody got into an arguement on there...we all said our side and discussed it in a civilized manner, nobody went off on eachother or put someone down for how they feel...THeres nothing wrong with ppl stating their opinions and doing it in a civilized way. There really was no drama on there...I mean honestly seeing threads that are all 'OMG i agree yes' kinda gets annoying i feel like so many ppl are fake then. Were all adults and should be able to have a discussion at times with differences of opinions, its normal as long as it doesnt get out of hand

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I agree with that 100%, but for some reason, a lot of times if people have different opinions on a thread, the thread grows to like 14 pages and it's called drama! Everyone isn't going to agree on everything and I don't see what's wrong with that...as long as people express themselves in a civilized manner and they don't attack other people....I notice a lot of times though that when one person disagrees with something other girls sometimes hop on the bandwagon and start saying hurtful things...

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Posted by WinterBride08

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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i'm sure it will, but unlike others, i'm not afraid of the drama...it just pisses me off when brides say 'oohhh I hate drama, I hate eels,just ignore them' and then they do exactly what they get mad at other brides for doing!

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honestly i dont really think there is drama today lol...like i said the feeding vendors thing is ONE girl getting mad at all of us bc we dont agree with her and she went off on us. I dont think most of us are taking it seriously or even getting mad.

And the whole Diane thread about $50, actually i was thinking this morning how girls stated their opinions without being rude or nasty, and didnt turn into an all out war. Like the real world not everyone is going to agree about everything, its a part of life. I used to go on a MB where i constantly debated about politics and i would sit there and disagree with my cousin and other friends that went on there too, but it was just that. Debate is one thing, insulting someone and being rude is another

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Posted by ElizA608

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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i agree-- if you dont want drama why even start this post ?
seems very hypocritical to me!

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Re-read my post, I never said I hated drama...and if you notice, I don't know why this thread needs to be 'DRAMA,' all I did was state my opinion! It's like that is frowned upon now, it's really ridiculous

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Posted by WinterBride08

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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i'm sure it will, but unlike others, i'm not afraid of the drama...it just pisses me off when brides say 'oohhh I hate drama, I hate eels,just ignore them' and then they do exactly what they get mad at other brides for doing!

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i am really honestly not trying to be mean here by saying this...but i think by you starting this thread is being contradictory. you said you are tired of people saying they hate the drama and just make a thread to say you dont agree with it as well and telling us to just ignore it and stuff....with that said

i do agree i think it is silly i just ignore the eal threads now and i do state my opinion in some threads. but i know not everyone is going to agree with me and i move on if someone doesnt. but i do like advice whether negative or positive. but honestly i am going to defend myself if someone disrespects me or any one else on this site but also if they are rude or nasty about something which tends to start drama and i belive that is why we do have alot of drama we try to defend ourselves.

plus when you got 1000+ women on one site we are going to disagree about things. and unfortunately it would be nice to agree to disagree but some people just dont get that!

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by WinterBride08

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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i'm sure it will, but unlike others, i'm not afraid of the drama...it just pisses me off when brides say 'oohhh I hate drama, I hate eels,just ignore them' and then they do exactly what they get mad at other brides for doing!

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Debate is one thing, insulting someone and being rude is another

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I agree with that, I think drama starts when someone starts attacking someone else, but if all you're doing is disagreeing with something or voicing your opinion, why is it automatically called drama? Why is this thread 'drama'? I don't know, it's just extremely irritating to me..

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by WinterBride08

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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i'm sure it will, but unlike others, i'm not afraid of the drama...it just pisses me off when brides say 'oohhh I hate drama, I hate eels,just ignore them' and then they do exactly what they get mad at other brides for doing!

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i am really honestly not trying to be mean here by saying this...but i think by you starting this thread is being contradictory. you said you are tired of people saying they hate the drama and just make a thread to say you dont agree with it as well and telling us to just ignore it and stuff....with that said

i do agree i think it is silly i just ignore the eal threads now and i do state my opinion in some threads. but i know not everyone is going to agree with me and i move on if someone doesnt. but i do like advice whether negative or positive. but honestly i am going to defend myself if someone disrespects me or any one else on this site but also if they are rude or nasty about something which tends to start drama and i belive that is why we do have alot of drama we try to defend ourselves.

plus when you got 1000+ women on one site we are going to disagree about things. and unfortunately it would be nice to agree to disagree but some people just dont get that!

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that is what my problem is, maybe I need to edit my original post so that people could understand it clearer...my issue is that when people disagree with other people, it is called drama and people get mad at you for 'Starting drama' even if you express your opinion in a respectful way!

Honestly....alot of girls are reaching their six month marks and getting bride-brain.....(not to say that those are the girls starting the drama)

....i don't think the crazyness will end. Maybe it's just misdirected stress?? It's gotta come out somewhere??

ps: I'm naive and I enjoy giving people the benefit of the doubt.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i think its totally normal to have differences of opinion and to disagree and debate a little...i dont think that equals drama at all?

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that's precisely my point and that is all I wanted to say...it get's nasty when people start insulting people, and that hardly happens..

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i think its totally normal to have differences of opinion and to disagree and debate a little...i dont think that equals drama at all?

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i agree

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Posted by WinterBride08

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by WinterBride08

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I dont' post too much because of the drama and I hate to be a pot-stirrer, but I think that this post in and of itself perpetuates the drama.


let it begin.

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i'm sure it will, but unlike others, i'm not afraid of the drama...it just pisses me off when brides say 'oohhh I hate drama, I hate eels,just ignore them' and then they do exactly what they get mad at other brides for doing!

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i am really honestly not trying to be mean here by saying this...but i think by you starting this thread is being contradictory. you said you are tired of people saying they hate the drama and just make a thread to say you dont agree with it as well and telling us to just ignore it and stuff....with that said

i do agree i think it is silly i just ignore the eal threads now and i do state my opinion in some threads. but i know not everyone is going to agree with me and i move on if someone doesnt. but i do like advice whether negative or positive. but honestly i am going to defend myself if someone disrespects me or any one else on this site but also if they are rude or nasty about something which tends to start drama and i belive that is why we do have alot of drama we try to defend ourselves.

plus when you got 1000+ women on one site we are going to disagree about things. and unfortunately it would be nice to agree to disagree but some people just dont get that!

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that is what my problem is, maybe I need to edit my original post so that people could understand it clearer...my issue is that when people disagree with other people, it is called drama and people get mad at you for 'Starting drama' even if you express your opinion in a respectful way!

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thanks Gina for making that more clear. I get what you are saying now. And I think we agree with you. I know I do. I don't think it shuold be considered drama when we voice our opinions. But unfortunately we are always going to have it on here.