EFFING MAD NOW.... BABIES at our Wedding!

OMG OMG i could SCREAM and YELL at Luis if I have him right nexct to me!

Thank God we are just texting....

So I THOUGHT we had BOTH come to the conclusion of NO KIDS/BABIES to our WEDDING unless BRIDAL PARTY....

We have keep up that rule GOOD... TILL We recevied an RSVP from a lady that I DONT EVEN EFFIN KNOW.. and He knows her bc that is where Luis used to live in NJ (So i guess Luis' x landlord?).....

She just gave birth to a baby coule of Months ago.. and she has a girl for likr 4 yrs...

So she responed
'MR. & MRS HERNANDEZ AND MY LIL GIRLS'

I freaked and Last nit Luis told me 'WOW i cant believe this ppl blha blha blha'...

So apparently Luis spoke to X last nite, X knows Mr n Mrs Hernandez.... and X was trying to 'soften' luis into bringing Kids to our weddin.

SO luis now is telling me 'We have to think when we have kids... we want to bring kids wiht us... they wanna come but they dont know how to leave their kids with...Maybe they shoul come'...

WHAT?????
We had already AGREE (well i thought we did) on NO KIDSSSSSS unless BP....
PLUS Im sorry but We gave 9months in advancement to look for babysitter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Plus We WILL not go to a weddiong with KIDS... I WILL NOT DO IT!!!!!!!!!


I AM SO MAD NOW.......
I CANT BELIEVE THIS NOWWWWWW


NOW I AM GOING TO HAVE AT THE WEDDING A BABY (FEW MONTHS OLD) and a 4Yrs old Girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!





I CANT BELIEVE LUIS NOW....

I THOUGHT WE WERE ON THE SAME FKING PAGE..... I guess no...

that really sucks ... i totally feel your pain

Listen we went throught this same problem and one advice I can give you is he following:

Dont scream at each other nor get upset. The screaming is not going to solve anything and also even if you have to step upto to the plate, give the lady a courtesy call and introduce yourself nicely and tell her that your on a budget and you cant afford to have kids and that you hope she can still attend...wait and see what she tells you.

Good luck!

Omg I'm soo sorry this is happening to you It's not right that people only think of themselves and what they would prefer. This is your day, and your rules. Do what makes you the most happiest.

And honestly I've spoke to FH about this, and we both agreed that when it comes to weddings and elegant affairs as such, we don't want to bring our kids with us, bc its a chance for us to have a night out alone and spend time together!! People have about a year to find a sitter for their kids, that's ALOT of time. If its a destination wedding, then that's a whole other story, I would bring my kids to that, but not a 5 hour affair where I'm gonna be home that night! I'm sorry V!

oh no!!! why won't either one of you guys call them and let them know that you're not having kids or keeping the GL small since you're on a budget?

also, just wondering, are the kids free to go there? B/c we had about 7 kids at our wedding and i actually didn't even notice them.

sorry that you're going through this but don't let this become a big argument b/c you and luis

---

Posted by Cataverri

Listen we went throught this same problem and one advice I can give you is he following:

Dont scream at each other nor get upset. The screaming is not going to solve anything and also even if you have to step upto to the plate, give the lady a courtesy call and introduce yourself nicely and tell her that your on a budget and you cant afford to have kids and that you hope she can still attend...wait and see what she tells you.

Good luck!

---

I know the lady.. have seen her couple of times.....

SHE KNOWS since long time ago NO BABIES...

LUIS NOW after the talk with X person.. 'ohh we we need to think when we are parents and maybe we dont wanna leave our kids or we want to take them:''... HELL NO... im sorry but i know how american wedding works, IF THERE IS TWO PPL THAT MEANS 2 PPL, it doesnt mean U and UR KIDS!!!!!!!!!!


I cant call... with my tempter I will curse at her...

---

Posted by VCanizalez

---

Posted by Cataverri

Listen we went throught this same problem and one advice I can give you is he following:

Dont scream at each other nor get upset. The screaming is not going to solve anything and also even if you have to step upto to the plate, give the lady a courtesy call and introduce yourself nicely and tell her that your on a budget and you cant afford to have kids and that you hope she can still attend...wait and see what she tells you.

Good luck!

---

I know the lady.. have seen her couple of times.....

SHE KNOWS since long time ago NO BABIES...

LUIS NOW after the talk with X person.. 'ohh we we need to think when we are parents and maybe we dont wanna leave our kids or we want to take them:''... HELL NO... im sorry but i know how american wedding works, IF THERE IS TWO PPL THAT MEANS 2 PPL, it doesnt mean U and UR KIDS!!!!!!!!!!


I cant call... with my tempter I will curse at her...

---

Try to calm down and remind Luis that kids dont enjoy weddings they usually fall asleep in the chairs.

---

Posted by Cataverri

---

Try to calm down and remind Luis that kids dont enjoy weddings all lthey do is fall asleep in the chairs.

---

and i just can't see parents enjoying the wedding much w/ their kids around them. you'd think they would want a break you know?

---

Posted by evita2781

oh no!!! why won't either one of you guys call them and let them know that you're not having kids or keeping the GL small since you're on a budget?

also, just wondering, are the kids free to go there? B/c we had about 7 kids at our wedding and i actually didn't even notice them.

sorry that you're going through this but don't let this become a big argument b/c you and luis

---

NOOO WE EFFING AGREE ON NO KIDS EXEPT BP BC THEY ARE NO FREEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


and I am going to cintinue this argument BC HE IS NOT STEPPING UP TO HIS PLATE NOW!!!!

*** u mean we have to think when we are paretns we will NOT leave our kids?
I know that BUT if the invitation says 2 then its only me n luis and we either find a baby sitter or send the rsvp with a regret

And it's not like she is even that close

Why can't Luis call her and say 'I'm sorry, this is adult only' and leave it at that?

i had children at my wedding at no one even noticed them because they were all really well behaved. some people really don't have anyone to leave their children and if you are all alone in this country (never say never, b/c until i met DH and he became my family, my family was the only family i had in this country) i would never leave my children with a stranger either

however, i am sad that you are going to have children at yours when you obviously did not want them. If it has already been understood that these two girls will be coming to the wedding, don't worry about it. you can't stress over every little thing and you can't control everything. no one will notice these two children and it will be so loud that honestly, you won't hear them even if they do scream, which they probably won't if they are the only two children there. However, in all fairness, even i wouldn't bring a 4 month old baby to a wedding just because of the loud music alone.

---

Posted by Yankeeelove

Omg I'm soo sorry this is happening to you It's not right that people only think of themselves and what they would prefer. This is your day, and your rules. Do what makes you the most happiest.

And honestly I've spoke to FH about this, and we both agreed that when it comes to weddings and elegant affairs as such, we don't want to bring our kids with us, bc its a chance for us to have a night out alone and spend time together!! People have about a year to find a sitter for their kids, that's ALOT of time. If its a destination wedding, then that's a whole other story, I would bring my kids to that, but not a 5 hour affair where I'm gonna be home that night! I'm sorry V!

---

Woudl u mind TELLING THAT TO MY FH????
He doesnt seem to get it!!!!!!!

WE HAD ALREADY come to the conclusion of no kids too... now he is coming with somethinge lse

Girls....
ONE OF THEM IS MONTH OLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


She just had the baby like couple of months ago... i think she is like 10months old



i told LUIS I DONT WANT GIRLS/BOYS CRYING DURING MY VOWS!! OR DURING MY FIRST DANCEEEEEE!!!!


shes few months old SHE DOESNT KNOW 'how' to BEHAVEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

i have to add, that Catalina is right...don't get upset at each other because you both have your own opinions right now and they are not the same. Yelling at each other won't fix the problem. take some time apart and not talk for a little while until you calm down dome and can talk about this more calmly.

At the end of today, maybe you can both decide if Luis or someone else can call this woman and ezplain that you are having a very small wedding due to budget issues and that is the reason why no children were initially invited. (and given the fact the she is not family, she should not presume to invite her children) see what she says, she may change her tune when she is called out on it

We had a 4 month old and we told SIL that is the baby started fussing in the Church, she had to take him to e crying room or the DOC would do it for her

He did fuss and she ran out of there and I didn't even notice

Maybe you can ask them to do this and respect your wishes at the church?

---

Posted by Moonmist09

i had children at my wedding at no one even noticed them because they were all really well behaved. some people really don't have anyone to leave their children and if you are all alone in this country (never say never, b/c until i met DH and he became my family, my family was the only family i had in this country) i would never leave my children with a stranger either

however, i am sad that you are going to have children at yours when you obviously did not want them. If it has already been understood that these two girls will be coming to the wedding, don't worry about it. you can't stress over every little thing and you can't control everything. no one will notice these two children and it will be so loud that honestly, you won't hear them even if they do scream, which they probably won't if they are the only two children there. However, in all fairness, even i wouldn't bring a 4 month old baby to a wedding just because of the loud music alone.

---

I agree with this. I had kids on my wedding and we never saw them. I didn't even see my lil ones because they were busy having fun. I have kids so I understand..sometimes you really have no options but to bring your kids along.

grrr, she's not even FAMILY! It's just rude to try to TALK the host of an event into allowing your kids. rudeeee.

I'm sure Luis is just trying to be a nice guy. Men don't like confrontation. Try to explain to him that if you allow this woman to bring kids, other people will ask about theirs. it will set off a chain of events. But, in a sidenote- are you sure kids aren't free? I think most halls serve kids under a certain age for free. Mine was under 5 yrs it's free.

another sidenote- I will be bringing a baby to your wedding...IN MAH BELLY

---

Posted by sujeire

---

Posted by Moonmist09

i had children at my wedding at no one even noticed them because they were all really well behaved. some people really don't have anyone to leave their children and if you are all alone in this country (never say never, b/c until i met DH and he became my family, my family was the only family i had in this country) i would never leave my children with a stranger either

however, i am sad that you are going to have children at yours when you obviously did not want them. If it has already been understood that these two girls will be coming to the wedding, don't worry about it. you can't stress over every little thing and you can't control everything. no one will notice these two children and it will be so loud that honestly, you won't hear them even if they do scream, which they probably won't if they are the only two children there. However, in all fairness, even i wouldn't bring a 4 month old baby to a wedding just because of the loud music alone.

---

I agree with this. I had kids on my wedding and we never saw them. I didn't even see my lil ones because they were busy having fun. I have kids so I understand..sometimes you really have no options but to bring your kids along.

---

I am so sorry chicas...
I dont have kids... and WE HAD ALREADY COME TO THE CONCLUSION OF NO KIDS....
This is why we send a STD before.. to let u know and start looking for a 'babysittrer'.....

---

Posted by mybabylovesmoi

grrr, she's not even FAMILY! It's just rude to try to TALK the host of an event into allowing your kids. rudeeee.

I'm sure Luis is just trying to be a nice guy. Men don't like confrontation. Try to explain to him that if you allow this woman to bring kids, other people will ask about theirs. it will set off a chain of events. But, in a sidenote- are you sure kids aren't free? I think most halls serve kids under a certain age for free. Mine was under 5 yrs it's free.

another sidenote- I will be bringing a baby to your wedding...IN MAH BELLY

---

U R BABY IS ALLOW ANYTIME =-) lol
I WILL PARTY WITH UR BABY =-)
I KNOW U... and UR MY FREIDN...

ThaT lady>? We dont even talk to her !!! We havent talked to her in two girls but LUIS insist on inviting hr since his mom talks to her.....