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Elizabeth and I must be soul mates this weekend....

jenny11.9 Posted:

Elizabeth and I must be soul mates this weekend....

Elizabeth I am so sorry for all the mishaps with Luke. You must have been terrified, and you must be completely drained from the emotional strain this puts on you.

Me and Sophia had a mishap ourselves. Well Mommy did, and Mommy is still trying to forgive herself. I was strapping her into her carseat in the living room. It had been on the couch (which is a deep firm leather couch), but the dog jumped up on the couch with what looked like the leg of a squirrel (later inspection found it was a leg of a squirrel...) and I grabbed the seat up and placed it on the piano bench. Just as I did the final click on the restraints...honestly I don't know what happened except the next minute the seat was turned over on the floor....my God I can barely tell this story...everything happened so fast, I swooped it up. She was of course screaming, I yanked the restraints off and pulled her out. By the time she was out of the seat she had stopped crying. And by the time I got her into her nursery to check her in her changing table, she was smiling. Thank God, but of course, that put no fears aside. I didn't know if she had hit her head or not becuase it all just flew by.

I called my sister who was my angel last night and she first told me all the things to check for and watch for in looking for a concussion. She promised that without redness or a lump, there was more than likely nothing to be concerned about, but she knew as a new mom I would be worried no matter what. We went over everything on the phone, and then I called the doctor who confirmed everything she said. I watched her like a hawk all night, and fortunately..Sophia is fine.

I have never felt anything like that in my life. I have never felt so irresponsible, careless, stupid, panicked, out of control, frantic, unsure, insecure...the list goes on and on. I literally hated myself for about 12 hours (until she woke up in the middle of the night wanting to be fed and then wanting to kick and play with her bunny mobile instead of going back to sleep.) Whatever. I would kick and play at 3 am now until the cows come home.

Anyway I am sharing this because I know that if I read this somewhere I'd be like - 'whatever, that woman should have been paying more attention...I would never let something like that happen'. But you guys know me and how careful and cautious I am. I am a good mommy - but mistakes happen, and maybe by seeing me make such a bad one, all those new Mommies To Be will be double careful. The biggest lesson I learned, BESIDES never putting the seat on the piano bench, is no matter WHAT when she is in that thing - STRAP HER IN. If she hadn't been strapped in, this story may have been extremely different. I had seen my husband put the seat on the bench once to get her ready to go out as well - so hopefully my mistake saved her another fall from him as well.

Thank for letting me share. After I was over half the panic mode, and just taking Sophie in and out of well lit rooms looking for pupil dilation (poor kid was probably like - ma seriously i didnt' even touch the ground...)my sister told me all the mishaps she's had and I realized that I am only human.

Her 1 year old fell head first out of the minivan because she had gotten herself out of the seat without Karen knowing.

Her other child at 2 slipped out of the stroller while they were carrying it down one of those high flights of stairs at the beach.

My mom dropped me (who knew!)
My aunt dropped my cousin on the pavement

The list goes on and somehow it made me feel a tiny bit better.....
Jeanene Posted:

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Oh Jenny!! Don't beat yourself up - you are and awesome mother!

You are right - these things happen. You can try all you can to prevent - but no one can prevent everything. That is the scary part of being a parent.

I am so glad Sophia is OK! And hugs to you for the scare you had!
jennbaby Posted:

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Jenny, things can happen, you are a great mom!!!
Glad she is ok!!!
Jenn P Posted:

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anna Posted:

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JEnny, Im sOOO GLAD Little precious Sophia is ok. These things happen to all of us...

LisaW Posted:

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Jenny, I hear stories like this all the time! You are not the only one!

I'm glad Sophia is ok!




Stacey1403 Posted:

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Stuff like this happens all the time!! In fact a couple of my friends wer surprised I have never had any kind of accidents with Damien. They have had their kids roll off beds, changing tables, etc. At least Sophia and you are OK
kelswiss Posted:

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WithThisRing Posted:

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Jenny things happen. It happens to every woman who is a mom. You are a great mother and little Sophia is so lucky to have such an awesome mom
JennRenee Posted:

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THINGS LIKE THIS HAPPEN! It was NOT your fault.

Later when I have time, I'll share the story of the night Nick's bassinet collapsed. HORROR!!! You'll feel better every time someone shares a similiar story and you realize it happens to EVERYONE sooner or later.

I'm glad Miss Sophia is FINE.
michele31 Posted:

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Jenny- mistakes do not make you a bad mother at all. We ALL make mistakes. It is part of being human!!! What makes you a good mommy is how well you handled the situation...
coselige Posted:

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I am so glad that the little peanut is OK. I am sure it was a much more traumatic experience for Mommy that for little Sophia.

And please do not beat yourself up over it.
I think it happnes to all mommies. I know for a fact that my mom dropped by brother when we were kids. And he turned out all right
Kathi Posted:

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Awww, how scary!!! My sister (mom of 2) asked me recently if I've dropped Sean yet. I said 'no...not yet', knowing full well a mishap can and will happen. We do our best to prevent them, but we're not perfect.

I'm sure Sophia doesn't remember a thing. Of course, her mommy will remember it until she's 13!

Victoria Posted:

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Glad she was not hurt cause I know you would feel even worse. Things like this happen. That is why they are called accidents.

chmlengr Posted:

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MY heart goes out to all you mommies and the past few days some of you had. You are all great mommies and are doing a wonderful job! Don't ever doubt yourselves!!
Wendy Posted:

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Jenny you are a great Mommy. These things happen to everyone sooner or later. When my daughter was 6 months old she flipped her carseat (with her in it) off the couch and hit her head on a glass coffee table. You should have seen the lump on her head. I thought for sure I was the worst mother in the world. Hang in there!!!
Claud2001 Posted:

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Posted by michele31

Jenny- mistakes do not make you a bad mother at all. We ALL make mistakes. It is part of being human!!! What makes you a good mommy is how well you handled the situation...



DITTO!
yabbobay Posted:

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Jenny

my mom turned to get my sisters outfit while she was on teh changing table and my sister rolled off in those 2 seconds...


she broke her leg (femur - thigh) and at 6 months she was in a cast for 8 MONTHS!!! My mom can still not talk about it without getting upset...


my sister turned out to be an All-County race-walker...
HeatherandNick Posted:

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glad she is okay
shamma Posted:

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Jenny you are a wonderful mother, if you baby does not fall or have some kind of fall in front of you then they probably are not alive. We have all fallen off of beds, off of tables, chairs and we are all still here. Don't blame yourself its what's called experience, you will have it for next time. There is a lesson in everything we go thru. Kiss Sophie for me

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