Engagemement Party

myprinn5667 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 07:59 PM

Engagemement Party

I was wondering if anyone has family who is from the mid-west. I was told that out in the mid-west they don't make a big deal out of engagements. I was wondering if this is true.

I am sending out my engagement party invites soon and I was told not to send them because they don't do those things in the mid-west.

If anyone has heard of this please let me know.

I appreciate anyones comments.....

Almostawife Posted: Jun 03, 2008 08:02 PM

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Do you expect people to fly in for an engagement party? If not, then don't send the invite. They will be expected to fly in for your wedding, that is costly enough.

trojo1521 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 08:27 PM

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I think it can't hurt to send them. Let people make up their own mind whether they can make it to both or not.

frescelena Posted: Jun 03, 2008 09:55 PM

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Weddings are DEFINATELY not as big if a deal in most other placec than NY and CA I believe! I would probably send them anyway but also follow up with a phone call (or have fiancee do it!) just to let peope know that you would love for them to be there but that you'll understand if they're unable to make it halfway across the country. I think that would take some pressure off! Good luck!

nicopico13 Posted: Jun 03, 2008 10:02 PM

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Yeah no one does weddings like we do here. I had never been to an engagement party until my friends this past October. We had a small engagement party in our backyard and one of my BMs who lives upstate was like 'this is a wedding up by us!!' It cant hurt to send out the invite, but I wouldn't be surprised or hurt if they don't want to fly out. At least they will feel included right!

gigglebride Posted: Jun 03, 2008 11:29 PM

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The only thing I would say is depending on the relation, they might feel like you're sending invites to them in order to get gifts. I would NEVER feel that way, nor would my family, but I've heard about some crazy things going on since wedding planning began and I've been visiting bridal boards. I've also heard recently that gifts are not customary for engagement parties although I actually did bring a gift to the couple I've been to. Maybe you could write a note in their invites saying something like you understand that they can't make it due to geography but wanted to let them know you were thinking about them and wished they could come. Just wanted to throw the thought out there... :)

myprinn5667 Posted: Jun 04, 2008 09:56 AM

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My point to send them the invite is to make them feel included. It's my finance's family. I do not expect people to fly here from Chicago or to send gifts I just want them to feel like they are part of it.

Thanks to everyone who has replied.