ETA: What would you do if...

The one thing i always make sure of when im buying a gown for a wedding is that i DONT pick the same color that the BMs are wearing. I would just feel stupid. What was she thinking I would tell her in a nice way that it will look odd for her to match the BM and she should probably pick another color

Ok i just want to clarify a few things here:

I agree that i cannot tell people what they should wear however she did ask me which i mentioned i thought was really nice of her.
She will definitely be in our family pictures.

I guess i shoudl have rephrased my original post to 'what would you do' rather than 'would you be mad if...'

she did ask me politely if i would mind and the thing is yes, i kind of would (because she has known for a long time my dresses are red, my theme is red, etc. and it something that people just shouldnt do as common sense) however i dont feel it is right for me to tell her, 'No you cannot wear that dress.'

I would have to go bridezilla on her azz! seriously it's like she wants to be a BM .....although red is the hot color now

I didn't read any of the above posts, but I'd be PO'd.. but that's just how I get with stuff like this. I'd tell her to find a new dress, sorry honey if your that stupid to not listen to what I've told you, find your receipt.

I personally would be mad. I even told just about everyone they cant wear brown since my BM dresses would brown!!!!
But thats just me!!!

Relax. The odds of this dress looking like your bridesmaids' dress are slim. Why would anybody go out of their way to look like a bridesmaid? I think it's far more likely that she just went dress shopping and the dress that she loved most happened to be red. I wouldn't worry so much about it - it will be clear who your bridesmaids are, and it's not like she's going to try to sneak down the aisle with the bms or something.

I wouldn't do anything. Just let her wear what she wants.

Honestly, on the day of your wedding, the last thing you will be thinking about is what color someone is wearing - it's such a small detail in the grand scheme of things.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i was with FH for a little over a year when his sister got married and i wasnt involved in any pictures or anything (what if we broke up - and then his sister has pictures of me!! i didnt want to be in any pics and at that point she probably didnt want me in any either LOL)......is she going to be in your pics? i dont think she should be......so then it really doesnt matter if she is wearing the same color as your BM's......how serious is your brother with this girl?

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my mom doesnt like to leave people out so she will definitely ask her to be in our family pics (not all but im sure alot)
they are young but it looks like they are pretty serious - she has even referred to my mom as her MIL - i dont even refer to FHs mother as that

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Posted by weddingbunny

Relax. The odds of this dress looking like your bridesmaids' dress are slim. Why would anybody go out of their way to look like a bridesmaid? I think it's far more likely that she just went dress shopping and the dress that she loved most happened to be red. I wouldn't worry so much about it - it will be clear who your bridesmaids are, and it's not like she's going to try to sneak down the aisle with the bms or something.

I wouldn't do anything. Just let her wear what she wants.

Honestly, on the day of your wedding, the last thing you will be thinking about is what color someone is wearing - it's such a small detail in the grand scheme of things.

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I second this..

You won't even realize something like this on the day of your wedding...

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Posted by jenn122397

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i was with FH for a little over a year when his sister got married and i wasnt involved in any pictures or anything (what if we broke up - and then his sister has pictures of me!! i didnt want to be in any pics and at that point she probably didnt want me in any either LOL)......is she going to be in your pics? i dont think she should be......so then it really doesnt matter if she is wearing the same color as your BM's......how serious is your brother with this girl?

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my mom doesnt like to leave people out so she will definitely ask her to be in our family pics (not all but im sure alot)
they are young but it looks like they are pretty serious - she has even referred to my mom as her MIL - i dont even refer to FHs mother as that

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