Ok, so in the mail today my FH received an invitation to the rehearsal dinner for a wedding of one of his guy friends.
My name wasn't on the invitation....? Was not even addressed to both of us and he knows that we are engaged (we've been engaged longer than they have been!).
Is that wrong of them? I dont even remember if I was on the actual invitation.....!?
But maybe I wouldn't be invited to the Rehearsal Dinner? I don't get it because FH isn't in his wedding party....so why would they invite only ONE of us to it?!
The reply card says 'Name(s) __________ ___will attend ___will not attend' which leads me to believe I would be allowed to come...? But I'm more annoyed that it wasn't even sent to both of us.
Toucan311
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Very strange! Why would he be invited at all if he's not in the wedding?!
Soon2BMrsD
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is it a close friend of FH that he could call and ask? i dont see why he would go to the RD to begin with if hes not in the BP?
ILOVEBRIAN2008
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i would def have fh call and ask..even tho its really stange that u werent on the invite, u prob shouldnt assume you are invited and write 2 on the response card...ive heard of a lot of people getting mad bc people were adding people on the rsvp card that werent invited..so def have him ask
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It's really weird. These people are having their RD at Tavern on the Green and their wedding at the Mandarin Oriental in Manhattan. You should SEE these RD invites. GORGEOUS. No expense spared.
So I guess I just don't understand why only one of us was invited, if you see what I'm getting at...?
And you're right. I don't get why he is invited at all. Isn't the RD for OOT guests (maybe), the families, and the BP?
It's really not worth the phone call to him. We aren't close to this couple...(again - then why is he getting invited to the RD?), so I'm just gonna let it go. But it's weird.
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im confuded i thought only immideate family and BP were invited to the RD
jenlen
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Technically if your name wasn't on it or if it didn't say 'and guest', you're not invited. That happened to me too....I got an invitation that had just my name on it...and I couldn't bring FH (we were engaged then). Meanwhile, other people had their bf/gf's names on their invites (NOT engaged). I was pissed.
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it is VERY common for people to get invited to the RD alone
technically only spouses are supposed to be invited
now that is like 'Emily Post' etiquette - in 'real world' etiquette i think that is pretty rude! I mean I wouldnt invite a bf or gf but a fiance?!
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Posted by ant n tilde
it is VERY common for people to get invited to the RD alone
technically only spouses are supposed to be invited
now that is like 'Emily Post' etiquette - in 'real world' etiquette i think that is pretty rude! I mean I wouldnt invite a bf or gf but a fiance?!
Yeah, I'm kind of ticked off. I told FH they aren't getting invited to our wedding.
ETA: And again, if he were a GM I would totally understand me not being invited. But he's not.
Oh! Anddddddddd, his friend (the groom-to-be) knows that I am living in Boston this summer (while my FH is doing his internship in NY). So I think its rude to expect me to drive down from Boston to be there for the wedding but not invite me to the RD! What am I going to do on Friday night while FH is at the RD!?
It's so funny that now I analyze all of these details!
But I guess I'll learn from it and won't do the same for our RD!
Mici n KC
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That's weird. Tell him to decline. No fair for you that you don't get a free meal!
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Posted by MiciB115
That's weird. Tell him to decline. No fair for you that you don't get a free meal!
Yeah, we talked....neither of us are gonna go. He didn't want to leave me by my lonesome
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Posted by ant n tilde
it is VERY common for people to get invited to the RD alone
technically only spouses are supposed to be invited
now that is like 'Emily Post' etiquette - in 'real world' etiquette i think that is pretty rude! I mean I wouldnt invite a bf or gf but a fiance?!
I agree....Very Common to invite people alone..because it gets out of hand if you invite girlfriends., fiance blah blah......
But I could neverrrrrrrrrrrrr do that! Especially if you know the person is engaged! I would be pissy
Toucan311
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I think the best thing for you to do would be to show up at the wedding in a long white gown.
katleigh3
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That is ridiculous Bon!!!! You should def. be invited, even if you were just dating.
It's weird that he invited him at all...and then to leave you off...WEIRD!!!!
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Posted by Mimacat
I think the best thing for you to do would be to show up at the wedding in a long white gown.
LOL....
beachbum05
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Posted by katleigh3
Posted by Mimacat
I think the best thing for you to do would be to show up at the wedding in a long white gown.
LOL....
'Wait, is it bad for me to wear a white gown?! I had NOOOO idea!!!'
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sounds odd to me
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Posted by Mimacat
I think the best thing for you to do would be to show up at the wedding in a long white gown.
i second this.
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Posted by beachbum05
It's really not worth the phone call to him. We aren't close to this couple...(again - then why is he getting invited to the RD?), so I'm just gonna let it go. But it's weird.
very strange..
i would mjust mark it 0 attending and be done with it,. i dont understand why he was invited to the RD
