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mtkny Posted: Apr 22, 2013 08:25 PM+

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Posted: Apr 22, 2013 08:25 PM

etiquette question

Do the bride and groom pay for accommodation for out of town attendants, those who have to fly in?

Emily Post says no. I have never been an OOT bm, so I don't have any experience with this.

I have searched, but can't find much on this question.

Can you brides weigh in on the usually done thing? I would appreciate the advice.

nella20005 Posted: Apr 22, 2013 08:45 PM+

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Posted: Apr 22, 2013 08:45 PM

etiquette question

That would be nice but no! I've been an OOT and I've paid for my accommodations and gave a gift. Even for a destination wedding the guest pays for themselves... Save your money!!!

Pinkisles Posted: Apr 22, 2013 09:02 PM+

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Posted: Apr 22, 2013 09:02 PM

etiquette question

No they should pay fort their own accommodations

Laura Suzanne Posted: Apr 22, 2013 10:07 PM+

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Posted: Apr 22, 2013 10:07 PM

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Def do not pay for OOT guests

sandr325 Posted: Apr 22, 2013 11:13 PM+

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Posted: Apr 22, 2013 11:13 PM

Re: etiquette question

Posted by Pinkisles

No they should pay for their own accommodations

This. If money is a problem, offer to pay for the dress, tux, hair or make-up. Not the room or air.

MrsB92713 Posted: Apr 23, 2013 08:27 AM+

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Posted: Apr 23, 2013 08:27 AM

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Definitely not. If cost is a problem for out of town attendants them they should have declined when they were asked to assume that role.

Roxannebowen79 Posted: Apr 23, 2013 12:34 PM+

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Posted: Apr 23, 2013 12:34 PM

Re: etiquette question

Posted by nella20005

That would be nice but no! I've been an OOT and I've paid for my accommodations and gave a gift. Even for a destination wedding the guest pays for themselves... Save your money!!!

This!!