ettiquette.. adressing invite to lesbian couple??

hi!!! what is the proper way to address and invite to a lesbian couple with the same hyphenated last name??

ms. jane and ms. jean smith-jones?
ms. jane and jean smith-jones?
jane and jean smith-jones?

thanks!!!

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I'd go with Jane and Jean Smith-Jones.

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I would do this:
ms. jane and jean smith-jones?

Cause the Ms. would ne implied for both since they have the same last name. However, for my aunt who lives with her partner and does not share the same last name I put:

Ms. Crystal Smith & Jodi <--- Partners name

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My friend and her partner do not share a last name but in your case I'd use
Ms. Jane Smith-Jones and Ms. Jean Smith-Jones

if it fits on one line, even better

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hmmm .... i know its confusing isnt it?

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ms. jane doe and ms. jane smith

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I agree with akaMrsT and if you need two lines put the names in alphabetical order. Jane then Jean.

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Posted by akaMrsT

My friend and her partner do not share a last name but in your case I'd use
Ms. Jane Smith-Jones and Ms. Jean Smith-Jones

if it fits on one line, even better

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Yes I agree with this as well.

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Posted by smara

I would do this:
ms. jane and jean smith-jones

Cause the Ms. would be implied for both since they have the same last name.

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I agree, I think this is closest to 'convention.'

if you repeat the last name, it would be like saying Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe, which you wouldn't do.

Anyhow, maybe you could do an internet search on etiquette OR just ask them themselves how they write it or would like it written.

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Ms. Jane and Jean Smith-Jones

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Posted by Smiles111

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Posted by smara

I would do this:
ms. jane and jean smith-jones

Cause the Ms. would be implied for both since they have the same last name.

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I agree, I think this is closest to 'convention.'

if you repeat the last name, it would be like saying Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe, which you wouldn't do.

Anyhow, maybe you could do an internet search on etiquette OR just ask them themselves how they write it or would like it written.

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I agree with smara as well. All this etiquette stuff totally confuses me!

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Posted by Katie&Chris2006

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Posted by Smiles111

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Posted by smara

I would do this:
ms. jane and jean smith-jones

Cause the Ms. would be implied for both since they have the same last name.

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I agree, I think this is closest to 'convention.'

if you repeat the last name, it would be like saying Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe, which you wouldn't do.

Anyhow, maybe you could do an internet search on etiquette OR just ask them themselves how they write it or would like it written.

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I agree with smara as well. All this etiquette stuff totally confuses me!

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i agree.

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Posted by prunepie

hi!!! what is the proper way to address and invite to a lesbian couple with the same hyphenated last name??

ms. jane and ms. jean smith-jones?
ms. jane and jean smith-jones?
jane and jean smith-jones?

thanks!!!

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I am inviting several same sex couples, so I've researched this extensively. Since they share the same last name the invite should read:

Ms. Jane and Jean Smith-Jones

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Posted by akaMrsT

My friend and her partner do not share a last name but in your case I'd use
Ms. Jane Smith-Jones and Ms. Jean Smith-Jones

if it fits on one line, even better

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I think this is what I would do

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I would write : Ms. Jane and Jean Smith-Jones

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That's a tough one. WE had a lesbian couple to invite but they don't have the same last name so we just put them in alphabetical order.

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how about calling them up and asking them how they would like it to be addressed. Considering you've never done this before and the wedding ettiquette and stuff, i don't think they would be offended. They may even be happy you did.

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Posted by smara
However, for my aunt who lives with her partner and does not share the same last name I put:

Ms. Crystal Smith & Jodi <--- Partners name

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My best friend lives with her partner but they don't have the same last name, so I'm doing:

Ms. Crystal Smith & Jodi Doe

BUT I love the idea of the previosu bride who said 'Ask them!' because now I am going to do just that!!

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Posted by kittythestray

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Posted by smara
However, for my aunt who lives with her partner and does not share the same last name I put:

Ms. Crystal Smith & Jodi <--- Partners name

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My best friend lives with her partner but they don't have the same last name, so I'm doing:

Ms. Crystal Smith & Jodi Doe

BUT I love the idea of the previosu bride who said 'Ask them!' because now I am going to do just that!!

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Let us know what they say!

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thanks for responding everyone!! they are actually family friends of fmil.... so i dont KNOW know them.. met a couple times. i asked fmil and she said they arent going to care one way or another.... sooo.... hmmm lol

xoxo jenn