Everyone hates me and I hate the wedding

My mom is not speaking to me because she wanted to come to NY from FL a week before the wedding. I explained to her that with everything going on that it would stress me out if ashe stayed in my house for a week. I am paying for her hotel for the weekend. She got mad and hung up on me. Later she called to apologize, but she isnt answering my calls.

My FH isnt speaking to me because I bought a new phone because I dropped the other one in coffee and it died. He said he would get me a new phone but I got tired of waiting so I just went and got one. He freaked out and mentioned that we have a wedding to pay for. Which is such BS!! He never stops himself from gettign what he wants because of the wedding!!! So for the past 2 nights he has ignored me and slept on the couch

None of my response cards are coming in and I have no clue who is or isnt coming to the wedding so I cant even go pay the final deposit because I dont have a count. I cant order my flowers because I have to speak with the people at the reception/ceremony site about delivery times and I cant call them without a final deposit!!

I hate the wedding and everyone hates me!!! Thanks for reading.

Yikes. I recommend a bath...followed by an ice cream sundae. Try not to let everyone get to you!

OMG!! I'm so sorry you feel that way! First of all.... NO ONE HATES YOU! And you don't HATE anyone! It's just STRESS. You're overwhelmed. It's perfectly normal. WE LOVE YOU. We understand what you're going through. Wedding and financial stress is way too much to handle, and you're just feeling the pressure... as is your FH. Just take some steps back. Maybe compromise with your mom and let her come a couple of DAYS ahead of time... not a week. She just wants to be there for her little girl. Go home and light two candles for you and your FH and have a nice at-home, quiet dinner and just 'be' with your FH and let him know how overwhelmed you are. Tomorrow, use your new phone to call all the rude people who haven't rsvp'd and let them know you need to give your final count. Anyone who you can't get by tomorrow, count as a 'no'. Take a deep breath, and know that 'this too shall pass'. WE LOVE YOU!!!!

Oh sweetie, don't think that way. Everything will be fine, if I was you I would start calling people up to see if they are coming to the wedding. Both my sisters' and one of my older brothers' had to do that. And as for your mom and FH, give them some time to cool off, you are getting very nervous because the wedding is approaching. So take a breather

Im sure the RH will speak to you, just call them. How can you make the final payment anyway until you know the final count?

With the phone. I agree your FH is being ridiculous.. Whats the difference if you buy one or he buys one? The money is basically coming from the same place right?

And as for your mom coming in so early.. I agree with you.. It would drive me a little nutty too. Is there other family members she could stay with?

i'm sorry you're stressed! I also recommend lots and lots of ice cream! Unless you're on a diet for the wedding... than i suggest a massage!

I'm guessing your FH is stressed as well because it seems as though he over reacted to the phone issue. I think sleeping on the couch is a bit extreme over that. But that's just my opinion.

I completely understand the whole mom issue and not wanting her around the whole week prior. I think my mom and i would end up in serious boxing matches if she stayed with me for that long right before my wedding! But it's nice that she wants to spend that time with you. don't take that for granted because some of us don't even get that. Maybe suggest something you two can do together before the wedding or maybe have her sleep over the night before the wedding to bond, depending on what you're plans were. She just wants to be included and feel needed. keep that in mind.

Good luck! Feel better!

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Posted by Suzannebride

Yikes. I recommend a bath...followed by an ice cream sundae. Try not to let everyone get to you!

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and vodka-- don't forget that-- and plenty of other alcoholic beverages.

try talking to your fh when things settle down and same goes with your mom-- hopefully, once a little time passes things will get better!!!

here's some hugs:

in the mean time: alcohol!!!

get a massage! You deserve it.

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Posted by sarahradio5

OMG!! I'm so sorry you feel that way! First of all.... NO ONE HATES YOU! And you don't HATE anyone! It's just STRESS. You're overwhelmed. It's perfectly normal. WE LOVE YOU. We understand what you're going through. Wedding and financial stress is way too much to handle, and you're just feeling the pressure... as is your FH. Just take some steps back. Maybe compromise with your mom and let her come a couple of DAYS ahead of time... not a week. She just wants to be there for her little girl. Go home and light two candles for you and your FH and have a nice at-home, quiet dinner and just 'be' with your FH and let him know how overwhelmed you are. Tomorrow, use your new phone to call all the rude people who haven't rsvp'd and let them know you need to give your final count. Anyone who you can't get by tomorrow, count as a 'no'. Take a deep breath, and know that 'this too shall pass'. WE LOVE YOU!!!!

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Couldn't have put it better myself, I agree 100%. Good luck!

Tell FH to chill the F out. It's just a phone.

You're gonna have to call people to get their responses.

It will get better.

OMG

B R E A T H E... Your FH will have to get over it. Your mother will love you NO MATTER WHAT. And there are probably some responses in your mailbox as we speak!!! A glass of wine never hurt anyone either

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Posted by Suzannebride

Yikes. I recommend a bath...followed by an ice cream sundae. Try not to let everyone get to you!

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I agree!!!!!!!!

Nobody hates you, mom's just like to be there to help and sometimes they don't realize they are in the way.

Your FH is probably stressed as well but, men have funny ways of showing it.

It will all be ok!

Weddings do cause alot of stress. Take a deep breath. We are here to help you through it!! You have girls with the best advice in the world. Take it all one step at a time. I agree with an above post. Hot bath and a BIG Ice Cream Sundae!! Then start with 1 problem at a time. I am sure no one hates you. They are all also stressing. Your day will all work out and you will be a beautiful Happy Bride!!

Don't stress too much. I felt the same way before my wedding. Long engagements in particular must wear your nerves out after a while.

It should get better for you after the wedding.

Ignore them all.

Take a nice bubble bath, then eat chocolate and have a drink!

It's time for a YOU day!

Thanks to everyone for reading and responding! I called by Best Friend who is also my MOH and we are going to have drinks tonight.
YAAAAAY for alcohol!!!!!

First of all, no one hates you! And even if you feel like the whole wedding world is collapsing around you, you always have your LIW girls!

Go get a mani and pedi and a BIG bottle of wine and relax girl! You're getting married next month!!!!

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Posted by sr081906

Ignore them all.

Take a nice bubble bath, then eat chocolate and have a drink!

It's time for a YOU day!

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These are my sentiments as well. With a strong emphasis on the chocolate and alcohol.