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anamaree77 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 11:31 PM

Re: something i can't talk about...

I don't really know what to say. I don't want to be judgemental or steer you in the wrong direction. Obviously, you know FH better than any of us so I don't think it's fair of us to tell you whether to trust or to distrust.

From my own relationship, I can tell you that I would NOT be ok with FH going out to private lunches w some girl at work that I wasn't friends with. If there were rumors going around, i'd assume they were for a reason. I don't think any of this makes me a bad person. To ME, I find that type of behavior disrespectful in MY relationship.

Now, on the other hand, ur getting advice from girls that can accept the lunches and unanswered phone calls. Everyone is different.

I trust FH with all my heart but I also know that we're only human....temptation is out there. I think under certain circumstances, even the most faithful person might falter and cheat. but again, that's just my thinking.

If I was you, i'd leave the situation alone for the time being. I wouldn't call FH apologizing b/c obviously there is a reason for the way you feel. Maybe just blow it off for a while? Call him (leave him a msg. if he wont pick up) and just say, 'hey its me. I was just getting ready for bed and wanted to wish you a good night. Talk to you tomorrow.' Usually, when I blow things off while things are heated, FH tends to calm down a little. I have no idea why.......

Good Luck, FM if you'd like.

Gigi08 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 11:45 PM

Re: something i can't talk about...

Posted by anamaree77

I don't really know what to say. I don't want to be judgemental or steer you in the wrong direction. Obviously, you know FH better than any of us so I don't think it's fair of us to tell you whether to trust or to distrust.

From my own relationship, I can tell you that I would NOT be ok with FH going out to private lunches w some girl at work that I wasn't friends with. If there were rumors going around, i'd assume they were for a reason. I don't think any of this makes me a bad person. To ME, I find that type of behavior disrespectful in MY relationship.

Now, on the other hand, ur getting advice from girls that can accept the lunches and unanswered phone calls. Everyone is different.

I trust FH with all my heart but I also know that we're only human....temptation is out there. I think under certain circumstances, even the most faithful person might falter and cheat. but again, that's just my thinking.

If I was you, i'd leave the situation alone for the time being. I wouldn't call FH apologizing b/c obviously there is a reason for the way you feel. Maybe just blow it off for a while? Call him (leave him a msg. if he wont pick up) and just say, 'hey its me. I was just getting ready for bed and wanted to wish you a good night. Talk to you tomorrow.' Usually, when I blow things off while things are heated, FH tends to calm down a little. I have no idea why.......

Good Luck, FM if you'd like.

Very well said! Some good points.

Hang in there!

I Love my bear Posted: Apr 24, 2008 11:53 PM

Re: something i can't talk about...

Hi I'm soo sorry you're going through this right now. I know how you feel b/c I was once in this situation and struckinly shocked at how naive was...anyway. I totallly agree, I personally would NOT be ok w/FH going to lunch w/a girl. And going to her place to pick something up????!! I'd be freaking going crazy honestly...did it seem like he knew where he was going? Seriously things happen to the nicest most naive persons so I'm just looking out for you...
TALK to him. Guys in general let it out pretty easily, I know for a fact its better to just put it all out in the open.