Extrememly Heartbroken

JAAMS Posted: Jun 22, 2009 04:09 PM

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I am SO sorry that you are going through all of this. I think only you know this situation from every angle, and inside and out, but let me tell you what I think & what I would do.

It seems like your family maybe just does not want to like hm. If that is truly the case, I say pick FH.

If you feel like there is something that is wrong, then you need to really think about this.

iHeartMoogle Posted: Jun 22, 2009 04:14 PM

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You know what you have to do. Only you are going to be able to make that decision. Good luck.

bulldoglover Posted: Jun 22, 2009 04:21 PM

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it's hard to say because even with details, it's hard to know the full history without having been there. the only thing you can really do is follow your heart. i hope you feel better and i'm so sorry you are going through this!

BellaBride27 Posted: Jun 22, 2009 05:00 PM

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I feel you and only you can really truly make the right choice not matter what anyone tells you...follow your heart..and i am so sorry you are even in this situation in the first place...best of luck

sophisticat13 Posted: Jun 22, 2009 05:25 PM

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I am so sorry you are going through this with your family and FH. Like many other girls posted, it is hard to give advice without knowing more details...but I do think that it is unfair to give you an ultimatum to choose between him and them. By doing this they stand to lose you...why are they willing to risk that?!!
I would give it a few days or even a week and see if anything else transpires...maybe they said this out of anger and things (minds) will change. Write a letter to your sister and family at the end of the week and try to explain how upset and heartbroken you are over this...maybe if they understand more from your point of view, they won't stick to such an awful ultimatum.

gina409 Posted: Jun 22, 2009 05:26 PM

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Posted by brat2463

I feel you and only you can really truly make the right choice not matter what anyone tells you...follow your heart..and i am so sorry you are even in this situation in the first place...best of luck

ita...im so sorry u r going through this

GR2010 Posted: Jun 22, 2009 07:18 PM

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This is a very difficult situation... Your family obviously wants what is best for your but I have a hard time with ultimatums... do you 100% trust FH, does your family have any other reason to not want you two to be together, have you tried talking to them since? I have no idea what I would do in this situation... try taking a step back, separate yourself from the situation, what would you tell your sister/friend/etc to do?

M_Berk-Glenn Posted: Jun 22, 2009 08:13 PM

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My advice is to your family they should LOVE & SUPPORT you no matter what!

Even if you are making a mistake and he is not the man for you they should not put you in this situation! LOVE is unconditional that means they stand by you not put a stranger (sis friend) b4 you.

They should be here for YOU, even when things go wrong.

Time heals everything

drivwal Posted: Jun 22, 2009 09:00 PM

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I am so sorry that you are going through this! Remember that planning your wedding should be a happy time and if you love him, then I would go through with marrying him. You don't have to pick sides. Your family will be by your side at some point and if it takes a while then you have to have the patience to wait as long as it takes. Do not look at it as choosing sides. You are marrying the man you love and no one can tell you who that may be.
As for the 'he looked at me pervertedly' comment... I don't know your FH and I can't tell you if he were to look at anyone in that way but I do know this. If he were the type of person who would sneak a look at your sister while you are there, then there would be other signs that would go off like an alarm in your gut. If he did look at her, that would mean that he is quite a jerk but you would have other signs. You need to be serious and look at how he acts and try to remember if there were any times that you should take into consideration.
I am so sorry again. Listen to your heart but don't close your family off completely. They will come around. They love you and they won't want to be too far away from you forever.