Family Drama, need your advice
My FH's parents are in the middle of a divorce. Naturally, this makes for tense relations amongst his mother's and father's families.
We (me and FH) have gone out of our way to make sure that both sides are included, and that everyone got the message that we want this to be an amicable wedding.
Well, at my shower my FH's grandmother on his father's side was apparently very cold to MY mom AND MY stepmom. Which was weird b/c they had never even met before, and what does my family have to do with her? Also, my mom and stepmom didn't talk about htis amongst each other, so I feel like its come from 2 separate sources, and so I believe it to be true.
See the drama starting already?![]()
So I make the HUGE mistake of telling FH's mom that both my mom and stepmom mentioned to me, separately, that FH's grandmother on his father's side was cold to them.
I'll bet you can very easily guess what she did what that information.![]()
She calls FH's dad and yells at him and tells him that his mother really hurt my family's feelings (trust me, they got over it pretty fast) and that I was hurt, and FH was hurt (we were, but didn't intend for the world to know).
Soooo....the drama continues.....FH's dad asks FH to come out and talk to him last night. FH's dad apparently confronted his mother (FH's grandma) and asked her why she was so cold to my family. Of course she denied it and now SHE is upset. UGH!!!
Now this morning FH gets all mad at ME!!!!! for 'getting involved'. He is right, to a degree, because one lesson this has taught me is to NOT pass along ANYTHING to a couple in the middle of a divorce. They will throw all common sense out the window and use anythign they can against each other.
Then FH said his 'joy is gone' for the wedding.![]()
Because all the family drama is getting to him.
What can I do???? I know to stay out of his parents fights and NOT PASS ALONG anything anymore. But I feel so bad for FH. I want him to be excited, and happy, and most of all, I want his FAMILY TO BEHAVE!!! and keep FH's happiness in mind.![]()
We (me and FH) have gone out of our way to make sure that both sides are included, and that everyone got the message that we want this to be an amicable wedding.
Well, at my shower my FH's grandmother on his father's side was apparently very cold to MY mom AND MY stepmom. Which was weird b/c they had never even met before, and what does my family have to do with her? Also, my mom and stepmom didn't talk about htis amongst each other, so I feel like its come from 2 separate sources, and so I believe it to be true.
See the drama starting already?
So I make the HUGE mistake of telling FH's mom that both my mom and stepmom mentioned to me, separately, that FH's grandmother on his father's side was cold to them.
I'll bet you can very easily guess what she did what that information.
She calls FH's dad and yells at him and tells him that his mother really hurt my family's feelings (trust me, they got over it pretty fast) and that I was hurt, and FH was hurt (we were, but didn't intend for the world to know).
Soooo....the drama continues.....FH's dad asks FH to come out and talk to him last night. FH's dad apparently confronted his mother (FH's grandma) and asked her why she was so cold to my family. Of course she denied it and now SHE is upset. UGH!!!
Now this morning FH gets all mad at ME!!!!! for 'getting involved'. He is right, to a degree, because one lesson this has taught me is to NOT pass along ANYTHING to a couple in the middle of a divorce. They will throw all common sense out the window and use anythign they can against each other.
Then FH said his 'joy is gone' for the wedding.
What can I do???? I know to stay out of his parents fights and NOT PASS ALONG anything anymore. But I feel so bad for FH. I want him to be excited, and happy, and most of all, I want his FAMILY TO BEHAVE!!! and keep FH's happiness in mind.
