Family Drama *****UPDATE***** a little long
My step sister who I was once very close with left me a voice message yesterday at 11am (when she knows that I am working) saying that she can’t come to our wedding because she had to fix her car. She has known for over a year that I was getting married. I can totally relate to have financial difficulties but not to go to you sisters wedding? Everyone in my family tells me that that is just the way she is. But she made it to my brothers wedding a few years back. Plus back in May my parents offered to pay for her, her daughter (my niece) and her boyfriend to come. Because they knew how important it was to me that they are here. She declined. My feelings are really hurt by this. When we had our E-Party she called me to say she couldn’t come which that I understood. But she never even sent me a card. Am I asking too much? Should I just blow it off and cut her off since that is what it seems like she wants anyway?
UPDATE:
I called my sister explained to her how important it is to me that her and my niece are at our wedding and yeap it didn't go to well. She got defensive and asked me what she is supposed to do she doesn't have money and doesn't want to com efor my wedding and not give me a gift. I told her that her gift would be the two of them being here for me and FH. She said she couldn't come. And basically I should just deal with it. I asked her if I did something to upset her and why is she doing this since her and I both know that our parents would still pay even though it is going to be three times as much as it would have been in May when the initial offer was made. So here I was the bigger person and was shot down. So, it sort of turned into a fight and I asked her what she was hiding that she didn't want our family to know about and she said there is nothing to hide. If she had something to hide then she wouldn't have gone to VA last week to see her BF's family!!!!! So I told her that she can go see his family but not hers? She realized she slipped up and told me that I am cluess about everything! I told her she was a coward and if she doesn't show up for my wedding that our relationship is over. I will have 3 seats for her if she chooses to save this relationship and join the rest of our family for a great occasion.
Was I too hard on her? I kind of feel like I might have been but she really hurt me when she said she went to VA last week.....
Thanks for listening I really needed to get that off my chest! FH doesn't get it at all!!!
UPDATE:
I called my sister explained to her how important it is to me that her and my niece are at our wedding and yeap it didn't go to well. She got defensive and asked me what she is supposed to do she doesn't have money and doesn't want to com efor my wedding and not give me a gift. I told her that her gift would be the two of them being here for me and FH. She said she couldn't come. And basically I should just deal with it. I asked her if I did something to upset her and why is she doing this since her and I both know that our parents would still pay even though it is going to be three times as much as it would have been in May when the initial offer was made. So here I was the bigger person and was shot down. So, it sort of turned into a fight and I asked her what she was hiding that she didn't want our family to know about and she said there is nothing to hide. If she had something to hide then she wouldn't have gone to VA last week to see her BF's family!!!!! So I told her that she can go see his family but not hers? She realized she slipped up and told me that I am cluess about everything! I told her she was a coward and if she doesn't show up for my wedding that our relationship is over. I will have 3 seats for her if she chooses to save this relationship and join the rest of our family for a great occasion.
Was I too hard on her? I kind of feel like I might have been but she really hurt me when she said she went to VA last week.....
Thanks for listening I really needed to get that off my chest! FH doesn't get it at all!!!
