Family Vent

My parents havent been together since I was 7yrs old. This never bothered me bcuz they were always a phone call away. I spent equal time with them, the both raised me!

As of late they having been going at one another non stop. Last night it was like WWIII! They have been putting me in the middle of ALL their issues and it sux! My dad calls me to tell me he HATES my mother & doesnt want anything to do with her ever! He asked me to push up the wedding so he will never have to speak to her! (He willing to pay the difference for date & venue changes *sigh*). My mom called me while he was on the on the other line to have her table moved so she doesnt have to look at him *sigh*. I feel like the kid who parents just announced their divorce. Ive been crying all nigh. Im emotinally worn out and dont know what to do.

The worst part is my 5yr old lil brother is going to suffer the most! They are being completely SELFISH. I feel so much pain for my him. He told me last night 'Im not little anymore and I know when ppl are fighting & not talking!' and it brought tears to my eyes bcuz he shouldnt have to be subjected to their selfish bull$hit! I tried talking to both of them but they wont listen...I dont know what else to do. My brother deserves to have his parents be civil & respectful to one another especially when their around him.

Sounds like FH's situation... they were separated for a long time... and then FH's little brother came.... Theres 16 years between them... its such a tough situation... FH and I have been better parents to him than they have... the cirucumstances are different in that they just arent capable of taking care of him the way he should be... but the fighting and being civil is something that he is used to...

i am soo sorry you are going through this, with the wedding planning and everything this is one thing u shouldnt have to deal with. I hope it all works out for you are you thinking of moving your date and venue?

sorry their bishing like crazy i would tell them all to chill out for your sake and your brothers, your wedding is not meant to pull your family apart, just let them know that if they were civil with eachother once they certainly can be again

i'm so sorry you're going through this i'm sure they just need some time to calm down, and then they'll be able to hear what you're saying. i assume your 5 yr old brother is not both of theirs?

Sorry you have to go through this!

Hopefully they will see how selfish they are being and this will pass. Just hold your head up and focus on your brother, not so much your parents. They are adults and they can take care of themselves. That's what I told my parents when they split and tried to get us in the middle. They made their decision so now they have to deal with it, and leave my brother and I out of it. Good luck and I hope everything works out!

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Posted by FutureMrsSoltan

i am soo sorry you are going through this, with the wedding planning and everything this is one thing u shouldnt have to deal with. I hope it all works out for you are you thinking of moving your date and venue?

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When FH & I decided to get married we said we would do city hall. My dad wanted a huge wedding so we settled on something in bet the two. I joked with FH this past Aug abt still going to cityhall & not tell anyone....now I wish we did!
At this point Im going to go through with our origninal plans...I really dont know what Im going to do. My heads spinning

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Posted by es2189

i'm so sorry you're going through this i'm sure they just need some time to calm down, and then they'll be able to hear what you're saying. i assume your 5 yr old brother is not both of theirs?

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Crazy enough my brother is both of theirs
They were civil for me...I want them to do the same for him. He should have happy childhood memories of them.