Favors vs. donation

mnucci Posted: Jan 28, 2007 07:28 PM

Favors vs. donation

Hi Everyone! I'm not sure what to do about favors. I work for a school for autism, and I was thinking about making a donation in all my guests names instead of giving out favors. So the money that would go towards the favors would go to the school instead. But I am afraid my guests would prefer to walk away from the wedding with a favor. What do you think?

ant n tilde Posted: Jan 28, 2007 07:35 PM

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i absolutely love that idea and i would definitely appreciate a donation favor if i were one of your guests - especially sinve my nephew is autistic!

for my guests however, i feel like our traditional italian families appreciate an actual favor so its important for me to to give one out

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Jan 28, 2007 07:38 PM

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I think doing both is a nice option.
From how i look at donating money, this is something that can be done all year long, and doesnt need to be something that everyone knows you do. When i donate i like to keep it private. Sometimes it annoys me how people have to make sure everyone knows they donated money to a cause.

I also like to walk away from an event with something, wether it be a nick nack, or a piece of chocolate, or a tin of mints. Its nice to have something to remember the event.

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Jan 28, 2007 07:38 PM

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We're doing 2 pear shape cookies, in a cellephane bag, a homemade c-d in a goodie bag, w/ a scroll saying that we donated $$ to x Chairty,

Jasonsgirl Posted: Jan 28, 2007 07:40 PM

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That is an awesome idea!!!

mnucci Posted: Jan 28, 2007 07:41 PM

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Yes our families are italian also, and my mom totally shot down the donation idea. So I just wanted to see what other brides thought.
I also agree about the idea that donations are a private thing....I'm still confused!

Autumn08 Posted: Jan 28, 2007 07:42 PM

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You could say that a donation has been made on a card and attach it to chocolate or another small favor.

Snowflake08 Posted: Jan 28, 2007 07:58 PM

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sorry, i am not fond of the donation idea, unless you are saying 'no gifts' and donating $$

in terms of favors, i would rather get none, than something useless or silly (Ive gotten plenty of those)

i like edible favors

MissMath Posted: Jan 28, 2007 08:00 PM

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my family is very italian also and the donation thing got shot down real fast. I say just give a favor that is practical and not too over the top. You can get facors for 1 - 2 dollars online. Do the work yourself and it can be cheap.

Ilovebriani Posted: Jan 28, 2007 11:19 PM

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i think the donation idea is nice as well. you dont have to tell them how much you donated either, it is just a nice gesture.

ZeppsGirl Posted: Jan 28, 2007 11:22 PM

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

I think doing both is a nice option.
From how i look at donating money, this is something that can be done all year long, and doesnt need to be something that everyone knows you do. When i donate i like to keep it private. Sometimes it annoys me how people have to make sure everyone knows they donated money to a cause.

I also like to walk away from an event with something, wether it be a nick nack, or a piece of chocolate, or a tin of mints. Its nice to have something to remember the event.

What about a tin of mints that drop on the floor???? LOL

Kidding Nicole. i was happy to meet you but I turned and you were gone...I was trying to dodge that Home Depot/ Mortgage Lady.

Ill probably see you again...I am trying to whore around these bridal showcases also!

Skeeter Posted: Jan 28, 2007 11:32 PM

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We are doing a donation.FH's grandfather just passed away so we are going to donate to a charity in his name. Both sides were ok with this.

snowcutie82 Posted: Jan 28, 2007 11:43 PM

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Posted by Skeeter

We are doing a donation.FH's grandfather just passed away so we are going to donate to a charity in his name. Both sides were ok with this.

same as what we're doing. ffil passed away and in his memory we are donating to acs on behalf of the guests. fmil will really appreciate this, as will our guests. but we're still doing regular (edible) favors of some sort and/or something candy related b/c we both love it.

Ana and Darryl Posted: Jan 28, 2007 11:51 PM

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We are doing a Donation to the American Diabetes assoc. since both our mothers and other relatives are diabetic. Its hard to choose but like many people say sometimes favors are disposed of and mean nothing to many. we will give min and small chocolate favors along with the scroll saying we donated on their behalf (no total amount indicated) .

ShanonandSteve Posted: Jan 28, 2007 11:53 PM

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we havent officially decided on favors..

but i was thinking of doing a donation and adding a small favor, like candy or something.

just a little something that people will take home.

we got engaged in hershey,pennsylvania - so i was thinking hershey kisses.

Julybride08 Posted: Jan 29, 2007 09:29 AM

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I love the idea of a donation favor. I was thinking about doing this also!

BubbasBride Posted: Jan 29, 2007 10:04 AM

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I will be doing donations (we both lost our fathers to specific causes)

i will most likely add to it something edible. Of course, i'm sure this won't go over smoothly with everybody, but it's something i feel pretty strongly about.