Favors - what's the limit

Original post by Shmar

Feb 12, 2007 08:20 AM

Ok, so I have a dilema. What are you spending on your favors?

I was planning on getting olive oil bottles, creating my own bread dipping oil flavor, and filling the bottle with it. I thought it was a great original idea that everyone can enjoy. However, my FMIL thinks it's too cheap! AND, she tells me I can't give something that cheap to people, 'especially her family'. Can you believe that!

So I ask you, what are you spending on favors.....per couple?

Please Help!

Thumballina Posted: Feb 12, 2007 01:06 PM

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I don't think thats cheap at all...I like it - and its useful...I hate getting favors that I can't use...its your wedding - go with what you like

Kerrycec Posted: Feb 12, 2007 01:13 PM

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I like that idea.

We spent around $4.25 per couple

myranscott Posted: Feb 12, 2007 01:39 PM

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Why don't you make a sample and show her. She might be envisioning something cheap while you are envisioning something classy .

Mooshyboo Posted: Feb 12, 2007 01:51 PM

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I like that fact that you are making it personal by I making the oil ~ I would much rather have that than something I just put on a shelf... I LOVE your favor idea.... You put thought into + u as the bride are taking time to MAKE the oil to go in the bottles ~ that is AWESOME! I would go with what your heart is telling u... sorry you are going through these stresses!

CourtandJon Posted: Feb 12, 2007 05:04 PM

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Why don't you make a sample and show her. She might be envisioning something cheap while you are envisioning something classy .

Thats a good idea! Maybe she just cant picture it?? I think it's GREAT idea!!!
We are giving a donation to breast cancer in everyone's name. We couldn't come up with a good favor and figured we couldn't go wrong with that.

I say do those favors anyway- they sound great! And it's YOUR wedding.. not hers!

chatxleau24 Posted: Feb 12, 2007 05:06 PM

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Real cute idea.

Personally I dont understand why we MUST give favors. Maybe I am cheap, but I'm paying $150+ per plate inviting my guests for a lovely dinner, drinks, dancing etc.

Most will give gifts - prob covering their plate - so in MY MIND - i think we (my guests and I ) would be even - WITHOUT FAVORS!!!!

My mom and FMIL both say I MUST hand out favors. I think I might just have to purchase two wedding gowns, put em on both moms and have THEM do this - since it seems to be THEIR wedding!!

I THINK YOUR IDEA IS CREATIVE AND YOUR GUESTS SHOULD BE HAPPY THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO BUY THEM DINNER AND HAVE THEM JOIN YOU ON YOUR SPECIAL DAY!!!

faithandkevin Posted: Feb 12, 2007 05:25 PM

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I'm spending $5 per couple but would go cheaper if my mom would let me.
I think you FMIL is really insulting shooting your idea down like that. I think it's a great idea.

sarahthegreat Posted: Feb 12, 2007 06:07 PM

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why is that cheap?? i don't get it. it's not my thing, but i think its a good idea. don't listen to your fmil when it comes to stuff like this. she'll make you nuts and you don't need someone like that.

madseason Posted: Feb 12, 2007 06:39 PM

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Personally... I think your idea is touching and beautiful and creative!!

And I thought i was the only one who wants to toss FMIL out the window!! How dare she say that its cheap...its not her place to say anything!!

madseason Posted: Feb 12, 2007 06:41 PM

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Posted by chatxleau24

Real cute idea.

Personally I dont understand why we MUST give favors. Maybe I am cheap, but I'm paying $150+ per plate inviting my guests for a lovely dinner, drinks, dancing etc.

Most will give gifts - prob covering their plate - so in MY MIND - i think we (my guests and I ) would be even - WITHOUT FAVORS!!!!

My mom and FMIL both say I MUST hand out favors. I think I might just have to purchase two wedding gowns, put em on both moms and have THEM do this - since it seems to be THEIR wedding!!

I THINK YOUR IDEA IS CREATIVE AND YOUR GUESTS SHOULD BE HAPPY THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO BUY THEM DINNER AND HAVE THEM JOIN YOU ON YOUR SPECIAL DAY!!!

DITTO!!!

tricia3381 Posted: Feb 12, 2007 07:02 PM

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i love that idea!! tell her to keep her money.

MattandTricia07 Posted: Feb 12, 2007 07:06 PM

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IMO that is a pretty good amount of money to spend on favors...we purchased around 250 favors, which are all different kinds of ornaments for a little less than $1 a piece (went out the day after Christmas) But we still have to get the packaging for them and personalized ribbon.

E and B123 Posted: Feb 12, 2007 07:17 PM

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i think it is a great idea....its useful and personal...I wish I was as creative...

JeanetteandSteve Posted: Feb 12, 2007 08:07 PM

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i think everyone would love the fact that you put your own hard work into it and that it really came from YOU!!

you could easily have spent $$ and ordered something. this is something you're spending time and effort on making.

i think that was a really rude thing for her to say.

mbg1007 Posted: Feb 12, 2007 08:39 PM

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My friend did that for her wedding, everyone loved it and they looked great. your fmil needs to get a grip

MikeandJess Posted: Feb 12, 2007 08:41 PM

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Tell her she's allowed to have an opinion when she pays for the favors. I personally think that's an adorable idea and it's definitely something I would use.

N.Y.bride Posted: Feb 12, 2007 08:47 PM

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In all honesty I believe you dont have to do favors at all. Like I said just IMO we spend enough at our weddings. Yes people come long ways and yes they usually give us a gift, but they come to see us get married. I honestly dont think many people will care if they get a favor or not. Ill be honest - If its not edible I dont keep it. To me its a waste of money. If you really want to do something - how about a donation? Your MIL shouldnt say anything negative about that.

I hope you dont take this the wrong way at all, as I really am just trying to help. I wouldnt worry too much about it.

Summer07Bride Posted: Feb 12, 2007 09:49 PM

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Your idea is perfect.

rojerono Posted: Feb 13, 2007 06:57 AM

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Cheap???

Tell your FMIL that the favor is just a little something .. that you are paying over 100/pp for their FOOD. That you are paying to ENTERTAIN them with a DJ/Band. That you are paying for a photographer to take pictures that you can send as a Thank You.

I am spending 3/each on my favors. I am not spending more. After all the money I have spent trying to make sure that my guests enjoy their time at the wedding they had better NOT expect more or complain about my cheap favors!