Hi ladies! As some of you may already know, I had some drama with the FBIL this past weekend. In relation to that whole thing, I just thought of something this a.m. that is worrying me...
I DO NOT want her in our pix...and that's going to be a big deal, I just know it. My thing is, a cuz of mine did that a few years ago & now her brother's ex GF is all over their wedding pix & she totally regrets it. My FBIL has been with this girl for about 5 years (they've been friends for over 10) & he plans on proposing next summer, but they've had A LOT of SERIOUS probs this past year & even though she's stuck around through a lot of stuff, there's no guaranteeing that she won't hit her point soon & just walk away. I haven't discussed this with the FH yet because I'm not even sure if I should bring it up or not. Do you think having her in some shots & then asking her to step out for others with just the family would be insulting? (I have a feeling that she'll be REALLY insulted no matter what though) Are any of you in a similar situation and, if so, could you please let me know how you decided to deal with it? Thanks!
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I'm actually ok with including her in some, but I don't want her in all of them. I think in the end I'll just be doing what everyone pretty much recommended: have the photographer be the bad guy by demanding family & spouses ONLY first & then let him add her in to the later pix. Thank you everyone for your advice!!
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Please refer to my answer in first post! That girl sounds like a real treat!
Here is what I would do, since Miss Prissy Pants (that is now her name) will throw a sh&t fit-do a group of pics with blood only, and then do a few with her and him...this way if they do break up, you are not left without any nice pics of FH's family (because who is going to want to look at Miss Prissy Pants)! I think that is fair enough! And this way, you will avoid extra drama, because you can say we will do half with and half without.
And if she complains, give her a box of crayons (with a sharpener, because your wouldn't want her to complain when one broke), some paper, and tell her to write an essay entitled 'All About Me', then give her a disposable camera so someone can take tons of pics of just her. Then she can make a scrapbook all by herself about herself, who is in her mind, the most important person EVER!!! From what I hear, this should make her very happy!
And as for you? You enjoy your day and let no one steal your sunshine, and your only concern is to have fun!
Mich0621
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Posted by PegaLega
If its going to cause more drama that day...do some with and do some without her. When DHs sister got married last year this is how they did it-and my feeling werent hurt at all b/c I knew come my wedding I wouldnt want her husband in all my pictures either
Peggie, I just had to ask....how did you manage a whole WEEK without changing your avatar! I felt your frustration by the end of last week! Beautiful choice of avatar btw!
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I would ask for her to be in some pics, like 1 or 2 and then not the rest. GL!
ABSOLUTELY......When I was still the GF at my SIL's wedding, they had about half a dozen family pics with me in them, and then they also had some w/o me. We all knew that we would eventually get married, but those pics were just for immediate family. It was easy b/c my husband was the only sibling.
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And if she complains, give her a box of crayons (with a sharpener, because your wouldn't want her to complain when one broke), some paper, and tell her to write an essay entitled 'All About Me', then give her a disposable camera so someone can take tons of pics of just her. Then she can make a scrapbook all by herself about herself, who is in her mind, the most important person EVER!!! From what I hear, this should make her very happy!
Miss Prissy Pants
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Posted by MissAngel
Hi ladies! As some of you may already know, I had some drama with the FBIL this past weekend. In relation to that whole thing, I just thought of something this a.m. that is worrying me...
I DO NOT want her in our pix...and that's going to be a big deal, I just know it. My thing is, a cuz of mine did that a few years ago & now her brother's ex GF is all over their wedding pix & she totally regrets it. My FBIL has been with this girl for about 5 years (they've been friends for over 10) & he plans on proposing next summer, but they've had A LOT of SERIOUS probs this past year & even though she's stuck around through a lot of stuff, there's no guaranteeing that she won't hit her point soon & just walk away. I haven't discussed this with the FH yet because I'm not even sure if I should bring it up or not. Do you think having her in some shots & then asking her to step out for others with just the family would be insulting? (I have a feeling that she'll be REALLY insulted no matter what though) Are any of you in a similar situation and, if so, could you please let me know how you decided to deal with it? Thanks!
I have a few BIL's and the one with a string of GF's wanted to bring his flavor of the month. We dealt with it by NOT INVITING HER She still is upset til this day but I could care less.
What is with her sense of entitlement for YOUR wedding? I don't get it. If you want to try to keep the peace, make the photographer the bad guy as suggested above. But just know that she is probably the type to make a scene and look to you to say it's okay to let her into the shots.
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Tell you photographer outright that she can be in 1-2 pics. Explain that you don't want her in them, period!! I'm sure he can work around it. GL!
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I told my DH to tell his mother and brother that his GF was under no circumstances to ride in the limo, take pictures or even be with the BP as we were taking pictures. She is not part of the family and who knows how long she will be around for...Also I just don't like her
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to keep the peace..id allow her to be in some a few. But then the rest keep her out. The ones shes in...dont have to go in ur album.
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This happened at my sisters wedding with my cousins fiance at the time. My suggestion is put her in a couple of family pictures and put her on the end that way it is easier to cut her out if things do go south.
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What is with her sense of entitlement for YOUR wedding?
That is a VERY good question!! I wish I knew the answer Like many ladies on LIW, I've had enough & I'm ready for the wedding to be over & for the honeymoon to begin!!
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And if she complains, give her a box of crayons (with a sharpener, because your wouldn't want her to complain when one broke), some paper, and tell her to write an essay entitled 'All About Me', then give her a disposable camera so someone can take tons of pics of just her. Then she can make a scrapbook all by herself about herself, who is in her mind, the most important person EVER!!! From what I hear, this should make her very happy!
OMG Michelle!! You always make me laugh! That is awesome From now on my FH & I will seriously be calling her Miss Prissy Pants - it just fits SOOOOO well!
